this made me so sad so sorry you are feeling this way. my husband has been the opposite and told me not to lift a finger as i am doing the most important job... growing our baby! he should be supporting you more then ever right now! do not blame yourself and i hope he soon realizes how much of a jerk he has been and gives u an apology!

Whats the deal with husbands ay. They can be so good then so shit!!!! I'd be mad if I were you, they just don't get it ay.

Mine just said this morning "you are such a waste of space, you could be doing so much more round the house"!

Ass!!!!!

Ugh, that's so mean! I notice I'm definitely not the only one. Sorry to everyone else who have hormonal husbands. I think romantic movies really ruin it for women, because those men don't exist and we watch great movies and think...why isn't my husband like that?

My husband's been great so far but I started crying today when he told me his friends "invited" themselves to dinner tonight. We are staying temporarily on a US Navy base. We were going to go down the street to get some pizza and watch the first half of a basketball game and then come home before possibly going out later for a bit with everyone. Somehow his friends here always invite themselves to dinner. Don't they understand that married couples like to go out for dinner on the weekends and have some time to themselves when the other doesn't have to wake up for work the next day? Hubby never says "oh, we're going out to dinner tonight, but let's meet up later". Any time anyone suggests anything he just says yes every time without taking me into consideration, it feels like. That being said, it's not really like that all the time lol, I just felt that at the moment.

The worst part about it is that I am COMPLETELY AWARE the entire time that it's really not that big of a deal and that I'm overreacting but the tears kept coming!

Oh my god! If my husband said that I would seriously sock him in the face and then when I'm giving birth I would try to drench him with amniotic fluid and yell "who's a waste of space now, dick!" Lol, but really, sorry that your husband is being so douchy right now! Hopefully he'll snap out of it.

ROFL! Love it!

He shouldn't have acted that way, but you need to think of it from his perspective too. You said he didn't want kids yet and for him to suddenly get thrust into it must be a big scare and change for him. That alone would rattle him a little bit and the fact that he doesn't understand what is going on with you and why you don't feel as active can also get his goat a little. You should be communicating with him about this and about how tired you feel. He obviously doesn't understand the strains pregnancy can put on a woman, even this early, but that's where you come in as his wife to sit him down and explain it to him. Especially if he wasn't expecting a pregnancy when he didn't want kids this soon in his life. I'm not saying that he wasn't totally in the wrong for what he was saying and doing. It was a bit immature of him to stay out and say those things to you, but that's where you two have to work together in your marriage to get past this. Sitting down and talking about it rationally will really help you two to grow and help your marriage grow as well. And maybe when you feel up to it try and clean just a little bit at a time to show him that you are trying. He should appreciate that. If he doesn't then it's all on him and he needs to mature.

My man is acting up too... Complaining that the house isn't clean enough for him to live in... He travels for a month at a time.... We have a black lab and cat that sheds all the time. Between work and school and first trimester lack of power to move anything, yes the house isn't lick the floor clean, but it's clean damn it! Guys are just pissy in general... But it's worse when we are too tired to take care of them or wipe their asses, they throw a temper tantrum like a 2 year old.

I'm sure it will get better, or at least Im hoping it does!

You're ALLOWED to be lazy, you're pregnant! I don't care if he wasn't quite ready for kids, he still has no right to treat you that way, you shouldn't stress out a pregnant lady!

That is rough. I am so sorry. At least your husband hasn't told you that you have three choices, though-abortion, adoption, or leave. My husband came out with that gem a couple of weeks ago. So we made the decision that I was going to leave for while, stay with a couple of friends who can get me a job and find us our own place up where they live. (we're living with his father and stepmother right now, which just makes all our stress that much worse) I thought that plan had settled him down, but I mentioned that I had felt movement today and instead of being interested, he just made a face. Man, I'm tearing up just remembering his whole crappy attitude.