Why do people think because they gave in it means i will? - Page 2

AllieCat · Aug 14th, 2011, 13:54 PM

I have gotten laughed at about breast feeding. WHY do people think jist because they couldnt do it means its impossable! I'm not going to give up! i've read even if the baby only gets a little tiny bit of brest milk in the first few days its fine, because the stuff that comes out at first is like super nutrient packed and made to keep them alive. I will breast feed for at least 9 months, noone can tell me i wont. Stick firmly with what you think is best. My mom laughed at me when i told he i want as much organic clothing and products as possible. She just laughed at me! i had issues with my skin and used to get hives from certain clothes, i'm sure my baby will have ultra sensitive skin to.
here's what i tell people: "it's MY baby!" not their choice!

Jims_Girl · Aug 14th, 2011, 15:20 PM

Go for it!! I had the same with my first! I proved them all wrong and funny enough nobody has mentioned dummies, breast feeding or nappies yet!! lol
But remember, it's not about giving in, it's not an endurance test, it's about you making the choices you feel is right for you and bubba..... You might find that you have to change a few things on the way to suit both of you.....
I felt very strongly about breast feeding my baby and that my baby would never eat crappy food out of a jar or tin and she would never have a dummy - I'm proud that I upheld my morales! I couldn't work the nappies though, as much as I wanted to I just couldn't keep up. Family had bought the odd pack of huggies that were on offer, I tried them one day out of convenience and found that they were a lot softer and seemed more kinder on her little cute bum - so I kept using huggies.... This was 12 years ago though... Definitely going to give them another go this time....

karla1 · Aug 14th, 2011, 15:30 PM

LO is also never eatin crap from a jar but everyone even oh's family are with me on that one x

babyb54 · Aug 14th, 2011, 15:41 PM

I'm planning to cloth diaper, too! I told my mom before we were pregnant and she was supportive (albeit a little grossed out until I explained what modern day cloth diapers were like). I don't expect everyone to be so kind tho, but only time will tell! The fact of the matter is it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks..it's your and OH's bubba and you two will do what you think is best. Hopefully they will come around when they see how serious you are and that it's working for you two, though I can understand why in the meantime the laughs would be very frustrating!

Hang in there.

Deethehippy · Aug 14th, 2011, 15:41 PM

Its YOUR baby, you do what you want hun, my two children never had bottles or dummies and both drank from a beaker by 6 mths and i breastfed alongside.
With this baby i will be the same and if i want to have my baby fall asleep in my bed occasionally i will do that too! Stick to your guns! :-)

MLS · Aug 14th, 2011, 15:46 PM

Do you have any other kids?

If not, its probably just because they know that raising kiddos are difficult. And time consuming. And its a LOT of work taking care of a baby, especially adding all the work and maintinance of cloth diapers. Breastfeeding seemed easier to me than pumping and/or formula. But it kinda seems like you might be making your life harder when it comes to dummies (those are pacifiers, right??) The sucking reflex to an infant is comforting and calming, so I think youll find that you baby will be happer with one. (Unless you want to turn into a human pacifier... where your baby will always want to be latched on...) Its one of the only things they can do to soothe themselves as infants. Just a thought.

But you do what you want. Ask them to please be supportive of whatever you decide. But I found out with my first that what I WANTED and what WORKED best... were not the same things.

Good luck to you!

shorman · Aug 14th, 2011, 17:01 PM

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Originally Posted by MLS

Do you have any other kids?

If not, its probably just because they know that raising kiddos are difficult. And time consuming. And its a LOT of work taking care of a baby, especially adding all the work and maintinance of cloth diapers. Breastfeeding seemed easier to me than pumping and/or formula. But it kinda seems like you might be making your life harder when it comes to dummies (those are pacifiers, right??) The sucking reflex to an infant is comforting and calming, so I think youll find that you baby will be happer with one. (Unless you want to turn into a human pacifier... where your baby will always want to be latched on...) Its one of the only things they can do to soothe themselves as infants. Just a thought.

But you do what you want. Ask them to please be supportive of whatever you decide. But I found out with my first that what I WANTED and what WORKED best... were not the same things.

Good luck to you!

Lol totally agree with everything you said there dummies can be amazingly useful I wouldn't want the baby to always want to latch on every time to calm itself, I feel it incredibly important for children to self sooth and dummy's work
Great and let's you have that bit more sleep. But everyone has there own way of doing things as everyone say it is you baby but don't jump to think they are saying you can't do it as having a baby is hard work i am sure they just want to help and give you advise and if you don't agree with it don't take up on the advise, I would say just see what happens and do what you feel is right at the time there's no point in saying I am going to this and I am not going to do that because you might and you might not

crazylilth1ng · Aug 14th, 2011, 17:17 PM

Don't listen to them. I know that it is more difficult for some than others, but I persevered and breastfed both my children for over a year, and neither of them ever sucked on a dummy. My grandmother tried to give my eldest one but she wouldn't suck on it at all even to soothe herself. You just give it your best shot and don't let anyone try to talk you out of what you want to do. I just can't imagine the hassle of getting up at night to warm up formula (maybe I am just lazy lol). And I appreciate what the lady above said about some babies using their mothers breasts as human pacifiers, but my children never did (I imagne some do though).

I do admit though, I never used cloth nappies and I probably won't this time as OH isn't keen and it seems like a whole heap of work, but again... don't let others put you off

plastic · Aug 14th, 2011, 17:18 PM

Wow how insane, how you raise your child is up to you and your husband, family values will play a roll but at the end of the day you do what is right in your situation.

I was like you I wanted to breastfeed and have no dummie but unfortunately I had no choice (daughter was 3 months prem and couldn't breast feed, so we had to give her a dummie so she wouldn't lose her suck reflex, I also lost my milk before i could breastfeed

)

But do whats right for you, not whats other people think is right.

