have just found out I am pregnant 4+1 by my reckoning. I had a miscarriage at nearly 7 weeks in September 2009 and after being referred to the local reproductive medicine centre and a barrage of tests, I was told the chances of me conceiving without IVF was 1% (we could not afford IVF and were also told would only increase our chances to 5%). I assumed that was it. I have lost a stone and a half in weight and hey presto, here I am!!!! I am petrified that I will miscarry again, especially at my age. I have not told my hubby which seems ridiculous but he cannot keep it secret and he told 2 people last time when I asked him not to and then he ended up having to explain what had happened. I am going to try and get into the early pregnancy unit if I get to 7 weeks and have an early scan. Fingers crossed for us all girls, and its nice to know its not just me who is aware of every twinge!
I too have experienced the constant worrying and freaking out over ever cramp, and zit that comes out!! I have been TTC for 3 yrs now ( numerous IUI's and 3 IVF attempts) my DR told me to consider egg donation at this point. My DH and i decided to take a break for a while and just relax, well 8 months later to my wonderful surprise i got my all on my own!! lol So now im freaking out bc im thinking that maybe my eggs arent good and its just a freak thing and that something bad will happen. Im 39 and this is my first pregnancy. I always knew that there had to be atleast 1 good egg in there somewhere but now that i got 1 i am terrified i have a friend who has had a blighted ovum and thats all i can think about happening to me bc of my age!! i am approx 6.5 wks along and dont know how im going to make it another 6 wks lol i have my first dr appt next week so hoping that i can see a hb and feel some relief
The whole pregnancy and baby thing is terrifying. You worry constantly during the first trimester, the second is a bit better, but every time the baby is having a lazy day and not kicking as much it panics you. Once they're here I was scared every time I went into her room in the morning. I think it just means you're going to be a great mummy (but going to spend the next 18 years in a constant state of worry!
Its normal to feel that way. Im 39 and its my first and I was the same and to be honest I dont think the worry ever really goes. I worry alot less than I did in first tri now that Im in third but there is always a degree of worry even now - you just worry about different stuff! Wishing you all a H&H 9 months.xx
Just to update you all after a year. It's good to read back. I was terrified throughout pregnancy. It's funny it all seems like a distant dream. Most people do worry, and I think if you have experienced mc's or had assisted conception it heightens the anxiety. However can tell you the worry does not stop when they are born. Harriet is 5.5 months and now worrying about mile stones. I guess worry is just what us mothers do. I do know how all of you feel anyway, but time will fly by and before you know it you'll be in the third tri thinking I really must buy some baby stuff. Will be back to see how you all arexxx
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