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Old May 30th, 2018, 18:45 PM   1
dizzy65
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Telling other children about pregnancy?


How do you announced to the older children that you are having a baby and what time would be best to tell them? I have a 8 year old and 5 year old!



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 19:08 PM   2
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Hello! Congratulations on your pregnancy

I personally would wait until after the 3 month scan. I have a 6 year old who is desperate for a baby brother or sister, we have decided to try but we haven't told her we are planning another baby! We are going to surprise her once we are out of the 'danger zone'.

It's different for every kid, but she knows about my miscarriage before she was born and gets upset about it bless her. Wouldn't want her to go through that.

So for me personally I'd wait until we knew we were safe, but your kids have experienced new additions before so they will be more used to it

How would you tell them? We're gonna do a treasure hunt for her or something



 
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Old May 30th, 2018, 23:46 PM   3
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I'm definitely going to wait tell after the first scan and probably tell I'm at least 13 or so weeks just so it's a bit less risky. Though I might have my youngest come into the first scan with me so we'll see!

I'm not sure how I want to tell them, maybe just showing them the ultrasound and explaining that there's a baby in mommies tummy



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 03:03 AM   4
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Iíve had my head upside down with this topic

I have a son who is 4, Iíve not told him the news yet (we plan to do so when we find out the gender by taking him to the scan) but I keep dropping hints like if you was a big brother blah blah. Everytime I say it he starts crying he doesnít want a baby.

Iím finding it hard to get excited about this pregnancy because iím worrying so much that heíll hate this baby so much.

Although saying that... I do have 2 books that explain the whole baby thing and ones a sticker book



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 04:11 AM   5
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We told everyone including the kids at 5 weeks because I was in bed with HG and have been super ill so couldn't really hide it.



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 04:17 AM   6
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Iím waiting to tell my eldest until Iím happy for everyone and his wife to know - so after my 12 week scan. He canít keep a secret!



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 06:14 AM   7
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Though I might have my youngest come into the first scan with me so we'll see!
That is a great way to tell them!
Mind if I steal?



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 06:26 AM   8
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We told the kids as soon as we did a test as they new we was trying for one so they were fully aware from early on xx



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 09:15 AM   9
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I have a 4yo and almost 2yo, and am putting off telling them as long as possible bc I know it is the ONLY thing my son will want to talk about once he knows. I love his curiosity, but I'm happy to wait for his 6307 questions on rapid repeat to start! I've taken my daughter to some of my early appointments, but she doesn't really get what's going on.

We have hardly told anyone yet, but once we start sharing the news more widely (probably around 15 weeks), we'll come up w a fun way to tell them before someone else mentions it.



 
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Old May 31st, 2018, 12:06 PM   10
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we didn't tell until 15 weeks, we knew the kids would tell everyone (which they totally did) so we only told them at breakfast the morning we started visiting family for Easter weekend. I was starting to get a belly anyway so we wouldn't have been able to hide it much longer. I made pancakes for breakfast and made them in the shape of all of our initials, and through in a "B". My son (7.5yo) was handing them out and stopped when he got to the B, he looked at it, turned the plate, turned it again and said "'B', who's that one for?" I said "I don't know, what starts with the letter 'B'". His first guess was the dog (Bailey), nope...then he wracked his brain and came up with baby. The look on his face when I said yes was priceless. DD was clueless, I showed them some ultrasounds pics and then the arguments about whether it'd be a boy or girl started

good luck! I hope you find a fun way to do it.

Mrnmrsm, my DD (3) was insistent that she only wanted a sister, of course DS wanted a brother. We are having another boy, so DD was initially upset and kept saying "maybe it's a sister" or "can we trade for a sister?" still until a few weeks ago. Now she won't stop talking about all the things that she is going to do when she is a big sister and HER baby comes out. She is very proud to tell random people that she is going to have a baby brother. I'm sure your DS will come around



 
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