hi they deleted my last post.. im only confused

i will put it this way,

. He doesnt want me to keep the baby but i am as i had a miscarriage in april to his baby .... which would be due on the 06.12.10... & would not put myself through that again as i still havent even got over it!!

He says he will be there for the baby & provide financial support but not speak to me. He says his family will disown him & his fiancee will probably leave him... although i know she wont as she has known he has been using me for the last 2 year & is still with him. I know he will try & control me & stop me from seein other people when the baby is born but he doesnt have a right does he??

As long as he cares for our baby.. surely he has no right to interfer in my personal life when i will be looking after my baby with the most care you could image!!

please help.. i am only 21 and have the full support of my family & friends... is that enough??

Becca x

*hugs*
you deserve better he seems like a very shifty man.
you should go to the single mums forms, lots of strong and independent mummys there that can offer advice???
xx

it's wrong what he says but i think it's wrong you were with him if you knew he was engaged and had a partner!!!

Nooo every time I saw him he would say he wasn't with her anymore & he wanted me.. I am a fool I know for believing him but now I need t know if the support of my family & friends is enough .. Also how do u reply to messages on here?? x

family and friends are enough. but every baby deserves to know she/he's dad, no matter how much of a knob he is.
dont know what to advice but see your midwife asap.
take care x

well he sounds like a right k**b then, think long and hard about what u do cause they will be no going back in ur decision, if u want to keep the baby do it, and yes i think the support of ur friends and family will be enough. It will be his loss at the end of the day, just remember there are plenty of single mums out there!!! take care!

O it will definatley know it's father he said he will look after it he will just be horrible to me! Honestly thankyou so much for your support it's made me feel much more happy & content x

he sounds like a player

i had a m/c last august (09) and it still hurts so bad.

there was no doubt in my mind then when i got pregnant this time that i was keepin the baby.
baby wasnt planned, but the best things never are planned in my eyes.
is a miracle baby to me,

you have got to do what YOU want to do not what he wants, its his wn bloody fault if his fiance leaves him - really dont want to sound harsh (!!) - but guys who think they can have more than one woman on the go really infuriate me, so to be honest hun it serves him right for being a clever ass - thinking he could be 'the stud'.

if you want this baby keep the baby, there are plenty of single mums out there, my partner will be in Afghan when my baby is born and wont be back until 4-5 months after the baby is born and even when he is back he is based on camp for the week and back at weekends, so i will be kind of like a single mum!

can you talk to your mam or a close friend or family member about this?

i always talk to my mam, she is good at logic'ing things out for me and helping me.

hope all works out for you

ps - i am 23 (24 this month) so still young like yourself! so dont worry bout your age - being to young etc!

Yes my family & friends will stick by me whatever they just really don't like him for how he is with me. I just think... Why should he get the nice cosy life & I have to suffer for him!

My baby will be my all & I will feel I have a purpose in life I know it's going to be difficult as I always wanted the good job nice house perfect marriage situation for children but I feel this has happened for a reason & I am very down at the moment ... Off work with stress... & this seems like a sign from somewhere to make me happier...? Maybe not but unlike to think that xx

oh my god honey, message me if you need to talk

i am, and was in, a very very similar situation with the father of my baby

he was with someone when we met, they seperated for a while (common law), i got pregnant, and now their back together and engaged. the situations very complicated, too much to explain here but i'm here if you need to vent because i completely understand. remember, this child is a blessing for you regardless of anything else!