Ok....I've had two miscarriages and am going nuts. I was contemplating getting a doppler, but now I absolutely want one. I've heard the heartbeat on a doppler at my OB's, so I know I am at the point where I can hear it on a home doppler.
My hubby and entire family don't support getting a doppler. They don't think it's totally safe (even though I provided research which says in moderation it's fine), and think it'll just cause additional stress. I don't know what to do! I don't know if I should just get one or just tell them I am and to get over it?! Should I not get one?! Ughhhh....I don't know what to do.
Also, do I have to get my doctor's permission to buy/rent one? I came across something that said I do, but couldn't find much more info.
just ask your doctor for another u/s if you've had miscarriages they'll do it. otherwise going behind hubby's back won't help. he may or may not come around in time but a doppler isn't going to do anything except make you feel happy, then really guilty.
They even gave me prepaid ups label for when I was ready to return it.
I had heavy bleeding at 14 weeks and couldn't see my doctor till after the weekend so let me tell you that having that Doppler there to at least confirm there was still a heartbeat saved me alot of stress over that weekend!!!
I think the point about the guilt would be hard.. .and if you have one of those nights where baby just isn't in position right and you can't find it... you'll be upset and won't be able to tell hubby why and ask for comfort.
Maybe talk him into one as a temporary measure until you can feel fetal movement... and agree to a limited schedule of checking (some use it nightly which is where I think some of the concern comes in). Most things in moderation are not a risk, so see if there is some level of doppler use that he'll agree to.
Personally i would leave it till a bit further along maybe 14/15 weeks, mine came on thursday after my loss in march i thought it would reassure me! not! couldnt find bubs and am totally freaking out, now paying for a 2nd private scan tomorrow to know if beanies ok or not! alot of unnesarcy stress! i always said oh i will find it but when its you sitting there in a total panic its differant lol. Even though ive already had to hospital scans and a private one already, i thought the doppler would offer reasurrance but it hasnt x
I wanted a doppler for reassurance after a loss earlier this year. OH was totally opposed to it for just about every reason under the sun, but finally agreed to me getting one if I let him keep it so I didn't get obsessive about using it every day.
It arrived last week and I tried a couple of times but haven't managed to find the heartbeat. I haven't panicked about it because I know there's no guarantee of finding it at this stage and my tilted uterus won't help either, but overall it was a big disappointment and hasn't helped me at all.
IMO It's definitely not worth lying to your OH over- if you decide you *must* have one, let him know before you get it.
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