So after telling some ladies on a separate thread how great my husband was being, despite the fact that he doesn't want kids right now...that all changed yesterday! Sheesh. I'm in first tri and it seems that whenever I stand up for long periods of times, varying in length, I start to get really weak and dizzy and nauseas and sometimes I start to over-heat. So, I tend to be sitting or laying down a lot. My husband got mad at me last night because I never do anything and I'm lazy and he's getting tired of babysitting me. He said to me "you got what you want and then just sit around all day" The thing is that before I got pregnant I did all the housework apart from the cat litter and garbage. Not to mention we live with another guy until we move in April. Our roommate does dishes maybe once every week to week and a half, and since I fell pregnant my husband has been doing the dishes.. He does them about every other day. The house is filthy and I don't feel up to cleaning or cooking. When he makes me food it's eggs, a baked potato, or something in the toaster and he gets me drinks and sometimes goes to the store. I hardly call that babysitting. So I was pretty upset because he doesn't understand! Then he told me he was going out last night and that he would be back at 12 at the lastest. 12:30 rolls around so I text him and he told me a half hour...He didn't come in until 6 am! and he smelled so strong like alcohol. I asked him "where have you been?" and he said "At Dave's, I was having fun and I didn't want to leave, I knew you'd be mad but I didn't care" then we got into an argument and he told me to shut up and then I turned over and went to sleep. I just wanted to rant about it. Sorry it's so long.

He is WAY in the wrong. I am sorry you have to deal with this.

what an immature guy, go grab your pregnancy/maternity book and throw it at him!!!



best to give him his space while aserting your position as his wife.

Wow that's pretty rude!
i too would trow my pregnancy books at him!

Wow that's pretty rude!
i too would trow my pregnancy books at him!

I agree, he deserves loads of books thrown at him.
Sorry you had to go through that.
He needs to get it together.

Well, I feel really guilty because I do feel lazy and I want so much to get up and clean the house and make meals...but I just don't have the energy or strength. It was a struggle to even get him to read the 8 pages of the "father" section...I think he only read maybe 4 or 6 of them. He is still asleep now, missed his 8am class. I have decided to just avoid him today. I'm to angry and I don't want to stress my little baby. Thanks everyone.

Seriously, it's NOT ok for ANYONE to speak to you that way, let alone your husband. He should be ashamed of himself for being so disrespectful.

Were it me, I wouldn't touch another thing in the house until he apologized and started acting like a grownup, and I wouldn't feel guilt about it either!

I'm so sorry he's being like this. My husband has his moments, too. You are not lazy! You are nurturing and carrying a new life. I don't have any advice as to how to get across to him but maybe after he sees a scan of the baby he will come around.

You're also making a baby which takes a LOT out of you.
You don't need that stress at all!