Ruined things for my OH :o(( - Page 2

aegle · Mar 15th, 2012, 16:22 PM

Trust me hun, there have been worse things done to men by pregnant hormonal women

I was terrible to OH the first few weeks too. It's terrifying and a lot to get used to and, if you're like me, he all of a sudden smells weird and sex is the last thing on your mind and when he wants to kiss you, you need to turn away cause it's too much.

It gets better. Really, it does.

To make it better... apologize but let him know that it's normal for you to be like this, that it will pass, and that you really need him to be on your side until it does.

barefootnpreg · Mar 15th, 2012, 16:38 PM

You haven't ruined it forever; just let him know how you've been feeling and apologize if you've mistreated him. I'm sure he'll forgive you and he'll be happy that you guys are communicating and talking about it.

I've been pretty awful to my OH at times and rather then feel bad about it I end up getting mad at him for not being sensitive enough to the fact that pregnancy has made me a raging bitch lol.

Your man will understand! Just blame it on the hormones

urchin · Mar 15th, 2012, 22:11 PM

I think I'd try explaining to him about trimesters
If he understands that first tri is all about hormones and weird feelings and being scared, but that second tri is where most women relax a little (as the most dangerous bit is behind them) he may be able to put things into perspective a little

I made a very conscious decision this time to let myself get excited - don't get me wrong, I'm still worried and will stay that way until after my 12 wk scan ... but I am also excited and hopeful about the pregnancy.
When I was pregnant before, it ended with a MMC - I hadn't let myself get too hopeful to try and cushion the blow. It didn't work at all, I was still absolutely devastated. So this time I decided there was no point preparing for the worst, it wouldn't help me anyway, so I may as well get excited.

and...
although he feels that you have ruined the best thing in his life so far - that is still only so far! When he holds his baby in his arms for the first time, he will pretty soon realise that this is the best feeling ever (and that trumps so far big time!)

Cata · Mar 15th, 2012, 22:23 PM

About a week ago I had a fight with my boyfriend, more like a fight with myself as he was just staring at me and I was furious, next day we talked about it and of course I cried and I told him how worried I was because of our recent loss and how I couldn't explain why i was so mad... he stopped me and said: Don't cry, that's nothing! the best is yet to come

Now that we are away because I had to fly back to Costa Rica to get better care, I remember that every day, the best is yet to come.

Don't feel bad, we all become witches at some point, is normal and it won't last forever.

Mar 15th, 2012, 16:22 PM	#11
aegle Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 736	Trust me hun, there have been worse things done to men by pregnant hormonal women I was terrible to OH the first few weeks too. It's terrifying and a lot to get used to and, if you're like me, he all of a sudden smells weird and sex is the last thing on your mind and when he wants to kiss you, you need to turn away cause it's too much. It gets better. Really, it does. To make it better... apologize but let him know that it's normal for you to be like this, that it will pass, and that you really need him to be on your side until it does.

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Mar 15th, 2012, 16:38 PM	#12
barefootnpreg Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 238	You haven't ruined it forever; just let him know how you've been feeling and apologize if you've mistreated him. I'm sure he'll forgive you and he'll be happy that you guys are communicating and talking about it. I've been pretty awful to my OH at times and rather then feel bad about it I end up getting mad at him for not being sensitive enough to the fact that pregnancy has made me a raging bitch lol. Your man will understand! Just blame it on the hormones

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Mar 15th, 2012, 22:11 PM	#13
urchin Other BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: West Midlands Posts: 6,409	I think I'd try explaining to him about trimesters If he understands that first tri is all about hormones and weird feelings and being scared, but that second tri is where most women relax a little (as the most dangerous bit is behind them) he may be able to put things into perspective a little I made a very conscious decision this time to let myself get excited - don't get me wrong, I'm still worried and will stay that way until after my 12 wk scan ... but I am also excited and hopeful about the pregnancy. When I was pregnant before, it ended with a MMC - I hadn't let myself get too hopeful to try and cushion the blow. It didn't work at all, I was still absolutely devastated. So this time I decided there was no point preparing for the worst, it wouldn't help me anyway, so I may as well get excited. and... although he feels that you have ruined the best thing in his life so far - that is still only so far! When he holds his baby in his arms for the first time, he will pretty soon realise that this is the best feeling ever (and that trumps so far big time!)

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Mar 15th, 2012, 22:23 PM	#14
Cata AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Costa Rica Posts: 787	About a week ago I had a fight with my boyfriend, more like a fight with myself as he was just staring at me and I was furious, next day we talked about it and of course I cried and I told him how worried I was because of our recent loss and how I couldn't explain why i was so mad... he stopped me and said: Don't cry, that's nothing! the best is yet to come Now that we are away because I had to fly back to Costa Rica to get better care, I remember that every day, the best is yet to come. Don't feel bad, we all become witches at some point, is normal and it won't last forever.

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