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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:35 PM   1
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I wanted to start a VENT thread. Here is my vent.

I am only 8 weeks pregnant and super paranoid about it. I told my parents I was pregnant and asked that they not tell anyone. I did tell a couple of close friends. ALOT of my friends do not know each other, so it is safe.

Anyway, I wanted to tell my one sister because she is a great secret keeper. When I ended up telling my other sister a week later she barely sounded happy for me and just complained that I told my other sister first and how could I do this when I am closer to her etc etc. So I call my parents and told them that I told two of my siblings. My mom said: " Why can't you tell you brothers.?" well mom they have blabber mouths and I am not even close to them at all. So we got in a huge fight and she admitted that she wanted me to tell my brother AL for her onw selfish reasons. SHE then sent me a WTF email saying I should tell the rest of my siblings. I blew up (pregnancy hormones ) and wrote an email to my siblings telling them all. She took away a happy moment for me. I was looking forward to telling the rest of my siblings later on, when I felt safe about the pregnancy. My mom is a complete manipulator. I always have had issue with her.

So my advice to everyone out here. PLEASE wait to tell anyone about the pregnancy until 1st trimester is over. Now I fret I will lose the baby and have to make a million calls. Not to mention that none of my siblings knew I was pregnant/ SO if I miscarry they will give me pathetic looks and say " it will happen again." etc. I only told the people I know about the pregnancy that A) are women. B) might have miscarried or would not judge my situation if I did miscarry.

I am beyond upset. This was MY news to share and she made me tell people I did not want to tell.

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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:37 PM   2
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Sorry to hear that hun



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:50 PM   3
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Sorry to hear that hun
did you tell your parents or family before 12/13 weeks?



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:52 PM   4
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We got an early scan at 8weeks because I wanted to tell the family at xmas and for my own piece of mind as I'm a worrier

So yes we told them at 9 weeks



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:53 PM   5
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Oh and we officially announced it this week at 11 weeks



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 17:58 PM   6
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If you are 8 weeks along, your ultrasound should be able to confirm a heartbeat. If you saw it then please know your chances of miscarrying are lower now (you can google the statistics). Sorry about your mom, mom's can be tough. Don't stress and have faith. take care...



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 18:00 PM   7
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i would be really pissed off if any of the 3? people i have shared my news with told anyone else... that doesnt include my OH or my mum but thats it for people knowing

I am not telling anyone until we hit 23 weeks or someone says 'are you pregnant?' in which case i might tell people earlier

its a personal thing, when you want to tell and it should be up to the mother... sorry you have got to go through this, next time make sure your whole family are only told at 12/13 weeks if thats what you want hun x



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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 18:10 PM   8
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Oh can I have a vent too|??

We found out we were pregnant about 2 weeks before Christmas I told my mom and dad and to keep it a secret from the family cuz we were going to tell them at Christmas Eve supper. Well, my mom told my aunt who told the whole family on Christmas eve. Ok so I didnt get to tell them. Now my aunt is telling everyone. Grr.

Anyways...

My OH told his mom before Christmas since he couldnt keep a secret any longer, no problem, totally understandable, at least she was happy for us. Well he called his sister to tell her, and all she said was "already?" Thats all she fucking said!! Couldn't even be happy for us!! He called it on her and was like "I know you're not happy for us." She flipped on him and was like "Don't you talk to me like that, yadda, yadda, yadda!" But did not once say congrats, then at Christmas she was a bitch to me, nothing new there, she hates me, fine and dandy, cant say Im a fan of hers.

We went to his moms on NYE for supper and she was being a real cow to her oldest daughter who is 7, she was behaving great yet her mom kept saying she had an attitude and wouldn't let her eat with the other kids, kept giving her shit! Well I whispered to her daughter that I didn't think she had an attitude and to cheer up. Well, said sister asked daughter what I said, daughter told her, then sister went off about how maybe "she should mind her own business and take care of her own children." (Meaning me). Fine and dandy I may have overstepped my bounds but don't be such a bitch to your child who is being an absolute angel!

Grrr!!



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 19:03 PM   9
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Oh can I have a vent too|??

We found out we were pregnant about 2 weeks before Christmas I told my mom and dad and to keep it a secret from the family cuz we were going to tell them at Christmas Eve supper. Well, my mom told my aunt who told the whole family on Christmas eve. Ok so I didnt get to tell them. Now my aunt is telling everyone. Grr.

Anyways...

My OH told his mom before Christmas since he couldnt keep a secret any longer, no problem, totally understandable, at least she was happy for us. Well he called his sister to tell her, and all she said was "already?" Thats all she fucking said!! Couldn't even be happy for us!! He called it on her and was like "I know you're not happy for us." She flipped on him and was like "Don't you talk to me like that, yadda, yadda, yadda!" But did not once say congrats, then at Christmas she was a bitch to me, nothing new there, she hates me, fine and dandy, cant say Im a fan of hers.

We went to his moms on NYE for supper and she was being a real cow to her oldest daughter who is 7, she was behaving great yet her mom kept saying she had an attitude and wouldn't let her eat with the other kids, kept giving her shit! Well I whispered to her daughter that I didn't think she had an attitude and to cheer up. Well, said sister asked daughter what I said, daughter told her, then sister went off about how maybe "she should mind her own business and take care of her own children." (Meaning me). Fine and dandy I may have overstepped my bounds but don't be such a bitch to your child who is being an absolute angel!

Grrr!!
That's AWFUL! Did you confront your mom about telling your aunt?



 
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Old Jan 8th, 2012, 19:13 PM   10
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My mom was super apologetic, she was just excited. Just wish my aunt knew how to keep her mouth shut.



 
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