DollPosse · Aug 14th, 2011, 17:52 PM

I had made different choices for myself. I never wanted to use cloth diapers or breastfeed and yet I had everyone telling I "had" to do this.

Cloth diapers were not for me. Breastfeeding not for me either. I expressed breastmilk into bottles and fed and that suited both my daughter and I fine. Everyone else said things like I didn't care about my baby because I did not breastfeed and so on. Total BS in my opinion.

Do what you want. Your baby, your body, your money. Rock on!

Aug 14th, 2011, 13:54 PM	#11
AllieCat Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: USA, PA Posts: 785	I have gotten laughed at about breast feeding. WHY do people think jist because they couldnt do it means its impossable! I'm not going to give up! i've read even if the baby only gets a little tiny bit of brest milk in the first few days its fine, because the stuff that comes out at first is like super nutrient packed and made to keep them alive. I will breast feed for at least 9 months, noone can tell me i wont. Stick firmly with what you think is best. My mom laughed at me when i told he i want as much organic clothing and products as possible. She just laughed at me! i had issues with my skin and used to get hives from certain clothes, i'm sure my baby will have ultra sensitive skin to. here's what i tell people: "it's MY baby!" not their choice!

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Aug 14th, 2011, 15:20 PM	#12
Jims_Girl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 801	Go for it!! I had the same with my first! I proved them all wrong and funny enough nobody has mentioned dummies, breast feeding or nappies yet!! lol But remember, it's not about giving in, it's not an endurance test, it's about you making the choices you feel is right for you and bubba..... You might find that you have to change a few things on the way to suit both of you..... I felt very strongly about breast feeding my baby and that my baby would never eat crappy food out of a jar or tin and she would never have a dummy - I'm proud that I upheld my morales! I couldn't work the nappies though, as much as I wanted to I just couldn't keep up. Family had bought the odd pack of huggies that were on offer, I tried them one day out of convenience and found that they were a lot softer and seemed more kinder on her little cute bum - so I kept using huggies.... This was 12 years ago though... Definitely going to give them another go this time....

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Aug 14th, 2011, 15:30 PM	#13
karla1 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: rochdale, england Posts: 2,782	LO is also never eatin crap from a jar but everyone even oh's family are with me on that one x

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Aug 14th, 2011, 15:41 PM	#14
babyb54 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: South Carolina Posts: 1,155	I'm planning to cloth diaper, too! I told my mom before we were pregnant and she was supportive (albeit a little grossed out until I explained what modern day cloth diapers were like). I don't expect everyone to be so kind tho, but only time will tell! The fact of the matter is it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks..it's your and OH's bubba and you two will do what you think is best. Hopefully they will come around when they see how serious you are and that it's working for you two, though I can understand why in the meantime the laughs would be very frustrating! Hang in there.

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Deethehippy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Bucks, England, UK Posts: 8,370	Its YOUR baby, you do what you want hun, my two children never had bottles or dummies and both drank from a beaker by 6 mths and i breastfed alongside. With this baby i will be the same and if i want to have my baby fall asleep in my bed occasionally i will do that too! Stick to your guns! :-)

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Aug 14th, 2011, 15:46 PM	#16
MLS Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 996	Do you have any other kids? If not, its probably just because they know that raising kiddos are difficult. And time consuming. And its a LOT of work taking care of a baby, especially adding all the work and maintinance of cloth diapers. Breastfeeding seemed easier to me than pumping and/or formula. But it kinda seems like you might be making your life harder when it comes to dummies (those are pacifiers, right??) The sucking reflex to an infant is comforting and calming, so I think youll find that you baby will be happer with one. (Unless you want to turn into a human pacifier... where your baby will always want to be latched on...) Its one of the only things they can do to soothe themselves as infants. Just a thought. But you do what you want. Ask them to please be supportive of whatever you decide. But I found out with my first that what I WANTED and what WORKED best... were not the same things. Good luck to you!

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Aug 14th, 2011, 17:17 PM	#18
crazylilth1ng Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 3,406	Don't listen to them. I know that it is more difficult for some than others, but I persevered and breastfed both my children for over a year, and neither of them ever sucked on a dummy. My grandmother tried to give my eldest one but she wouldn't suck on it at all even to soothe herself. You just give it your best shot and don't let anyone try to talk you out of what you want to do. I just can't imagine the hassle of getting up at night to warm up formula (maybe I am just lazy lol). And I appreciate what the lady above said about some babies using their mothers breasts as human pacifiers, but my children never did (I imagne some do though). I do admit though, I never used cloth nappies and I probably won't this time as OH isn't keen and it seems like a whole heap of work, but again... don't let others put you off

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Aug 14th, 2011, 17:18 PM	#19
plastic Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 978	Wow how insane, how you raise your child is up to you and your husband, family values will play a roll but at the end of the day you do what is right in your situation. I was like you I wanted to breastfeed and have no dummie but unfortunately I had no choice (daughter was 3 months prem and couldn't breast feed, so we had to give her a dummie so she wouldn't lose her suck reflex, I also lost my milk before i could breastfeed ) But do whats right for you, not whats other people think is right.

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Aug 14th, 2011, 17:52 PM	#20
DollPosse Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,891	I had made different choices for myself. I never wanted to use cloth diapers or breastfeed and yet I had everyone telling I "had" to do this. Cloth diapers were not for me. Breastfeeding not for me either. I expressed breastmilk into bottles and fed and that suited both my daughter and I fine. Everyone else said things like I didn't care about my baby because I did not breastfeed and so on. Total BS in my opinion. Do what you want. Your baby, your body, your money. Rock on!

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