Where'd my sex life go?! - Page 2

Jelebi · Mar 15th, 2012, 08:02 AM

We had a very healthy sex life... we used to make love once a day, and on weekends sometimes twice. We are both very attracted to eachother and we love to have fun.
Ever since I found out I became pregnant, I had sex twice - and twice I spotted. Needless to say, things are almost dead - and I feel pretty bad, because I actually would LOVE to make love to him, but I am super scared.
I am trying to relax, but it's a little challenging to do that right now, considering I spot everytime we are intimate.

chrissbe17 · Mar 15th, 2012, 09:24 AM

Sex? Who's having sex anymore...lol. certainly not me! I feel bad but once we pass 12 weeks I will be ready to resume!

rubysoho120 · Mar 15th, 2012, 09:32 AM

We had sex maybe twice the entire 1st trimester. I have no sexual desires whats so ever. Poor DH. Now in the second I think we have maybe done it like 7 times. Still not really wanting to. I feel bad for him. I just don't even want to try, sounds awful.

princess_1991 · Mar 15th, 2012, 09:41 AM

We had a really high sex drive before we got pregnant (except through the ivf so we didn't have any sex for like 3 weeks before we got pregnant)

Now we've had sex a few times since about 8 weeks but I really cba!
I'm *tmi* really tight now and it's kinda uncomfortable and DH don't believe much in foreplay

But I'll come on to him and he's too tired then he'll try coming onto me and I'm not interested

Tess.ie · Mar 15th, 2012, 11:00 AM

Thank goodness its not just me!! We have only dtd about twice since finding out too......poor neglected DH!!! I'm telling him its practice for after our baby arrives!

I have been so nauseated and sick, the tiredness is extreme, I really couldnt be less interested in sex right now. I do feel bad about it, have to keep reassuring him that I do still find him sexy and attractive, its just sex I dont want.

Roll on 2nd tri when hopefully i dont feel sick or tired anymore

Fingers crossed!

Jelebi · Mar 15th, 2012, 11:04 AM

Now... we are making out. I forgot to mention. We love to tease eachother and I get a lot of enjoyment when I give him a BJ (TMI). I think to myself: hey, I can make him happy, I don't have to worry about him.

K_ · Mar 15th, 2012, 12:21 PM

I'm on the same boat.. we dtd once since finding out I'm preg. I had some discharge so it kind of freaked us out. Haven't done much since. Maybe one minute of making out when he came home for lunch.

Even if I'm not 'in the mood' it would be nice to know he wants to dtd! But he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby.

Looks like it's going to be a whilee.

Lozdi · Mar 15th, 2012, 13:00 PM

My sex drive went down the drain in the early weeks, but when I hit 13 weeks it came back now we are back to dtd a few times a week. I have a nasty cold right now and its frustrating because I am horny but don't want to infect OH with my nasty headcold!

ladylou86 · Mar 15th, 2012, 13:19 PM

we have dtd 5 times in the past 5 weeks so by the sounds of things thats quite a lot but i make sure we have it once a week coz hubby is a real grumpy git when he doesnt get any and he goes on and on about it it drives me crazy lol i really hope i get my mojo back but i do feel a bit scared that something will go wrong but i think its all just natural to feel like this

K_ · Mar 15th, 2012, 13:41 PM

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Originally Posted by ladylou86

we have dtd 5 times in the past 5 weeks so by the sounds of things thats quite a lot but i make sure we have it once a week coz hubby is a real grumpy git when he doesnt get any and he goes on and on about it it drives me crazy lol i really hope i get my mojo back but i do feel a bit scared that something will go wrong but i think its all just natural to feel like this

Sorry to ask but, did you have any discharge any of those times?

Mar 15th, 2012, 08:02 AM	#11
Jelebi Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 340	We had a very healthy sex life... we used to make love once a day, and on weekends sometimes twice. We are both very attracted to eachother and we love to have fun. Ever since I found out I became pregnant, I had sex twice - and twice I spotted. Needless to say, things are almost dead - and I feel pretty bad, because I actually would LOVE to make love to him, but I am super scared. I am trying to relax, but it's a little challenging to do that right now, considering I spot everytime we are intimate.

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Mar 15th, 2012, 09:24 AM	#12
chrissbe17 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 460	Sex? Who's having sex anymore...lol. certainly not me! I feel bad but once we pass 12 weeks I will be ready to resume!

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Mar 15th, 2012, 09:32 AM	#13
rubysoho120 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,360	We had sex maybe twice the entire 1st trimester. I have no sexual desires whats so ever. Poor DH. Now in the second I think we have maybe done it like 7 times. Still not really wanting to. I feel bad for him. I just don't even want to try, sounds awful.

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Mar 15th, 2012, 09:41 AM	#14
princess_1991 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: West Midlands :D Posts: 3,736	We had a really high sex drive before we got pregnant (except through the ivf so we didn't have any sex for like 3 weeks before we got pregnant) Now we've had sex a few times since about 8 weeks but I really cba! I'm tmi really tight now and it's kinda uncomfortable and DH don't believe much in foreplay But I'll come on to him and he's too tired then he'll try coming onto me and I'm not interested

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Mar 15th, 2012, 11:00 AM	#15
Tess.ie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Sunny South East, Ireland Posts: 410	Thank goodness its not just me!! We have only dtd about twice since finding out too......poor neglected DH!!! I'm telling him its practice for after our baby arrives! I have been so nauseated and sick, the tiredness is extreme, I really couldnt be less interested in sex right now. I do feel bad about it, have to keep reassuring him that I do still find him sexy and attractive, its just sex I dont want. Roll on 2nd tri when hopefully i dont feel sick or tired anymore Fingers crossed!

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Mar 15th, 2012, 11:04 AM	#16
Jelebi Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Toronto, Canada Posts: 340	Now... we are making out. I forgot to mention. We love to tease eachother and I get a lot of enjoyment when I give him a BJ (TMI). I think to myself: hey, I can make him happy, I don't have to worry about him.

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Mar 15th, 2012, 12:21 PM	#17
K_ Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 308	I'm on the same boat.. we dtd once since finding out I'm preg. I had some discharge so it kind of freaked us out. Haven't done much since. Maybe one minute of making out when he came home for lunch. Even if I'm not 'in the mood' it would be nice to know he wants to dtd! But he says he doesn't want to hurt the baby. Looks like it's going to be a whilee.

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Mar 15th, 2012, 13:00 PM	#18
Lozdi Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 2,836	My sex drive went down the drain in the early weeks, but when I hit 13 weeks it came back now we are back to dtd a few times a week. I have a nasty cold right now and its frustrating because I am horny but don't want to infect OH with my nasty headcold!

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Mar 15th, 2012, 13:19 PM	#19
ladylou86 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 375	we have dtd 5 times in the past 5 weeks so by the sounds of things thats quite a lot but i make sure we have it once a week coz hubby is a real grumpy git when he doesnt get any and he goes on and on about it it drives me crazy lol i really hope i get my mojo back but i do feel a bit scared that something will go wrong but i think its all just natural to feel like this

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