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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:36 PM   1
wellyboot
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Do I tell the boss now or later?


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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:46 PM   2
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I can't say what you should do but for me, I chose to be open with my bosses. I told her when I was about 7 weeks because I will be having quite a bit of appointments to go to, plus she knew we were ttc anyway because I had to tell her I was having a mc in June because of appointments, etc. She also said no woman should ever apologize for life, and babies are a part of life. I know that I have a great employer and great bosses, so it might be a bit different for me. If you would feel better that your boss knows so she doesn't cement work plans for you, telling her may be the best for both of you.



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:52 PM   3
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I told my bosses at 8 weeks because when I came back to work here I was covering a woman that went on a years maternity leave. Her year is almost up and she will be returning to work and I wanted them to have all the facts when working out where to put her or me.

I said it was early days but if all went well I would want a year off starting sometime end of April. Just so they can plan things.

Totally up to you because you aren't obligated legally to say, but just depends if you think she would rather know sooner so she can be prepared.

P.S my boss said 'we view this as a good thing, not a bad thing'. They know family is important.



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:55 PM   4
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Its a hard call Welly!! I am in a similar pickle! but I'm not telling my boss yet as I know he would then tell his boss, who is a bit of a blabbermouth shall we say, and pretty soon the whole office would know. So even though it will play a big impact on the team I work with, I'm keeping mum until I have to, at least 12 weeks!

I'm sure she will understand whenever you tell her, but I also know what you mean when their first thought will be one of horror (in their heads) while verbally showering congratulations! Good Luck! x



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 15:58 PM   5
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It's really a personal decision. For me, barring anything unforeseen, I dont plan to tell my employers and coworkers until 3.5-4 months. I work at a desk and work reasonable hours so being pregnant really doesnt affect my job - telling them is really more a courtesy even though we all get along fine! I dont expect to have a bunch of appointments before 4 months, maybe 2? So taking an hour or two off here and there for a 'doctors appt' wont be an issue.

Again it just depends on your situation! Good luck with whatever you decide.



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 16:03 PM   6
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I'm dreading telling my boss. I'm a primary teacher and just had practically the whole school year off after having my son. Have only just come back into the classroom (3 days a week) and will now be leaving at Easter again, all things being well. Am conscious that this will cause a headache not only with cover but also with the parents. Their last teacher went off sick at Easter for cancer treatment, and the class were very unsettled by it. Parents weren't that happy that their children were getting 2 teachers this year, so this news will not go down well with them. Dreading facing them, really.

We had planned to try at the end of this year, never imagined we would just 'fall' pregnant as we tried quite hard last time! I am very pleased from a personal perspective, but scared about telling.

Anyway, I am going to bite the bullet and tell him tomorrow as I haven't been able to get time off to see the midwife yet and will have to go this week so might as well come clean.

Good luck with whatever you decide. At the end of the day, it may be inconvenient for others, but you have to have your babies sometime, it is going to be inconvenient at one time or another. Don't worry, your boss will get over it x



 
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Old Oct 2nd, 2011, 17:17 PM   7
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Thanks for the advice, all of you. I'm working with her all day tomorrow so will see if I can pluck up the courage to tell her (depending on what mood she's in!). I suppose that the dread of telling her is stopping me from getting excited about this pregnancy, and it's time I started looking forward to another little one rather than worrying about coming clean!

Good luck, hinkybinky, hope it goes well with telling your head.

Also, I'm going to delete my original post now that I've had some views from others - really don't want any of my colleagues identifying me and telling the boss before I do!

Welly xx



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