Anyone feel too scared to enjoy pregnancy in the first trimester? Or is it just me? - Page 3

seoj · Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:00 PM

Ah hun... it's natural to worry. We ARE women! lol. I too struggled for SO long to get pregnant... it just didn't feel "real" at first... like someone was going to jump out and yell "you've been punked!!!"... but the truth of the matter is this... what will be will be. There really isn't much you can do to harm your baby (unless you were really trying!) and since you are doing all you can to make a safe "home", then odds are all will be fine. Is there any guarantee, no. But there never is. That is just life, if the sucky and frustrating part of it... but after TTC for so long, you are finally THERE!!!! It worked!!!! So just do your best to concentrate on all that good that will come... and each doctor visit will help ease your mind that much more.

Symptoms will just come and go hun. From what I've read and asked my FS about and seen on BNB... this is VERY common.

Congrats on your BFP! And best of luck to a H&H 9 mos!!!!!!

sparklebunny · Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:11 PM

This was exactly my concern today. After a mc in Dec and a chem last cycle my OH and I were NTNP this cycle and suddenly at 11 dpo we had the darkest bfp i've seen!! We got a 3+ on a digi yesterday and i just feel like i'm super windy

!! I'm bloated and have the odd tingle in my breasts but i feel fine otherwise. I just can't seem to get excited completely just yet! It is really good to hear everyone else talk about their symptoms or lack of! Good Luck and plenty of

to you! Have a happy and Healthy 9 months!

Inky2006 · Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Nat0619

When did you have your early scan Inky and what did you see? x

At around that time week 6 + 6 days. You see what looks like a black hole, with a white blob and a tinsey flicker (the flicker is the hb) You don't really see much. They have to maginify it about a 100 times to get a picture!!! Its not something we asked for, its just something fertility clinics do, mainly because there is an increased risk of ectopics with IVF treatments. must admit was nice to see it. private scans cost about £140 I think. We didn't pay as part of treatmentxx

Inky2006 · Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:18 PM

Thanks seoj, thanks for your kind words, you sound so chilled. I wish I were like you. wishing you all the luck in the world too.xxx

sparkle - oh, I know how you feel, Its funny after TTC for 2.5 years, I thought I would be so excited to see that BFP. That elation lasts for five minutes, then the fear sets in. I think those digi's are excellent. Apparently, they are just as good as a blood test. I'm wishing you all the best in the next 9 months and I'm very sure all will be okay this timexxxx

sparklebunny · Mar 22nd, 2011, 15:14 PM

Thanks Inky! I think they are pretty spot on usually too! H&H 9 months to both of us!

cherryness · Mar 22nd, 2011, 15:35 PM

OMG i feel like this too. first trimester is just a continual worry for me. I just cant wait till I get a scan to make it feel real! And I have now got to the point I wont feel settled until Im in second tri with a clear scan. Its got so bad I now feel detatched from my pregnancy, I even have convinced myself Im not pregnant until I see a baby... :S Im continuously scared about getting 'peoples hopes up' incase the scan comes back with bad news. I know this is rediculous to feel this way and I should feel optimistic but I cant seem to ease my worries.

I think its normal to worry. I worry about everything. Im 24 and this is our first. Just not knowing what to expect is making me a little bit sad

Try keep positive, although I know its harder than just saying that :P Our hormones make us really paranoid i guess ! LOL

Waitin4astork · Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:13 PM

It's totally normal to be freaked in first tri. I remember thinking what a nightmare it was. Every day I would be analysing symptoms (or lack of!), checking for bleeding obsessively every time I peed, panicking what every little twinge might mean...I totally understand why you feel like time is standing still. Even though first tri is the shortest trimester, it feels like each week takes FOREVER! But here's the good news- second tri is SO much better. You'll have had the dating scan, you'll be starting to tell people and relaxing a little bit about the whole thing. Then as you go through second tri, you'll be talking about all of the fun stuff- names, nursery decor, prams, whether you're team pink, blue or yellow...plus a lot of the icky first tri symptoms will go and you'll be feeling tons better. And of course the best bit is that your bump will be starting to bloom and you'll be able to feel your bubba moving around and kicking which is one of the best feelings EVER!

So hang in there girls- second tri is just around the corner for you all

cedrickerry · Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:53 PM

I feel exactly the same, after years (10 without contraception and 3 actively trying and treatments) I am at a similar stage to you ......I'm 37, am 7+4, and have twin ICSI piskies onboard. Had a scan last week and saw both fetal poles, sacs and heartbeats, but still doesn't feel real ...totally freaked. DH has told everyone and wants to plan, I keep setting milestones to get to first!

Inky2006 · Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:55 PM

waitin - thank you for the good news about the second tri - I can't wait. Must be lovely to feel buba moving around.

cherry - what you have said, pretty much sums up how I've been feeling.

Oh, its so lovely to get all these replies and realise that the thoughts and feelings I'm having are completely normal. Its funny because I spent so long reading the chapter on trying to get pregnant, that I never read the pregnancy chapter and so, its all be so surreal to me.!

Anyway, keep the comments up. Its good to support each otherxx

HopeAlways · Mar 22nd, 2011, 17:01 PM

I just got my

this morning and it was a complete surprise!!!! I had a miscarriage in December and we went back to TTC after one normal cycle. They all ended in

and I was devastated. We decided to take a break for one month and BAMMM

this morning. I wasn't even going to test this month but the last few days I've had sore boobs, mild nausea and extreme fatigue. I am extremely nervous since the miscarriage in December. It was a missed miscarriage and the MD said she couldn't find an exact reason. It was just "one of those things" she said. Here we are again and I am so AFRAID but trying to enjoy every second. Ofcourse there are always risks but if we live our lives afraid, we will miss everything. Good luck to everyone and a truly wish all of us a health & happy 9 months!!!!

Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:00 PM	#21
seoj Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 9,026	Ah hun... it's natural to worry. We ARE women! lol. I too struggled for SO long to get pregnant... it just didn't feel "real" at first... like someone was going to jump out and yell "you've been punked!!!"... but the truth of the matter is this... what will be will be. There really isn't much you can do to harm your baby (unless you were really trying!) and since you are doing all you can to make a safe "home", then odds are all will be fine. Is there any guarantee, no. But there never is. That is just life, if the sucky and frustrating part of it... but after TTC for so long, you are finally THERE!!!! It worked!!!! So just do your best to concentrate on all that good that will come... and each doctor visit will help ease your mind that much more. Symptoms will just come and go hun. From what I've read and asked my FS about and seen on BNB... this is VERY common. Congrats on your BFP! And best of luck to a H&H 9 mos!!!!!!

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:11 PM	#22
sparklebunny Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Middlesex Posts: 1,084	This was exactly my concern today. After a mc in Dec and a chem last cycle my OH and I were NTNP this cycle and suddenly at 11 dpo we had the darkest bfp i've seen!! We got a 3+ on a digi yesterday and i just feel like i'm super windy !! I'm bloated and have the odd tingle in my breasts but i feel fine otherwise. I just can't seem to get excited completely just yet! It is really good to hear everyone else talk about their symptoms or lack of! Good Luck and plenty of to you! Have a happy and Healthy 9 months!

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 13:18 PM	#24
Inky2006 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Sevenoaks,uk Posts: 1,982	Thanks seoj, thanks for your kind words, you sound so chilled. I wish I were like you. wishing you all the luck in the world too.xxx sparkle - oh, I know how you feel, Its funny after TTC for 2.5 years, I thought I would be so excited to see that BFP. That elation lasts for five minutes, then the fear sets in. I think those digi's are excellent. Apparently, they are just as good as a blood test. I'm wishing you all the best in the next 9 months and I'm very sure all will be okay this timexxxx

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 15:14 PM	#25
sparklebunny Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Middlesex Posts: 1,084	Thanks Inky! I think they are pretty spot on usually too! H&H 9 months to both of us!

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 15:35 PM	#26
cherryness Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: UK Posts: 752	OMG i feel like this too. first trimester is just a continual worry for me. I just cant wait till I get a scan to make it feel real! And I have now got to the point I wont feel settled until Im in second tri with a clear scan. Its got so bad I now feel detatched from my pregnancy, I even have convinced myself Im not pregnant until I see a baby... :S Im continuously scared about getting 'peoples hopes up' incase the scan comes back with bad news. I know this is rediculous to feel this way and I should feel optimistic but I cant seem to ease my worries. I think its normal to worry. I worry about everything. Im 24 and this is our first. Just not knowing what to expect is making me a little bit sad Try keep positive, although I know its harder than just saying that :P Our hormones make us really paranoid i guess ! LOL

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:13 PM	#27
Waitin4astork Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 2,127	It's totally normal to be freaked in first tri. I remember thinking what a nightmare it was. Every day I would be analysing symptoms (or lack of!), checking for bleeding obsessively every time I peed, panicking what every little twinge might mean...I totally understand why you feel like time is standing still. Even though first tri is the shortest trimester, it feels like each week takes FOREVER! But here's the good news- second tri is SO much better. You'll have had the dating scan, you'll be starting to tell people and relaxing a little bit about the whole thing. Then as you go through second tri, you'll be talking about all of the fun stuff- names, nursery decor, prams, whether you're team pink, blue or yellow...plus a lot of the icky first tri symptoms will go and you'll be feeling tons better. And of course the best bit is that your bump will be starting to bloom and you'll be able to feel your bubba moving around and kicking which is one of the best feelings EVER! So hang in there girls- second tri is just around the corner for you all

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:53 PM	#28
cedrickerry Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 91	I feel exactly the same, after years (10 without contraception and 3 actively trying and treatments) I am at a similar stage to you ......I'm 37, am 7+4, and have twin ICSI piskies onboard. Had a scan last week and saw both fetal poles, sacs and heartbeats, but still doesn't feel real ...totally freaked. DH has told everyone and wants to plan, I keep setting milestones to get to first!

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 16:55 PM	#29
Inky2006 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Sevenoaks,uk Posts: 1,982	waitin - thank you for the good news about the second tri - I can't wait. Must be lovely to feel buba moving around. cherry - what you have said, pretty much sums up how I've been feeling. Oh, its so lovely to get all these replies and realise that the thoughts and feelings I'm having are completely normal. Its funny because I spent so long reading the chapter on trying to get pregnant, that I never read the pregnancy chapter and so, its all be so surreal to me.! Anyway, keep the comments up. Its good to support each otherxx

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Mar 22nd, 2011, 17:01 PM	#30
HopeAlways On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Texas Posts: 187	I just got my this morning and it was a complete surprise!!!! I had a miscarriage in December and we went back to TTC after one normal cycle. They all ended in and I was devastated. We decided to take a break for one month and BAMMM this morning. I wasn't even going to test this month but the last few days I've had sore boobs, mild nausea and extreme fatigue. I am extremely nervous since the miscarriage in December. It was a missed miscarriage and the MD said she couldn't find an exact reason. It was just "one of those things" she said. Here we are again and I am so AFRAID but trying to enjoy every second. Ofcourse there are always risks but if we live our lives afraid, we will miss everything. Good luck to everyone and a truly wish all of us a health & happy 9 months!!!!

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