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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 15:39 PM   1
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Already have a Little One? How are your moods with them??


I am 11 weeks 4 days and feel extremely emotional and tired at the moment but I cant help having days where I have a short straw with my DS who is 2 years 4 months. My hubby works away during the week so I am doing everything on my own.

Some days he doesnt do as i ask and really plays me, it really gets to me. He squirted water on the carpet yesterday and I told him off normally I would be stern with him and tell him why I was telling him off etc. I just feel at the moment all I am saying is your a naughty boy.

I have never been like this with him and feel really bad. He knows when he has done wrong as he comes and says sorry. Tonight I was reading to him before bed time and just started crying because I told him off yesterday.

Is this normal? Has anyone else been through anything similar? I feel an awful mummy at the moment



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 15:48 PM   2
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I have been like this. I just snap with my son and I hate myself for it. Its no good shouting because he won't learn why he is in the wrong.

I am trying to give myself a "timeout" when I feel myself getting irrate. I make sure he gets lots of positive attention even when I am feeling rough. Sometimes this is a snuggle in my bed first thing in the morning.

Try and stick to your routine and maybe just explain as much as he will understand xxx



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 15:53 PM   3
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I'm aweful to my two at times, they play me off against each other vying for my attention, some days I feel like carting them off to their dads with their naughty behaviour.

I think to be honest they know we feel a little crumby so play on that, but mine are older than yours and at 2 years old every child has their naughty days.

Try not to get too down on yourself for it, it's normal, and it's hard work. I'm a single mum to my two (almost 3) and do everything for them all day every day, ontop of doing everything else you get run down, not just physically but emotionally too. Is there no one that could offer you a little help a few hours a week? Just so you can step away for a little while? Not sure where you live, but a lot of nurseries in the UK (council run ones) now offer pilot schemes for 2 and a half year olds to join for 3 hours a day. That has been my godsend.



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 15:57 PM   4
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Oh gosh me too. It's to be expected and it will definitely even out, and your LO won't hold it against you..I feel like a boring and snappy mummy...we've gone from going out every day to groups/clubs/lessons to doing absolutely nothing and I keep going off to sleep whilst grandma minds...as a result, she's clingiar which makes me feel worse!I just keep telling myself that it'll get better soon.and also am letting more bad behaviours than before slip under the radar..for my own sanity!



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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 16:01 PM   5
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I'm aweful to my two at times, they play me off against each other vying for my attention, some days I feel like carting them off to their dads with their naughty behaviour.

I think to be honest they know we feel a little crumby so play on that, but mine are older than yours and at 2 years old every child has their naughty days.

Try not to get too down on yourself for it, it's normal, and it's hard work. I'm a single mum to my two (almost 3) and do everything for them all day every day, ontop of doing everything else you get run down, not just physically but emotionally too. Is there no one that could offer you a little help a few hours a week? Just so you can step away for a little while? Not sure where you live, but a lot of nurseries in the UK (council run ones) now offer pilot schemes for 2 and a half year olds to join for 3 hours a day. That has been my godsend.
I work Monday to Friday 9 till 5, three days a week he goes to nursery and 2 days to my MIL's, so during the day I dont see him until the weekend when Daddy is home too. Whilst getting ready in the morning and for bed in the evenings this is when I am finding it hard. My mum thinks it is terribl twos. But you are right doing everything is getting me down but hey Ill hopefully snap out of it soon!



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 16:02 PM   6
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I feel better knowing that its just not me, thanks for all your replies xx



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 16:06 PM   7
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I find bedtime hard with my two. They are nightmares! I put them to bed at 7 and I'm shouting at them till gone 9 to settle down and go to sleep.

I've tried moving bedtime back, but then they end up getting to sleep later through messing around, so 7pm is their punishment until they sort it out!

It's good that you get breaks during the day (even if it is work!) But 2 years are a handful at any time, he'll settle down for you soon, your mum's right, it could well be terrible twos, the plus side is he knows when he's done wrong and apoligises, I don;'t even get that!!! lol.



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 16:38 PM   8
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I'm finding myself at my wits end with my two, just turned 3 and 4! They are just being extra work but perhaps I never noticed before since having more patience. I am finding the most mundane tasks difficult, bedtime is a joke an I just cant get it so rte, shouting does nothing but make me sad and yet I can't seem to get a grip on looking after them.

Your not alone, i just haven't got the answers sorry.

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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 17:15 PM   9
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Mine is almost 4 months so sometimes I can get a short straw but mostly I am okay. It's the little things that bug me, like the pulling of my hair, etc, rather than the crying and stufff xx



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2011, 21:07 PM   10
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The reason I actually took a pregnancy test is because I seemed to have a really short temper with my kids when usually I don't. My kids are 3 and 21 months. If I feel like I'm in the wrong when I yell at them or something, I take a few minutes to myself and then go back and apologize to them, even if they don't fully understand.

I usually feel really guilty about it, but my kids seem very forgiving and most of the time it doesn't bother them that much.



 
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