Anyone feel too scared to enjoy pregnancy in the first trimester? Or is it just me? - Page 4

amitootold · Mar 22nd, 2011, 17:22 PM

have just found out I am pregnant 4+1 by my reckoning. I had a miscarriage at nearly 7 weeks in September 2009 and after being referred to the local reproductive medicine centre and a barrage of tests, I was told the chances of me conceiving without IVF was 1% (we could not afford IVF and were also told would only increase our chances to 5%). I assumed that was it. I have lost a stone and a half in weight and hey presto, here I am!!!! I am petrified that I will miscarry again, especially at my age. I have not told my hubby which seems ridiculous but he cannot keep it secret and he told 2 people last time when I asked him not to and then he ended up having to explain what had happened. I am going to try and get into the early pregnancy unit if I get to 7 weeks and have an early scan. Fingers crossed for us all girls, and its nice to know its not just me who is aware of every twinge!

boots07411 · Apr 10th, 2012, 12:30 PM

I too have experienced the constant worrying and freaking out over ever cramp, and zit that comes out!! I have been TTC for 3 yrs now ( numerous IUI's and 3 IVF attempts) my DR told me to consider egg donation at this point. My DH and i decided to take a break for a while and just relax, well 8 months later to my wonderful surprise i got my

all on my own!!

lol So now im freaking out bc im thinking that maybe my eggs arent good and its just a freak thing and that something bad will happen. Im 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I always knew that there had to be atleast 1 good egg in there somewhere but now that i got 1 i am terrified

i have a friend who has had a blighted ovum and thats all i can think about happening to me bc of my age!! i am approx 6.5 wks along and dont know how im going to make it another 6 wks lol i have my first dr appt next week so hoping that i can see a hb and feel some relief
steph

evieboo · Apr 10th, 2012, 15:50 PM

The whole pregnancy and baby thing is terrifying. You worry constantly during the first trimester, the second is a bit better, but every time the baby is having a lazy day and not kicking as much it panics you. Once they're here I was scared every time I went into her room in the morning. I think it just means you're going to be a great mummy (but going to spend the next 18 years in a constant state of worry!

Sunshine12 · Apr 10th, 2012, 17:02 PM

Its normal to feel that way. Im 39 and its my first and I was the same and to be honest I dont think the worry ever really goes. I worry alot less than I did in first tri now that Im in third but there is always a degree of worry even now - you just worry about different stuff! Wishing you all a H&H 9 months.xx

Inky2006 · Apr 12th, 2012, 13:58 PM

Just to update you all after a year. It's good to read back. I was terrified throughout pregnancy. It's funny it all seems like a distant dream. Most people do worry, and I think if you have experienced mc's or had assisted conception it heightens the anxiety. However can tell you the worry does not stop when they are born. Harriet is 5.5 months and now worrying about mile stones. I guess worry is just what us mothers do. I do know how all of you feel anyway, but time will fly by and before you know it you'll be in the third tri thinking I really must buy some baby stuff. Will be back to see how you all arexxx

AnxiousAnnie · Apr 12th, 2012, 16:21 PM

Girls, this thread has made me feel so much better. Thank you! I'm so glad to know I'm not the only nervous wreck.

I had a scan a week and half ago and saw the heartbeat, but every day I come on here someone has got awful news and I can't help but worry that it will be me next.

Maddie30 · Apr 21st, 2012, 06:19 AM

I'm the same. I'm trying to keep positive though xx

amjon · Apr 21st, 2012, 06:29 AM

I'll be scared until he is out and healthy. I lost my first at 27 weeks in the "safe zone".

pinklightbulb · Apr 21st, 2012, 06:35 AM

I remember how awful first tri was. I like to see updates too

Mar 22nd, 2011, 17:22 PM	#31
amitootold Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Wakefield, England Posts: 266	have just found out I am pregnant 4+1 by my reckoning. I had a miscarriage at nearly 7 weeks in September 2009 and after being referred to the local reproductive medicine centre and a barrage of tests, I was told the chances of me conceiving without IVF was 1% (we could not afford IVF and were also told would only increase our chances to 5%). I assumed that was it. I have lost a stone and a half in weight and hey presto, here I am!!!! I am petrified that I will miscarry again, especially at my age. I have not told my hubby which seems ridiculous but he cannot keep it secret and he told 2 people last time when I asked him not to and then he ended up having to explain what had happened. I am going to try and get into the early pregnancy unit if I get to 7 weeks and have an early scan. Fingers crossed for us all girls, and its nice to know its not just me who is aware of every twinge!

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Apr 10th, 2012, 12:30 PM	#32
boots07411 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 41	I too have experienced the constant worrying and freaking out over ever cramp, and zit that comes out!! I have been TTC for 3 yrs now ( numerous IUI's and 3 IVF attempts) my DR told me to consider egg donation at this point. My DH and i decided to take a break for a while and just relax, well 8 months later to my wonderful surprise i got my all on my own!! lol So now im freaking out bc im thinking that maybe my eggs arent good and its just a freak thing and that something bad will happen. Im 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I always knew that there had to be atleast 1 good egg in there somewhere but now that i got 1 i am terrified i have a friend who has had a blighted ovum and thats all i can think about happening to me bc of my age!! i am approx 6.5 wks along and dont know how im going to make it another 6 wks lol i have my first dr appt next week so hoping that i can see a hb and feel some relief steph

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Apr 10th, 2012, 15:50 PM	#33
evieboo Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 27	The whole pregnancy and baby thing is terrifying. You worry constantly during the first trimester, the second is a bit better, but every time the baby is having a lazy day and not kicking as much it panics you. Once they're here I was scared every time I went into her room in the morning. I think it just means you're going to be a great mummy (but going to spend the next 18 years in a constant state of worry!

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Apr 10th, 2012, 17:02 PM	#34
Sunshine12 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 10,609	Its normal to feel that way. Im 39 and its my first and I was the same and to be honest I dont think the worry ever really goes. I worry alot less than I did in first tri now that Im in third but there is always a degree of worry even now - you just worry about different stuff! Wishing you all a H&H 9 months.xx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 13:58 PM	#35
Inky2006 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Sevenoaks,uk Posts: 1,879	Just to update you all after a year. It's good to read back. I was terrified throughout pregnancy. It's funny it all seems like a distant dream. Most people do worry, and I think if you have experienced mc's or had assisted conception it heightens the anxiety. However can tell you the worry does not stop when they are born. Harriet is 5.5 months and now worrying about mile stones. I guess worry is just what us mothers do. I do know how all of you feel anyway, but time will fly by and before you know it you'll be in the third tri thinking I really must buy some baby stuff. Will be back to see how you all arexxx

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Apr 12th, 2012, 16:21 PM	#36
AnxiousAnnie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 296	Girls, this thread has made me feel so much better. Thank you! I'm so glad to know I'm not the only nervous wreck. I had a scan a week and half ago and saw the heartbeat, but every day I come on here someone has got awful news and I can't help but worry that it will be me next.

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Apr 21st, 2012, 06:19 AM	#37
Maddie30 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 579	I'm the same. I'm trying to keep positive though xx

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Apr 21st, 2012, 06:29 AM	#38
amjon Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: United States Posts: 5,833	I'll be scared until he is out and healthy. I lost my first at 27 weeks in the "safe zone".

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Apr 21st, 2012, 06:35 AM	#39
pinklightbulb Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 6,261	I remember how awful first tri was. I like to see updates too

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