So after telling some ladies on a separate thread how great my husband was being, despite the fact that he doesn't want kids right now...that all changed yesterday! Sheesh. I'm in first tri and it seems that whenever I stand up for long periods of times, varying in length, I start to get really weak and dizzy and nauseas and sometimes I start to over-heat. So, I tend to be sitting or laying down a lot. My husband got mad at me last night because I never do anything and I'm lazy and he's getting tired of babysitting me. He said to me "you got what you want and then just sit around all day" The thing is that before I got pregnant I did all the housework apart from the cat litter and garbage. Not to mention we live with another guy until we move in April. Our roommate does dishes maybe once every week to week and a half, and since I fell pregnant my husband has been doing the dishes.. He does them about every other day. The house is filthy and I don't feel up to cleaning or cooking. When he makes me food it's eggs, a baked potato, or something in the toaster and he gets me drinks and sometimes goes to the store. I hardly call that babysitting. So I was pretty upset because he doesn't understand! Then he told me he was going out last night and that he would be back at 12 at the lastest. 12:30 rolls around so I text him and he told me a half hour...He didn't come in until 6 am! and he smelled so strong like alcohol. I asked him "where have you been?" and he said "At Dave's, I was having fun and I didn't want to leave, I knew you'd be mad but I didn't care" then we got into an argument and he told me to shut up and then I turned over and went to sleep. I just wanted to rant about it. Sorry it's so long.
Well, I feel really guilty because I do feel lazy and I want so much to get up and clean the house and make meals...but I just don't have the energy or strength. It was a struggle to even get him to read the 8 pages of the "father" section...I think he only read maybe 4 or 6 of them. He is still asleep now, missed his 8am class. I have decided to just avoid him today. I'm to angry and I don't want to stress my little baby. Thanks everyone.
I'm so sorry he's being like this. My husband has his moments, too. You are not lazy! You are nurturing and carrying a new life. I don't have any advice as to how to get across to him but maybe after he sees a scan of the baby he will come around.
Any opinions, advice, statements or other information expressed or made available on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com by users or third parties, including but not limited to bloggers, are solely those of the respective user or other third party. They do not reflect the opinions of BabyandBump.Momtastic.com and they have not been reviewed by a physician, psychologist or parenting expert or any member of the BabyandBump.Momtastic.com staff for accuracy, balance or objectivity. Content and other information presented on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com are not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, counseling, diagnosis, or treatment. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical or mental health advice from your physician or other qualified health provider because of something you have read on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com. BabyandBump.Momtastic.com does not endorse any opinion, advice, statement, product, service or treatment made available on the website. If you think you have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately.