Originally Posted by BabyQ

Back from external ultrasound scan, not good

Baby should be 7w +3 (actually from MY dates 8 1/2w+ from rough date of last period), the fetal pole only measured 6 weeks+1 and no heartbeat.

The lady said she was so sorry and referred me to the early pregnancy unit at the local hospital. Went straight there, no queue so straight in for an internal scan. Well.....i broke down, panicked, nearly faited them threw up so they sent me home to wait. Tbh my fella was mortified by the state I was in and upset so said we should go home.

STUPID STUPID ME! I should have just had it done, i am so angry at myself, but i was in shock, i was so positive all morning.

The woman performing the internal was awful, so cold, didn't say a word, didn't tell me what to do, just sat there with the probe in her hand and a man in the corner watching, she spoke with a strong accent when she was telling me how to sit so that I could hardly understand her and still didn't know what to do (through tears) but it was probably just the state i was in rather than totally her fault but i mean come on, 3 or 4 words of reassurance was all i needed, she just sat silently and the other man was just embarrassed.



Since rang midwife, she's ringing me back, hopefully getting me in to my local hospital for an internal tomorrow (the one i went to this morning was the nearest to the private scanning place and just recommended by the lady there - NEVER AGAIN!)

I'm 99.99% sure i've had a miscarriage although no real blood yet, just wish i'd had that scan done so i'd know for definate, GRRRR!

Originally Posted by BabyQ

My midwife at the local doctors has rang me back, I've got an appointment at the hospital for 9:30am tomorrow morning for the internal (phew, i thought they might tell me tough! that I was stupid and should have had it done today!)

I should be in a whole better frame of mind then now the news has sunk in a bit.

Not hopeful at all, but my other half is a bit, bless him. He rang the hospital and they told him that "sometimes they can't see the heartbeat on an external till 11 weeks" not sure where she got that from, but that was the midwife speaking, so that's convinced my fella now

Ahh well, such is life, a lot worse things happen to those less fortunate than myself. All I keep telling myself to console myself is that I'm young, we have a lot of time to try again when the time is right, as sad as I am to have never met this little baby, she will always be remembered as my 1st special onexxx

Originally Posted by lil-lauren

hi im popping in from second tri, try not to pay to much attention to dates im a month behind what i should have been or what i thought, babys grow at different rates some have growth spurts at the time of scans. i had 2 scans before my 12week and both times my dates changed, i had a scan at 15 weeks and it was diff again. im havin a gender scan saturday (cord was in t way and baby was to stubborn to move lol) and im expecting my date to be diff, if its not ill probz die from shock lol. before 20weeks they measure baby from head to toe, your baby might just be a small baby, at 20weeks they measure head to bum. hope this helps!!