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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:25 AM   1
winterbabies3
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So, after finding out for sure yesterday that I was 8 weeks pregnant, whos the first person you tell? Your bff! And what does she say, "omg" and then 10 mins later, "I'm happy for you." well it doesnt sound it! And thats all she has said.....mind you this has happened before when my husband and i got a house, showed little to no excitment! Now here i am wondering if i should go through and be her maid or honor for her wedding! I just feel like she isn't really interested in anything GOOD that happens in my life. Would you be upset if that's all your bff said?



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:28 AM   2
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Could she be jealous?



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:32 AM   3
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She has 2 kids and planning a wedding and has a house that she is buying off her grandparents...i just dont know what she would be jealous of.



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:38 AM   4
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Thatís so strange. Especially since looking at your signature she should be much more supportive considering your past history.
I wouldnít be happy either, but donít let her put a downer on your happy news.
Iíd personally distance myself, let her make the effort x



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:41 AM   5
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And she has been there for every single one of those losses and births! Yes, this baby was a surprise, no, we were not trying, but its still another baby in the family that she has been called auntie to the others! I just dont get it. Thanks for the advice



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 07:50 AM   6
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Maybe she’s worried about you, because of everything you’ve been through and doesn’t want you to be hurt again? Plus it sounds like she has a lot of her own stuff going on. She was surprised, and then said she was happy for you - I think that sounds like a good reaction. Im a little worried about telling my bff as I’m her maid of honor next year and I’m worried about how we’ll sort out my dress with a growing bump, and also she’s going to have a (possibly screaming) baby I’m going to be dealing with at her wedding, rather than her being my main focus. Maybe she was thinking those things too? I will understand if she’s upset a bit, because I know she’ll also be really happy for me.
Anyway, congratulations!



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 08:53 AM   7
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How soon is her wedding? Maybe she's concerned about whether or not you'd fit into a dress? I remember how I felt when one of my bridesmaid got a boob job!



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 09:19 AM   8
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^that was my friendís concern! I found out I was due only 4 weeks after one of my best friends wedding. When I ordered the dress I had to order the biggest size because I had no idea how big I would be. She didnít sound too excited but everything worked out.

This time around she also didnít sound so thrilled because she is currently having a hard time conceiving. Which at the time I didnít know, she was keeping it to herself.



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 10:59 AM   9
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I think itís jealousy. Sadly people can be like that even if they have really good things going on in their own lives. And winterbabies said that this isnít the only time this has happened. Sheís been like this for other big things that have happened in her life as well.

Personally Iím very excited for you!!!



 
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Old Feb 15th, 2018, 13:44 PM   10
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It could be that maybe she is ttc, or has been for a while, and is jealous, but not in a horrible way? If she has been ttc or even ntnp, to find out someone else has it happen so easily is such a kick in the teeth - I speak from experience. Doesnít mean you arenít happy for them, it just hurts your own heart too



 
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