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Old May 21st, 2018, 06:12 AM   11
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This is my biggest pet hate!! Someone stealing your news!
I have purposely only told my mum and dad and mother and father in law (havnt told grandparents purely for this news of the world thing &#128580



 
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Old May 21st, 2018, 06:38 AM   12
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You have every right to be upset! I'm so sorry she told people your news



 
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Old May 21st, 2018, 08:25 AM   13
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Same thing happened to me with our first. SO's mother told everyone. This one, she was the last to know. Sucks to be her, but we don't put up with that nonsense.

She also showed up when I was in labor despite being specifically told not to. Guess who's not going to know the baby is coming until after he's here?



 
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Old May 21st, 2018, 13:11 PM   14
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This is exactly why my husband's parents don't know yet. (Mine either). Only my mother and best friend. (Dad is remarried.) His parents would tell us they won't tell anyone.. but they love gossip. I guarantee they'd tell his siblings. So we're waiting until 12 weeks to tell everyone. I wish it wasn't like that.. but with my first baby.. his dad posted the first picture of my son on Facebook for the world to see. I wasn't happy about that. WE should have posted his first picture.



 
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Old May 21st, 2018, 14:30 PM   15
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Oh I would be fuming!!!! People have no respect.. excited or not, itís no ones news except the couples! And like it or not, I call the shots of when people know (and hubby is totally supportive about that) after have two miscarriages I know how it feels to have to go back round to those people telling them the heartache youíre going through and itís horrible. I donít think youíre over reacting at all. Even my friends who have never miscarried before are picky with who they tell and when they tell xxx



 
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Old May 26th, 2018, 11:30 AM   16
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Hi Phantom! I remember you from my first pregnancy! How are you, other than this drama?

Ugh I would be LIVID! That is NOT ok. My MIL is similar and it makes me hesitant to tell her. We were going to this weekend (despite it being super early) but I am worried she is going to spill the beans. She did last time, was telling everyone on my SIL & BIL's wedding but fortunately it was people I didn't really care about. Still, it was their wedding and I felt like the timing was odd. I had people coming up and congratulating me all day at someone else's wedding (also at the rehearsal dinner).



 
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Old May 29th, 2018, 20:19 PM   17
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I would be fuming!
My mother did that to me with my first pregnancy, told her not to tell anyone until I'd had my scan and that I wanted to be the one to announce it to family.

I had people at work coming up to me asking me 'how I was feeling' and winking at me. Her reason was 'I just got excited', yeah, so was I mum, thanks for stealing it from me! Then I miscarried at 11 weeks, I had people coming up to me all the time rubbing my belly and asking how I was, because she'd blabbed to everyone I was pregnant but couldn't bring herself to tell everyone I miscarried; it was so hard to say 'well, actually...' to everyone and make them feel terrible. It's the last thing you need!

She completely ruined it for me and it was a lot harder to heal.

So I completely get where you're coming from, I'm not going to even tell her we're trying this time!

So sorry you're going through it, it's horrible. Did you at least get to tell YOUR parents yourself? She didn't phone them too did she?...

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Old May 29th, 2018, 20:26 PM   18
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Sparky that story breaks my heart Belly rubs are my biggest pet peeve, can't imagine how that would feel. I am so sorry you went through that. I hope this time around the experience is everything you hope for!



 
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Old May 29th, 2018, 20:29 PM   19
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Sparky that story breaks my heart Belly rubs are my biggest pet peeve, can't imagine how that would feel. I am so sorry you went through that. I hope this time around the experience is everything you hope for!
Awww you're sweet, thank you for saying so, it's horrible to go through; I'm just blessed I only had to go through it once. It's the people who suffer continuous losses I feel for.

The worst part was it was either people being enthusiastic, or avoiding me completely because they didn't know what to say.



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 14:51 PM   20
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I'm so sorry for your loss sparky mum X luckily her and my family live about 100 miles apart and only contact each other through me and my partner X I think I remember you giggle box X yea I'm good thank you am with a new partner X have a little boy from previous relationship X Just bought our first home so a lot has changed X How are you ? X



 
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