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Old May 30th, 2018, 09:34 AM   1
emzilouu
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Depression in pregnancy. PLEASE HELP!!!


This may be a very touchy subject so I apologise in advance e but I really need help. I have really bad depression and anxiety, Iíve suffered since I had my son 6 years a go and was put on antidepressants because of post natal depression. Doctors have had me on and off them since. I was in a really really good place when I was pregnant with my daughter (4 years a go) but was put back on them just before me and my ex husband split in 2015 after a suicide attempt (told you it was a touchy subject) after that I finally had the balls to leave my ex husband (my childrenís dad) and my life went up and up from there. Iíve been on them since but doctors took me off them in August last year because I was in an amazing place mentally and physically. I was put back on them in February because my mental health took a turn for the worst and everything has been amazing since ive had that bit of extra help from my medication. Iím in a relationship and heís truly my best friend and we found out last week I was expecting a baby together. We are absolutely overjoyed and so excited! BUT my mental health hasnít been amazing lately and to be told I have to stop my medication cold turkey has really took its toll. Obviously I have because I donít want any harm coming to my little spud but today itís really hit me hard. Iíve been trying to keep positive but Iíve been sat in my car in a car park for the past 3 hours after walking out of my dads after he shouted at me for something work related (I work for my dad and Iím my mums full time carer also) Iíve been ignoring all calls and texts and itís safe to say everyone is worried which I feel awful about but I just donít feel like I can talk to anyone right now. Iíve sent a few texts to my boyfriend saying Iím ok but thatís it. Iíve cried so much since Iíve been sat here. I just donít know what to do. Iíve had all the thoughts of I wish I wasnít here etc I seriously just canít cope right now. Iíve tried calling my doctors but they are shut. I really need someone to talk to just to tell me it will be ok and give me a push in the right direction. Iím hurting so much 💔💔



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 09:49 AM   2
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Didn't want to R and R... I don't suffer from depression, but I do have anxiety. Sadly, the hormones from pregnancy tend to make everything much more intense and there's not much you can do except remind yourself it's in your head that is not right, not necessarily everyone else. The first trimester seems the worst for emotions. I am there with you feeling like crap sometimes. I hope it passes for you soon... your bf is there for you and that matters a lot. I don't know what I'd do without my husband as he's also my best friend. I hope you can get some relief soon



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 10:04 AM   3
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Hi! I'm sorry you are going through this. I know pregnant women can be on antidepressants during pregnancy but i'm sure the kind and dosage needs to be discussed with a doctor. My best friend was on them the whole way through her pregnancy and has a happy, healthy baby girl. I do believe it was a reduced dose. Is this something you can discuss with your doctor, finding something pregnancy safe? (I'm not suggesting you take anything on your own without doctor's orders.)
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Old May 30th, 2018, 10:10 AM   4
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I'm a strong advocate for taking anti-depressants before, DURING, and after pregnancy. My doctor put me on AD's during my last pregnancy because of a very unfortunate situation I was put in and it was my lifesaver.

Please talk to your OB about restarting a new regimen. There are always going to be risks, but I firmly believe a mentally healthy mama is what is most important. And please do not allow any future doctors to take you off of them just because you are doing well. When you are doing well, the pills are doing their job! There is a difference between seasonal/situational depression (which is what I had), and prolonged depression. In my case, I was off of them within 2 years. In yours, you may need them long term and there is NOTHING wrong with that.



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 10:12 AM   5
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I agree that you need to speak with a medical provider as soon as possible. There are antidepressants that are acceptable to take during pregnancy. There is always a risk-benefit analysis to consider, and any minor risl to the developing fetus is likely to be outweighed to the benefits of being carried by a mother who is mentally and physically able to function. Give yourself credit for recognizing what is happening with you, and please allow your family/boyfriend/friends to care for and support you while you get this sorted out.



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 13:09 PM   6
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I hope you've been able to get through the doctors to get an appointment. Just knowing your going to get to talk to someone about management can be a relief.

I hope sharing here helped a little bit, and if you get a chance let us know how you're doing. I know it's so scary going through those panicked shut-downs



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 13:18 PM   7
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 07:28 AM   8
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Hey ladies sorry I kind of shut myself off from the world since Wednesday. I couldn’t get a doctors appt so hoping they can get me in Monday or Tuesday before I go away. Life has been pretty crap since then so I’m kind of desperate at the moment.
Letting it all out here gave me some relief but didn’t help completely.
Will let you know if docs get me in Monday



 
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Old Jun 2nd, 2018, 07:49 AM   9
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Hey ladies sorry I kind of shut myself off from the world since Wednesday. I couldnít get a doctors appt so hoping they can get me in Monday or Tuesday before I go away. Life has been pretty crap since then so Iím kind of desperate at the moment.
Letting it all out here gave me some relief but didnít help completely.
Will let you know if docs get me in Monday
Hang in there! You've been through this before so you know it gets better



 
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