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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 18:23 PM   1
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Too many miscarriages!


I feel like every single person on this website has had a miscarriage which makes me think it's going to happen to me. I don't understand how it seems so common when reading all these posts but really the chance is less than 10%. It's so disheartening.



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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 18:34 PM   2
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Yeah I try to avoid any threads about miscarriages.....I have nothing but compassion for anyone going through that but I don't need to fill my head with any scary thoughts right now.

I think I read something like 15% of pregnancies end in miscarriage.



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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 18:38 PM   3
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The risk is around 15% of known pregnancies but around 30-50% in total for all pregnancies (ie. before you knew, so you just get your "period" and think of it as that).

The reason you see a lot of MC's is because while the risk is 15%, a lot of us have had many pregnancies. For example, I am actually on my 3rd pregnancy - one fine, one not, and then this one TBD. If you are going to try and become pregnant multiple times, it stands to reason you will likely go through one at one point, an unfortunate truth.

When you are TTC or journey into parenthood, it's something to be aware of. Nothing you do short of snorting cocaine each night is going to change whether it happens or not. The most important part is that you recognize the signs (particularly in the 2nd & 3rd trimester when there is a possibility of preventing a late loss/still birth).

Women like "us" really have nowhere else to turn to when we have a loss, so we talk about it here. The reality of 1st tri is that about a quarter of us don't make it to 2nd tri, but everyone needs help and support.



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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 18:58 PM   4
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It seems common because there are more post about miscarriage on this forum than others on the web. Don't freak out and think it will happen to you. This forum has a wonderful reputation for being supportive when going through a loss so there are more post. Also people who do not have problems with their pregnancy are less likely to post online anyway. Most people post questions or about a problem they are having those with no problems won't post.



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:06 PM   5
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More accurate pregnancy tests are also making people more aware of when they have an mc since they can find out if they are pregnant even before their period is due.

Also, women who have had a mc are probably more tha likely to search online for support, and this site has a lot of it.

During my first, which ended in mc, I did a google search looking for a good forum and this one seemed to be the most active and varied. Might be that, because this site is so popular, we are seeing more people who have had MCs.



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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:13 PM   6
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The chances are much higher than 10%. Recent studies show that as many as 50-70% of pregnancies end in m/c. The reason why the percentages have risen over the years is because pregnancy tests have become more sensitive and pick up pregnancy much earlier. Before super sensitive tests, women could miscarry when AF was due or a few days later while never knowing that they were pregnant.

Im on my 3rd pregnancy, 1st ended at 5 weeks, 2nd ended at 12 weeks, and Im currently 16 weeks along. There were no known causes for my losses. I was a member on B&B before I miscarried but many women join after to get support.



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:21 PM   7
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I think the rate is a lot higher on these boards because most of us have gotten pregnant on purpose, and thus, have been peeing on sticks since practically ovulation day. Therefore, we are hyper-aware of whether or not we are pregnant, and chemical pregnancies that might have gone otherwise unnoticed ARE noticed, and our miscarriage rate goes up.



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:30 PM   8
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I think that people who have had miscarriages are more prone to become members of sites like this. I mean from personal experience, I didn't do all the "Googling" until after I lost my twins. Which led me to this site... Don't worry. My first two pregnancies were textbook and I had healthy babies who are now 10 and 8. It scares me too even though I lost twins I am always like "goodness.... Seems like so many people miscarry on here".

Paranoia. If it doesn't kill us.



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:49 PM   9
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Thanks everyone. I felt like a couple people were offended by what I said and I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about loss. All I was saying was that it seemed outrageously common to the point where I shouldn't be excited that I'm pregnant until I'm 12 weeks which is 7 weeks away. I lost my dad at age 6 and therefore always expect the worst things to happen to me. I am always afraid. My heart goes out to all the women who have lost their pregnancies. I can't imagine the pain. I am also a NICU RN and have tremendous sensitivity to women who delivery early and lose their babies. I just don't know if I should be excited and optimistic or just lay low and be realistic of what could happen.



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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 19:54 PM   10
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Thanks everyone. I felt like a couple people were offended by what I said and I don't want you to get the wrong idea. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about loss. All I was saying was that it seemed outrageously common to the point where I shouldn't be excited that I'm pregnant until I'm 12 weeks which is 7 weeks away. I lost my dad at age 6 and therefore always expect the worst things to happen to me. I am always afraid. My heart goes out to all the women who have lost their pregnancies. I can't imagine the pain. I am also a NICU RN and have tremendous sensitivity to women who delivery early and lose their babies. I just don't know if I should be excited and optimistic or just lay low and be realistic of what could happen.
I hope you didn't think I was offended, I'm not at all, mine was a huge subchorionic haematoma so it was expected and at 9 weeks with a 1 year old to care about, I really had given up and not attached myself emotionally at all. That may sound brutal to some but it was what it was.

As I'm sure you know as a NICU nurse (I also worked in emergency services, policing) we tend to see a lot of the pain & heartache and also tend to gravitate/pay more attention to those same things, perhaps it magnifies the MC situation for you. You don't become a NICU nurse if you don't care about babies, so I'm sure it stings a bit harder right?

It's okay to be excited and optimistic. I am too, even though my MC was only 3 months ago. You know you can't do anything either way, so celebrate life as it is! Right now, it's life, and you have no reason to believe otherwise



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