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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 06:57 AM   1
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Is it normal to feel so lethargic


Hi

I am going to apologise now as I know this is going to be a bit of a rant.

Me and OH moved into our new house 2 months ago, we were both really excited and it was even more wonderful when we found out we were expecting our first baby.

We both work full time, I am responsible for cleaning and cooking and he has been doing general household diy stuff. I got a text from him today asking what my plan was for the weekend and I told him - he then said what about the house, I asked what he meant and he sent this long message saying I don't seem interested in it and it was upsetting him.

I don't know what he wants me to do, when I asked him he said he should not have to tell me and when I said that I needed to sort out some clothes etc but I get tired etc he told me it is not normal.

Finally he sent me a text when I have not responded which say goodness knows what it is going to be like when the baby comes, I am so upset it is like guess work what does he want me to do.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:01 AM   2
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omg, it's perfectly normal to be tired, some ladies have been soooo tired they are wanting to go back to bed half an hour after getting up, energy comes back a bit after the first tri, but for a lot of ladies the tiredness hits them like a truck very early, I think your OH may benefit from reading a thread that was put up a while back by a man trying to understand what his lady was going through, I showed it to my OH and he said it really helped him to understand the process (it's his first), it can be hard for men to understand how something so tiny can affect us so much xxxx

Here's the link:

http://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy...nderstand.html



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:03 AM   3
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All I do is sleep and come to work. I get up at 7 come to work, get home at 5:30 get straight into PJ's eat tea then I usually manage to stay awake for about an hour or so after tea then am usually asleep by 9ish then I get up the next day and start over. By about 7:30pm I am fighting to stay awake.

I think it's normal for this stage of pregnancy.

Our house is a complete mess cause I literally cannot be bothered and do not have the energy to do anything during the week so I just tidy on a weekend and even then it's a rushed job.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:03 AM   4
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Lethargy is a well known symptom in the first trimester. I can't be bothered to do any more than the bare minimum around the house at the moment, and nor will I 'til I feel up to it.

Told partner that he can have an opinion on my energy levels when he is growing a person! I was joking, but it got my point across and he hasn't said a word about the rising levels of ironing etc.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:06 AM   5
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Tiredness is definitely a symptom of early pregnancy.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:10 AM   6
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Thank ladies, I am taking everything to heart I suppose but I do feel that he does not appreciate what I do. Last night after working a full day, I ironed for an hour and half, cooked dinner, did washing and washed up for a women who is 10 weeks preganant and emotional I don't think that is to bad.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:15 AM   7
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WOW, you sound like a superwoman!!

I'm shattered!! Haf the time I can't face cooking and my OH has to do it.

Your line about him feeling like you weren't interested anymore kind of annoyed me to be honest! OF COURSE LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY TAKES PRIORITY OVER A HOUSE!! SORRY BUT IF HE DOESN'T LIKE IT, TOUGH!! THAT'S HOW IT IS SUPPOSED TO WORK!!

Tell him to pull his socks up and try being pregnant for a while, see how much he feels like doing housework or DIY!!



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:18 AM   8
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Not at all sweetie, I've had some absolutely blazing arguments with my OH because he just doesn't get how awful I feel at times and how emotional I am, then I have guilt lol, but he understands a lot better now and has really been making an effort lately, I thought he would be really freaking out as he takes everything personally but now he actually seems to understand, at least in part! I couldn't stand to iron right now, not a hope so don't worry you're doing a lot better than I am! big hugs xxxx



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:19 AM   9
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Thanks I am pleased I am not the only one who thought that was out of order. I suppose it is difficult for them as he sees me as me I have not changed bar an extra bit of weight round my middle.



 
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Old Sep 23rd, 2010, 07:20 AM   10
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WOW, you sound like a superwoman!!

I'm shattered!! Haf the time I can't face cooking and my OH has to do it.

Your line about him feeling like you weren't interested anymore kind of annoyed me to be honest! OF COURSE LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY TAKES PRIORITY OVER A HOUSE!! SORRY BUT IF HE DOESN'T LIKE IT, TOUGH!! THAT'S HOW IT IS SUPPOSED TO WORK!!

Tell him to pull his socks up and try being pregnant for a while, see how much he feels like doing housework or DIY!!
exactly!



 
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