Had my 1st scan monday. when i went to midwife to midwife 4 weeks ago she gave me my due date and booked me for my scan. i was 8+6 on monday. we were really looking forward to seeing our baby!

basically, we got called in she asked if it was our 1st (it is) so on she went with the scan, she looked at it and asked me how many weeks i was. so i told her and she then said 'no its too small for that' your a week behind.then showed us our baby for about 2 minutes, then sent us out.

so im now 8+1, i left the hospital feeling very emotional. hubby was made up (as was i) we saw the heartbeat, but it was very small. i thought it would feel more special, more personal. but infact it was a quick 2 minute scan that felt very impersonal. i was very happy that the baby is ok and healthy and its little heart was fluttering away, but i felt a little detatached from my baby because of the way it was carried out. im very happy and i know my baby is ok, but i am just not feeling the same as i felt before the scan. is this normal? am i just shocked and the reality of having a baby in there has not sunk in yet? hubby doesnt know how i feel, he would think i dont love it. but i do. any advice?

I'm so sorry you have had a bad experience. Positive thing is though that you saw baba and heartbeat could just be that you ovulated later/implanted later on. At my 7 weeks scan I measured 6.4 fortunately though the lady was much nicer to us.

Hopefully your next experience will be more enjoyable.

x

Do you get a scan at 12 weeks still? That is usually to double check dates and to make sure all is ok... I am sorry your experience wasnt as hoped.

hugs hun, glad baby is all ok. sorry scan wasnt great experience x

Well, some people won't have the best bedside manner - for them, it's just a job. When everything goes quick, it's usually a good sign.

Congrats on the HB - it's great news! Also, I think you'll feel more attached to the bubba once you feel it move.

Yeah we get to go back at 12 weeks. im happy that everything is ok. it is a strange feeling knowing a little babs is inside you but you cant tell its there you cant feel it. i cant wait till i can feel it wriggle and kick, i will love that. i think its a bit of a shock when you see it 1st anyway, you know its there but can feel it. so i think seeing it made me realise thats its actually in there, living.

I actually get what you mean. Mine was lovely, don't get me wrong, but when it's quick and 'routiney' you feel a bit rushed and like you're looking at someone elses baby don't you? I did a bit. I left trying to pull myself together thinking the most important thing is that all seemed fine. Which is the truth, but I really expected a bit... more?! I don't know, but I get what you're saying.

I personally think that when you go for your scan and they put you back (which was the case for me), whoever is doing the scan KNOWS that you'll be going back again for the full scan around the 12 week mark and so just checks the absolute basics and sends you on your way. So you feel a bit cheated but in actual fact we are lucky as without trying to, we've snuck in an extra peek at our babies!

My full 12 week scan is tomorrow and I'm hoping for a bit more. I will let you know how it goes so that you can hopefully have something to look forward to.

Dxxx

I kind of know how you feel, I had my 1st scan, or dating scan on Tuesday. I was down on the doctor's notes as being 12+2 weeks, but when the sonographer measured the baby (30.0mm) she calculated me to be 9+6 weeks. I kind of already knew that because my cycle has never ever been regular and certainly never been 28 days! I thought since I was just under ten weeks they would ask me to go back at 12 weeks, but now I don't go back until the 14th December for my 20 week scan.

I didn't get a picture either, the sonographer said it wouldn't show up when printed. Was a little disappointing but I can't fault the lady who scanned me, she was really lovely. I think sometimes you just expect more from your first experience. I know I did.

C xxx

im glad other people understnad how i felt, i was starting to feel bad. i dont want the baby to think i dont want him/her. so does your cycle change how many weeks you could be? my midwife calculated my due date by going by my last period but didnt ask how many days my cycle is, mine is not 28 days, never has been. my cycle is 37, so will that explain why im back a week? its all very complicated.

The impression I get is that if your cycle is longer than the "standard" 28 days, then your most fertile days very depending on the length of your cycle. When I saw the doctor after finding out I was pregnant he put me down at 6 weeks based on my last period on a 28 day cycle, my cycle is just a nightmare though, shows up when it wants to an average of 44 days! So I'm around 2 weeks less than they originally thought. So in that sense then yes, I do think your due date depends on your cycle.

Sorry if that makes so sense, I'm quite dense about things like that!

C xxx