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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 12:46 PM   1
mrsmnewmum
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Hiya Mummies! I need some advice...My OH point blank refuses to let me tell anyone about our 'Sprout' until the scan confirms all is well. I happily nodded along until 5 days ago when the MS started...all day, every day! Today I have had a hellish day looking down the loo every hour or so wondering how I was going to blag my boss about where I've been. I am 5 + 6 and this is my first pregnancy. I can't help feeling that if we have an early scan and he sees all is OK, he'll let me tell our close family, friends and my boss so at least I have some support. I'm at the end of my tether today and totally exhausted. I have a very risky job which puts me in unpredictable situations. When can I have my 1st scan and how do I go about sorting one out? I have a date for my 12 week one (8th December) and at the moment, that feels like a million years away. I have been bleeding too but only spots. Can anyone give me some advice? xx



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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 12:52 PM   2
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If you are in the uk you can get a private scan £60-£100 and aFTER 8 WEEKS IF YOU SEE A HEART BEAT (OOPS) the misscarage risk goesa down to 3%. Maybee contact your midwife and mention the bleeding and try and get one on the NHS.



 
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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 13:02 PM   3
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Thanks for the advice lovely. I would contact my midwife if I knew who she was...! x



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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 13:07 PM   4
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My hubby was a bit like that too to start off with. I was only really allowed to tell my best friend but I was being ill at work and feeling sooooo tired I didn't want people to think i was taking the mickey so told a couple of people. It was the best thing I ever did, they are so protective and lovely and really take care of me. Equally I have a job which can put me in compromising situations I'm supposed to tell my boss straight away so they can do risk assessments. I told her at about 7 weeks. I also caved and told my mum at about 7 weeks. He's started to soften recently and even going to tell him parents this weekend and Im only 9 weeks.

I'm pretty sure once hes got his head around the idea in 9 months his life is going to completely change he'll start getting excited and telling people too.

I think because women are so used to being open and talking about personal things, periods, smears, ewcm , telling someone your pregnant isn't a massive deal but for a man who only really, sleep, eat, work, watch tv, burp and fart......their lives are a lot less complex so require a lot less discussion so they aren't used to being open and telling people about their personal lives.

Sorry I've rambled on a bit, in a nutshell. You are going to have a wonderful healthy 9 months so what the hell tell whoever you feel you need to at the moment, tell your other half he can tell or not tell whoever hes like until hes ready but youre ready now and it will make youre life easier and a lot less stressful at a time when you need calm (then demand he makes you a cup of tea as you and the little bump need one)

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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 13:10 PM   5
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tell people you have a stomach flu? and that you're seeing the doctor about it.
idk what to say if it keeps going and the "stomach flu" never goes away, people will guess. lol.



 
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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 14:32 PM   6
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You need to tell your boss asap darling!

I work with mercury, radiation and all sorts of lovely chemicals and told my boss the day after we had it confirmed as I didn't want anything to risk



 
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Old Oct 27th, 2010, 16:06 PM   7
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Thank you so much for your advice everyone. My OH is still at work at the moment. He called me earlier to check how I was and I was in floods on the phone (not like me at all!) so I think he realises that I am genuinely really poorly. I will speak to him when he gets home...if it's not too late, he's had a hell of a day! If I feel like this again tomorrow at work, I don't think I can hold back and I'm going to have to tell my boss. He can lump it! It's also a problem because his mum and dad also work in the same building so we're going to have to tell them too...the guys at work are rubbish with secrets! It's a small town where I live...what can I say...! At least I didn't marry my cousin and that's a rarety around here!!!

I'd try blagging stomach flu but a bit worried that I won't manage to blag that for another 6 weeks! Thanks anyway!

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