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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 03:10 AM   11
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My partner was like that with tbis pregnancy. Our son was only 8 months when I fell and I was on the pill. He wanted me to get rid but I just couldnt. He is now at 20 weeks slowly getting to terms with it although keeps reminding me it will be hard but at least he isn't igrnoing it xx fingers crossed



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 08:41 AM   12
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I hope he will come round



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 11:33 AM   13
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Iím due the 11th November,these past few days have been awful heís barely spoke to me or looked at me,we are just going round in circles arguing about it 😔



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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 11:44 AM   14
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Has he said he would want you to terminate? I'm sorry your in this position and I hope like others have said it just takes time for him to come around



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 16:41 PM   15
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He hasn’t said those exact words but he’s made it pretty clear,we are up our caravan for the weekend and has been saying things like ‘look how relaxing this is why have you got to change it’ and people running around after there babies ‘is this what you want again’ I just said look it’s happening so there’s no point trying to put me of.hes also saying I trapped him even though I keep saying I made it clear I came of the pill 4 months ago and u decided to have unprotected sex with me,but no it’s all my fault ��



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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 16:46 PM   16
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Glong88 I really hope so I asked him maybe when baby gets here he will love it just as much as our boys.his response was I won’t hate it duno if il love it though that broke my heart,it will be lovley for you having ur 2 youngest close in age they will be do close growing up x



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Old Mar 9th, 2018, 20:55 PM   17
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He hasnít said those exact words but heís made it pretty clear,we are up our caravan for the weekend and has been saying things like Ďlook how relaxing this is why have you got to change ití and people running around after there babies Ďis this what you want againí I just said look itís happening so thereís no point trying to put me of.hes also saying I trapped him even though I keep saying I made it clear I came of the pill 4 months ago and u decided to have unprotected sex with me,but no itís all my fault ��
Rights and wrongs on both sides. But if he's adamant he did NOT want more children even though you came off the Pill he should have either not had unprotected sex, used a condom or had a snip. He will love it regardless. If it helps, though different situation, I came off BC when DS3 was 6 months expecting it was going to take 6 months to conceive. Hubby knew about it but we'd talked about a sibling close in age for DS3. Needless to say, I fell pregnant before I even had a period. We think I must have fallen pregnant in the first couple of weeks coming off the Pill. It was a heck of a shock as we were not expecting it so soon but we got our head around it. Like I said, it's a different situation for you but I'm sure he's not as heartless a jerk as his comment sounds.



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2018, 02:11 AM   18
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Mine reacted as bad, maybe even worse, with our third. We had a shock chemical and I had an IUD put in straight afterwards and got pregnant again with the damn thing in.

He accused me of pretending to get the IUD, we actually had a termination booked but then he couldn't handle the idea so we cancelled the day before.

He ignored the entire pregnancy. We got along fine etc and weren't hostile after we decided to keep the baby. He just never mentioned her once. However, the minute Emma arrived he cried, and I have only seen him cry mayns twice in 16 years. Totally fell in love with her. He has spent the most time with her as a baby and toddler and she's a huge daddies girl.

I hope you have a happy ending xoxo



 
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Old Mar 10th, 2018, 02:28 AM   19
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Mine reacted as bad, maybe even worse, with our third. We had a shock chemical and I had an IUD put in straight afterwards and got pregnant again with the damn thing in.
OMG minties, this is what scares me! I'm booked to have the IUD put in on March 22nd and I have heard of so many woman falling pregnant on it. While me and the kids father may not be together at the moment, I'm not going to tell him to p**s off if he wants a shag. But it does put me in the position of trying to convince him baby is his if I was to fall pregnant. I'm not interested in anyone else which he knows but I know that question would come up because we are not currently together and that's what breaks my heart.



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2018, 05:00 AM   20
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My boyfriend has totally abandoned me too. I have been completely miserable. I had quit smoking and picked it back up. I know how horrible it is... But im losing my mind. I usually take xannax for anxiety and obviously can't have that. Not a drink not a pill not a single thing available to ease the pain. Im hoping he will come around but im not hopeful. The thing that kills me is he is such a good dad. He already has 2 and he is amazing with them. He has them fulltime and the mothers are both pieces of work... Brings them both to and picks them up from school every day. Does their homework. Takes them everywhere with him. Another problem is his son hates me. Not that he knows me... His POS mom just has him convinced that I am the devil. She is seriously crazy. And he is devastated. So worried he will lose his son over this.

I even offered to terminate early on, even though I didn't want anything to do with it. I could see how against this he was and thought it may be for the best. But I told him I would need help. Support. And he never did it. So now... Here we are.

I barely eat. I've lost weight since my first Dr appointment. I thought I was over the morning sickness but this week it has returned with avengence. I can't seem to connect with baby... As hard as I try. I just can't get over the feeling that this situation is going to ruin our relationship. Its not like we are one night stands... We have been together for 9 years. Saving for a home together. Making plans... I feel like my life has been turned upside down. I call him stalker style, begging for any type of support or attention. I've lost my freaking mind. This is SO not me. I have the urge to be so incredibly spiteful... But I love him too much for that. I've been falling asleep around 9-10pm and waking up around 3-4am for the day. I have no energy. This is the true definition of heartbreak.

This week has been the hardest. I am going to ask my Dr about going on Zoloft or something to help. I haaaaaate taking meds... That's how far I've lost it.

Im about 3 months and haven't told anyone but a few of my closest girlfriends. I hide in my house. I am extremely close with my family and have been purposely picking fights with them so I don't have to show up to family functions. The worst part is, I've been HUGE since around 8 weeks just popped. Ive already had to buy new clothes and bras... And they are still so uncomfortable.

So... Im sorry I don't have any advice. But if it makes you feel any better... It appears as im in a much worse position than you are... I don't even know if my baby will have a father.



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