Too many miscarriages! - Page 2

Mom2mmcjg · Mar 6th, 2012, 19:57 PM

Baby, go ahead and get excited! I had 5 perfectly normal pregnancies with no complications at all before I ever had a miscarriage. The chances increase with age and the number of pregnancies you've had. Your chances are great to have a happy, uncomplicated pregnancy, assume that's what you'll have.

BabyRN2mommy · Mar 6th, 2012, 20:00 PM

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I hope you didn't think I was offended, I'm not at all, mine was a huge subchorionic haematoma so it was expected and at 9 weeks with a 1 year old to care about, I really had given up and not attached myself emotionally at all. That may sound brutal to some but it was what it was.

As I'm sure you know as a NICU nurse (I also worked in emergency services, policing) we tend to see a lot of the pain & heartache and also tend to gravitate/pay more attention to those same things, perhaps it magnifies the MC situation for you. You don't become a NICU nurse if you don't care about babies, so I'm sure it stings a bit harder right?

It's okay to be excited and optimistic. I am too, even though my MC was only 3 months ago. You know you can't do anything either way, so celebrate life as it is! Right now, it's life, and you have no reason to believe otherwise

Yes being pregnant in the NICU is brutal for all the nurses. What we see in there is such a tiny percentage of babies but to us, it's every baby. We all think we will deliver at 24 weeks or that something will be horribly wrong with our babies. One of my co workers just found out she was pregnant with twins and instead of being happy, she was crying and terrified of having preemies. I love my job more than anything in the world but it's hard to be pregnant in there! I just have to focus on the fact that it's unlikely I will fall into that category or I won't survive the next 8 months! Congrats on 16 weeks. You must be ecstatic! I can't wait to get there!

LAenne · Mar 6th, 2012, 23:37 PM

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Thanks everyone. I felt like a couple people were offended by what I said and I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about loss. All I was saying was that it seemed outrageously common to the point where I shouldn't be excited that I'm pregnant until I'm 12 weeks which is 7 weeks away. I lost my dad at age 6 and therefore always expect the worst things to happen to me. I am always afraid. My heart goes out to all the women who have lost their pregnancies. I can't imagine the pain. I am also a NICU RN and have tremendous sensitivity to women who delivery early and lose their babies. I just don't know if I should be excited and optimistic or just lay low and be realistic of what could happen.

I'm a nicu RN too and I hear ya. I in fact did MC in August at 8 weeks got pregnant 4 cycles later and am now 13 weeks and so far so good. I feel the same nicuitis too. It's hard working where we work and being pregnant. Good luck!!!

Lenny · Mar 7th, 2012, 11:57 AM

i no what u mean sweetie its taken me over a year to get pregnant i was on the verge of thinking it wasnt gonna happen for me and now it finally has half of me is over the moon and the other half is just wanting to get to my 12 weeks which is not till the end of april seems ages away!!

LeighAnne · Mar 7th, 2012, 12:09 PM

My first pregnancy I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 8 weeks pregnant. Oh how nice this was... Lol. Now, we find out before we have even missed a period... The wait is SOOOOOO long!!!

bitethebullet · Mar 7th, 2012, 12:36 PM

This is a huge forum too- more people means more miscarriages unfortunately.

CuteandPreggo · Mar 7th, 2012, 13:39 PM

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Originally Posted by aliss

The risk is around 15% of known pregnancies but around 30-50% in total for all pregnancies (ie. before you knew, so you just get your "period" and think of it as that).

The reason you see a lot of MC's is because while the risk is 15%, a lot of us have had many pregnancies. For example, I am actually on my 3rd pregnancy - one fine, one not, and then this one TBD. If you are going to try and become pregnant multiple times, it stands to reason you will likely go through one at one point, an unfortunate truth.

When you are TTC or journey into parenthood, it's something to be aware of. Nothing you do short of snorting cocaine each night is going to change whether it happens or not. The most important part is that you recognize the signs (particularly in the 2nd & 3rd trimester when there is a possibility of preventing a late loss/still birth).

Women like "us" really have nowhere else to turn to when we have a loss, so we talk about it here. The reality of 1st tri is that about a quarter of us don't make it to 2nd tri, but everyone needs help and support.

Very well said because this is my 3 pregnancy and I had a mc both times....I hoping this bean sticky

Candy Cane · Mar 7th, 2012, 14:00 PM

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Originally Posted by aliss

The risk is around 15% of known pregnancies but around 30-50% in total for all pregnancies (ie. before you knew, so you just get your "period" and think of it as that).

The reason you see a lot of MC's is because while the risk is 15%, a lot of us have had many pregnancies. For example, I am actually on my 3rd pregnancy - one fine, one not, and then this one TBD. If you are going to try and become pregnant multiple times, it stands to reason you will likely go through one at one point, an unfortunate truth.

When you are TTC or journey into parenthood, it's something to be aware of. Nothing you do short of snorting cocaine each night is going to change whether it happens or not. The most important part is that you recognize the signs (particularly in the 2nd & 3rd trimester when there is a possibility of preventing a late loss/still birth).

Women like "us" really have nowhere else to turn to when we have a loss, so we talk about it here. The reality of 1st tri is that about a quarter of us don't make it to 2nd tri, but everyone needs help and support.

Well said, and how very true. Stats are as you say, a lot higher than 10% unfortunately. I had three MC's before this pregnancy and finally we are baking our rainbow baby. My MC's had nothing to do with age or number of pregnancies, I was subsequently diagnosed with Thrombophilia (sticky blood) which was killing off my baby each time. Thankfully this forum helped me to find out about this problem and prompted me to ask for the tests.....if it weren't for BnB, I'm sure I wouldn't be in this position now. Whilst I agree it can be frightening to read some posts/threads, they do actually provide a lot of information and support for those unlucky ladies. I think its a case of choosing what you want to read. There have been times when I have chosen to step away from this forum as I find the negativity of some issues hard to deal with.

I'm sure you will be absolutely fine and have nothing to worry about, but if you do need any help, there are many ladies on here who are so kind and offer their advice and a virtual hug

Mar 6th, 2012, 19:57 PM	#11
Mom2mmcjg Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Nebraska, USA Posts: 1,676	Baby, go ahead and get excited! I had 5 perfectly normal pregnancies with no complications at all before I ever had a miscarriage. The chances increase with age and the number of pregnancies you've had. Your chances are great to have a happy, uncomplicated pregnancy, assume that's what you'll have.

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Mar 7th, 2012, 11:57 AM	#14
Lenny Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Co Durham Posts: 312	i no what u mean sweetie its taken me over a year to get pregnant i was on the verge of thinking it wasnt gonna happen for me and now it finally has half of me is over the moon and the other half is just wanting to get to my 12 weeks which is not till the end of april seems ages away!!

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LeighAnne Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Southwest Louisiana Posts: 1,551	My first pregnancy I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 8 weeks pregnant. Oh how nice this was... Lol. Now, we find out before we have even missed a period... The wait is SOOOOOO long!!!

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bitethebullet Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,336	This is a huge forum too- more people means more miscarriages unfortunately.

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