Hormonal rant! What is it with people on this forum and cotton wool wrapping!

I personally am one of these people that put silly threads on, simply because i am a worrier and have had anxiety issues all of my life. I have found that even if i something that may sound silly to other people, if i can get just some reassurence then it helps me feel better about it and stops me worrying. After all you cant help being worried about things and surely this is what this board is for (and worries/issues we may have big or small) x x x

Originally Posted by Snugggs

You can say I'm negative, unsupportive and what ever else.... But do you know what's really negative and unsupportive, when daily on here there are posts about the silliest of things that then make numerous other women worry.
The whole point of my original post was that I can't stand the tip toeing about on the forum about such worrying and negative posts. And I think many would agree..... The same reason why I stopped using the ttc section a year ago.

When I finally got my bfp I thought great, I'll go back to bnb, it'll be a happy place in the first tri section!

And just for the record for those that think my preg is stress and worry free, I can assure you it is not!
I did everything by the book with ds but from 7 weeks I was rushed to hospital every couple with a haemorrhage. I had an ECS at 30 weeks due to eclampsia and hellp syndrome and now have a mentally disabled and sensory and hearing impaired child..... It's inevitable that this pregnancy will have the same out come.

My point is, is to enjoy it while you have it, don't stress yourselves out over the slightest thing because sometimes, like other posters said, you can't change what will happen. Make these most of the good things that happen and worry when there is something to worry about, not just the "what if's"

I shan't post any more on this thread as I think I've explained myself enough

h&h 9 months to you all

They may be the silliest of things to you but to the person worried, they are not. This a support forum, people come here to share their concerns, worries, despair, excitement, terror, everything. I dont think it is fair to dismiss any of them as the silliest of things. How would you feel if someone was saying that about one of your threads?

Originally Posted by Snugggs

You can say I'm negative, unsupportive and what ever else.... But do you know what's really negative and unsupportive, when daily on here there are posts about the silliest of things that then make numerous other women worry.

The whole point of my original post was that I can't stand the tip toeing about on the forum about such worrying and negative posts. And I think many would agree..... The same reason why I stopped using the ttc section a year ago.

When I finally got my bfp I thought great, I'll go back to bnb, it'll be a happy place in the first tri section!

And just for the record for those that think my preg is stress and worry free, I can assure you it is not!
I did everything by the book with ds but from 7 weeks I was rushed to hospital every couple with a haemorrhage. I had an ECS at 30 weeks due to eclampsia and hellp syndrome and now have a mentally disabled and sensory and hearing impaired child..... It's inevitable that this pregnancy will have the same out come.

My point is, is to enjoy it while you have it, don't stress yourselves out over the slightest thing because sometimes, like other posters said, you can't change what will happen. Make these most of the good things that happen and worry when there is something to worry about, not just the "what if's"

I shan't post any more on this thread as I think I've explained myself enough

h&h 9 months to you all

i had eclapsia and a pph with my dd and i did everything right quit smoking, caffiene, some foods etc i slept on my left side drank plenty all i did was talk about pregnancy read every book i actually turned into some crazy pregnant lady i then suffer post tramatic stress for a year and turned into a google mad freak to find out why! one of the things i found was quitting smoking may lead to pre e doubt its true. iv since had 4 mc's and one i had to have a d&c but this pregnancy iv not given up hardly anything, i quit smoking slowly with the help for a nurse and i stay away from the books i do believe a relaxed attitude is so much better.
i do believe there is to many scares in the media but then its the same as cancer etc you shouldnt eat this or it may cause it etc and thats why so many people get scared, to many new theoris out there as to what causes what.

to the woman who are telling the poster to not read the posts that may annoy her well clearly this post annoyed you so why read and post on it! she was clearly just stating how she feels and like many said if you dont like what you read then move on!

Snuggs you are actually dismissing a lot of people's concerns and worries. Something may seem like a small thing to you but to another person they have been up all night worrying about it.

