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Old Jul 2nd, 2010, 15:59 PM   1
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Pregnancy and vaginismus


I was a bit nervous about posting questions about this subject here, but since everyone else seems so open and honest and friendly, I thought I'd give it a go!

Has anyone else suffered from vaginismus and how is this affecting your pregnancy? I've had my first appointment with the midwife this week and she made me feel like I was going to encounter HUGE problems during labour I've been so anxious since I saw her. Up until now I was just feeling quite proud of myself for being able to have a normal loving relationship with my husband and have the routine cervical smears done (with some difficulty) but now I'm starting to feel like a freak.

Anyone's comments about their own experiences of vaginismus during pregnancy would be greatly appreciated.



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Old Jul 2nd, 2010, 16:06 PM   2
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Sorry hun don't have any advice but didn't want to read and run



 
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Old Jul 2nd, 2010, 16:11 PM   3
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Hey hun, i don't personally know anything about this but i just found this site

http://www.vaginismus.com/faqs/vagin...tions-delivery

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Old Jul 2nd, 2010, 16:27 PM   4
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I'm sure you will do fine - the forces of labour are really strong. The bit you might struggle with are the internal exams, where the midwife measures how far dilated you are. These are rather unpleasant for all women, not just women with your vaginismus. Those in attendance need to be sensitive to your condition. I wish you well!



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Yeah, it's the exams I'm most worried about. I'm sure junior will manage to find his/her way out but the exams might get me anxious and I don't think that will be good for the baby I'm considering hynotherapy or some other kind of therapy to help me relax and focus during the birth. Thanks for your responses, that site will be helpful!



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Your welcome hun. Good luck, i hope all goes well for you xx



 
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Am I the only one that doesn't know what vaginisums is??



 
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Old Jul 2nd, 2010, 20:16 PM   8
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I was a bit nervous about posting questions about this subject here, but since everyone else seems so open and honest and friendly, I thought I'd give it a go!

Has anyone else suffered from vaginismus and how is this affecting your pregnancy? I've had my first appointment with the midwife this week and she made me feel like I was going to encounter HUGE problems during labour I've been so anxious since I saw her. Up until now I was just feeling quite proud of myself for being able to have a normal loving relationship with my husband and have the routine cervical smears done (with some difficulty) but now I'm starting to feel like a freak.

Anyone's comments about their own experiences of vaginismus during pregnancy would be greatly appreciated.
Omg thank you I had no idea what I had had a name. I have this too! I have no problem with tampons and I can have sex but sometimes it's very uncomfortable and other times not too bad. I found the exams difficult in my last pregnancy- it burns just to have the doctor insert a finger let alone have a pap smear but I made it through. It's usually over fairly quick and that helps. In my case I tense up and basically cause my own pain, I think it might be helpful to tell my obstetrician that I have this..thanks so much for posting this!



 
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Old Jul 3rd, 2010, 02:54 AM   9
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Hi Polkadot, I have vaginismus. It's been a long journey for me. After many failed attempts at sex with my BF (now hubby) I saw a doc and had Fentons procedure (which is where they cut to make the hole bigger). After this I still couldn;t have sex. We lived with it for 3 years working around it (Hubby has been such a star through all of this).

Anyway had a smear test last September and it was just pure agony and I broke down in tears about how will we ever have a baby and the doctor referred me there and then to a Pyschosexual counsellor. Over the next 3 months I had some sessions and she gave me dilators to practice with and with a lot of patience and hard work me and OH finally have finally cracked it We've still got a way to go, but from January we started TTC and here I am 9 weeks pregnant.

Now, I spoke to my counsellor about the giving birth thing and she absolutely assures me that it's different. For starters it's something coming out (not going in - so psychologically it's different), and secondly our bodies change to allow room for the baby to get out and there is no reason that someone with vaginismus would have a harder time than someone without.

My biggest fear throughout the pregnancy was having to have internal examinations. I spoke to the midwife - she was lovely and understanding - and also said there are about 3 or 4 women a month that have vaginismus that they deliver babies for...so it's not as uncommon as you might think.

Anyway she's put in my notes that I have it, and she said that should be enough that I shouldn't even have to mention it again. She also said that there might be no need whatsoever to have any internals at all. She said that as long as the labour appears to be progressing well then they won't need to check inside

I feel so much more relaxed about the whole thing now. I hope that helps you.



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Old Jul 3rd, 2010, 02:57 AM   10
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Oh another thing I read on the vaginismus site is to demand that if you have stitches that you are not stitched up too tight.



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