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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 12:52 PM   1
coquis224
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Pregnant after Infertility


Hello all!

I just found out I'm preggers with #8 after struggling with male factor infertility and my mild PCOS. (my pcos corrects itself when I get under a certain weight). Anyway DH doesn't believe the baby is his! We had a sperm count about a year ago and they said he had low count /morphology. He had given up on TTC since I have other children. So we stopped BD every other day and have gone down to 2x a week. I'm thinking that's what helped get me pregnant since his sperm had time to build up. Has this happenend to anoyone else?

He wants me to get an abortion since he KNOWS it's not his.... I have never heard such crap! I just don't get his attitude and I'm not sure what to do...

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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 14:00 PM   2
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Would he be willing to do a paternity test? They have noninvasive prenatal paternity tests, so you can prove to him that it's his before baby is even born.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 15:14 PM   3
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I want to but the cost is quite prohibitive... around 1000.00 is the cheapest I can find.I just don't get why he is so adamant about him not being able to have kids.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 15:53 PM   4
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Maybe you could have the dr explain that it is possible even with low count and mophology. It's more difficult but certainly not impossible. Maybe he's just in shock/denial and he'll come to his senses soon.

I'm so sorry you are going through this when this should be one of the most exciting times of your life.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 16:22 PM   5
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Well that's weird, I posted a response and now it's gone. I did find one online for $800, which requires a $400 down payment. And I know some companies will offer income based scales (the $8,000 bill for my prenatal testing with DS was dropped down to $250) for tests. Honestly, I'd figure the $800 would be cheaper than the abortion, or than a possible divorce if he genuinely believes that you've been unfaithful.

I'd definitely be suspicious based on his over-the-top response, though. If he thinks you cheated, why demand an abortion instead of a divorce? I'd be inclined to suspect he may be projecting.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2018, 17:01 PM   6
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I've heard of cases of men getting the snip, and still their wives have gotten pregnant (and it's definitely their baby!!!) so it is possible!

Could he go to the docs for another sperm count? It could have mildly improved, so the chances could have been improved? Plus it's just a LOW sperm count.. theres still some swimmers doing their thing! It only takes one lucky one!



 
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