This is a forum which allows people to post, whether the posts are happy or sad. Unfortunately you cannot expect people to follow your lead and just post about happy things. Although with this thread you have actually posted negatively (imo) and kind of defeated what I think was your intention.

xxx

Originally Posted by mummydeb

i had eclapsia and a pph with my dd and i did everything right quit smoking, caffiene, some foods etc i slept on my left side drank plenty all i did was talk about pregnancy read every book i actually turned into some crazy pregnant lady i then suffer post tramatic stress for a year and turned into a google mad freak to find out why! one of the things i found was quitting smoking may lead to pre e doubt its true. iv since had 4 mc's and one i had to have a d&c but this pregnancy iv not given up hardly anything, i quit smoking slowly with the help for a nurse and i stay away from the books i do believe a relaxed attitude is so much better.
i do believe there is to many scares in the media but then its the same as cancer etc you shouldnt eat this or it may cause it etc and thats why so many people get scared, to many new theoris out there as to what causes what.

to the woman who are telling the poster to not read the posts that may annoy her well clearly this post annoyed you so why read and post on it! she was clearly just stating how she feels and like many said if you dont like what you read then move on!

But people post a worry or concern, not to have a go at other people but because they are genuinely concerned about something. This thread seems to be just there to have a pop at people who might worry. That doesnt really seem fair. Of course people are going to read and comment on this because of the heading. OP doesnt need to go into a post which for example might say 'worried, small bleed' if she thinks it's going to annoy her.

xxx

Not wanting to sound like Snuggs bodyguard, but I should think she probably gets it by now.

I post about ridiculous crazy worries all the time, and I wasn't in the least bit offended.

I think I speak for pretty much everyone on this thread, including all the worriers and the ones who just go with the flow, that I LOVE being pregnant . I worry alot, I try not to, but I constantly have my friends coming up to me and telling me that I'm going to have a miscarriage, or that doing certain things are going to harm my baby. I think most women have to deal with that, and my fears where what made me join this forum. I feel so much safer and more supported, just like everyone else!! I think the most important thing is to do what you feel is best for you and your baby, pregnancies are completely personal, aren't they?? I think people forget that. They see that one person had a symptom that connected to a miscarriage and think that if they get it they'll suffer too. I think this thread has lost its point, it's gone from a rant to a slinging match and that stress is bad for everyone involved. I hope you all have a great pregnancy and a happy, healthy baby

This is the reason why I hated first tri.
So many negative posts about worries, but the same worries posted a million times a day!
I get that people worry and stress I did too but what I don't get is when people choose to make a thread about it instead of phoning their dr or midwife to get professional advice.
There are tons of threads about no symptoms am I mc?
My tests aren't getting darker every hour am I mc?
It frightend me so much and made the start of what should have been an exciting time for me and other women quite stressful.
Did you know stress releases hormones that destroy muscles?
So what the hell must it be doing to a baby?

Because of this forum I was checking my cervix every day in a state of panic and was terrified to find on some days it appeared open!
I did have blood spotting early in my pregnancy and I had no morning sickness till quite late on but I didn't make a thread about it as I didn't see the point.
What could a forum do to help me really?
I called my midwife and my dr and had checks done so I then had ease of mind.

I can understand after talking to a dr wanting to chat with girls going through similar things but I can never get my head around the girls who just seem to make endless threads about these worries their having but never actually see someone who can help.
I'm sorry but if I thought my hormone levels weren't rising instead of peeing on a stick ever day to check the darkness I'd call the dr and ask for blood work to be done.

I'm really sorry but I'm not a saint like some girls on this forum, I do get irritated.
Yes we have worries but christ see a dr and make sure their valid worries and your not being paranoid, so you can relax and actually enjoy your pregnancy!

Fruitmash I have friends that do that too!!! Wtf?

What can possibly make them think its an appropriate thing to say?

I'm not a fan of Google either but we all use it ... however BabyandBump is for support which includes all those silly little worries that you may find annoying. Well if you find them annoying and pointless don't read and certainly don't make a thread/contribute to one cutting others down for their genuine anxieties and worries.

Maybe instead of creating/contributing to such an unsupportive thread you could put your time into your own perfect pregnancy or actually offer a little support to those who may be more vulnerable to the worries pregnancy does bring to MOST women ... after all that's what the forum is suppose to be for.

This thread is negative and not constructive therefore locked. Please ladies carry on using the forum for all your question, no question is EVER silly.