First baby, single mommy, cold feet about motherhood.

melissalynn · Mar 15th, 2012, 18:57 PM

I found out I was pregnant on February 15th. I am really excited by the prospects of being a mother but at times I am kind of upset that I am going to have to give up the life I live now.
Does this mean I am not ready to have a baby? Or does everyone go through this?

Jslyn9996 · Mar 15th, 2012, 19:16 PM

Oh I think about it..but seeing LO on a scan or feeling him inside me makes it worth it. Btw congrats

keepholdingon · Mar 15th, 2012, 19:53 PM

I think every one of us, whether we are single or married or dating has those same thoughts. You are DEFINITELY not alone. I think that if we didn't think that then there'd be something wrong!

You will be wonderful and you'll find support in people all around you!

melissalynn · Mar 15th, 2012, 20:42 PM

Thank you so much, ladies. I am young and this definitely was not expected.

Jslyn9996 · Mar 15th, 2012, 21:49 PM

It can be scary. I wish you the best of luck.

Cata · Mar 15th, 2012, 22:07 PM

You're not alone

I had to give up my job as soon as I learned I was pregnant ( I worked on a cruise ship's casino) I left my job and flew back to my country on Sat, my baby's dad is still there, he calls but you never know what will happen.

I did think of the life I just left behind, making lots of money and having lots of fun, traveling around the world but you know what? on Monday, when I heard my baby's heart b for the first time that was the happiest day of my life, nothing ever made me feel like this before

I'm scared too, my mom passed away and I have no idea of how to be a mom but I guess I will learn

All the best!

SarahDiener · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:05 AM

I'm scared too! I think we are freak out to some degree. I'm secretly scared I'm going to hate being a mum!

stephie_corin · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:33 AM

It's a major life change but like the others have said, once you see your baby on a scan or feel him inside you, I think it will all become more exciting! Wishing you all the best xxx

fingers_cross · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:58 AM

i think its completely normal. babys father and I broke up 2 weeks before i found out i was pregnant. im now 25, live with my mum and have no job (as i just moved back to the uk when i broke up with babys father) so i definitely understand where ur coming from. it was a big shock when i found out i was pregnant, but i saw baby on the scan last week and saw his/her little heart beating away, i wouldnt change it for the world. and just think, once the baby is grown up, u have the rest of ur life to do the things u might be missing out on now.

rubysoho120 · Mar 16th, 2012, 09:22 AM

I'm scared too. I can't even imagine having a baby. Like I try to see my future, and I see hubby and my and our dog, but I can't imagine our whole lives being about the baby. DH has been so excited this whole time for the baby, and I have been like WTF have we done, our lives are over. We don't even live exciting lives. Just normal jobs, we mostly stay at home and all that. Its just a lot to process. I feel like 9 months is not long enough to process it all. And I feel like a jerk of a mom since I'm not thrilled 24/7 like everyone else.

Mar 15th, 2012, 18:57 PM	#1
melissalynn Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 72	First baby, single mommy, cold feet about motherhood. I found out I was pregnant on February 15th. I am really excited by the prospects of being a mother but at times I am kind of upset that I am going to have to give up the life I live now. Does this mean I am not ready to have a baby? Or does everyone go through this?

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Mar 15th, 2012, 19:16 PM	#2
Jslyn9996 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,508	Oh I think about it..but seeing LO on a scan or feeling him inside me makes it worth it. Btw congrats

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Mar 15th, 2012, 19:53 PM	#3
keepholdingon Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 2,867	I think every one of us, whether we are single or married or dating has those same thoughts. You are DEFINITELY not alone. I think that if we didn't think that then there'd be something wrong! You will be wonderful and you'll find support in people all around you!

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Mar 15th, 2012, 20:42 PM	#4
melissalynn Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 72	Thank you so much, ladies. I am young and this definitely was not expected.

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Jslyn9996 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,508	It can be scary. I wish you the best of luck.

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Cata AutoSignup (SAAB) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Costa Rica Posts: 787	You're not alone I had to give up my job as soon as I learned I was pregnant ( I worked on a cruise ship's casino) I left my job and flew back to my country on Sat, my baby's dad is still there, he calls but you never know what will happen. I did think of the life I just left behind, making lots of money and having lots of fun, traveling around the world but you know what? on Monday, when I heard my baby's heart b for the first time that was the happiest day of my life, nothing ever made me feel like this before I'm scared too, my mom passed away and I have no idea of how to be a mom but I guess I will learn All the best!

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:05 AM	#7
SarahDiener Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Germany Posts: 2,084	I'm scared too! I think we are freak out to some degree. I'm secretly scared I'm going to hate being a mum!

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:33 AM	#8
stephie_corin Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Middle East Posts: 1,474	It's a major life change but like the others have said, once you see your baby on a scan or feel him inside you, I think it will all become more exciting! Wishing you all the best xxx

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:58 AM	#9
fingers_cross Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,518	i think its completely normal. babys father and I broke up 2 weeks before i found out i was pregnant. im now 25, live with my mum and have no job (as i just moved back to the uk when i broke up with babys father) so i definitely understand where ur coming from. it was a big shock when i found out i was pregnant, but i saw baby on the scan last week and saw his/her little heart beating away, i wouldnt change it for the world. and just think, once the baby is grown up, u have the rest of ur life to do the things u might be missing out on now.

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Mar 16th, 2012, 09:22 AM	#10
rubysoho120 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California Posts: 1,360	I'm scared too. I can't even imagine having a baby. Like I try to see my future, and I see hubby and my and our dog, but I can't imagine our whole lives being about the baby. DH has been so excited this whole time for the baby, and I have been like WTF have we done, our lives are over. We don't even live exciting lives. Just normal jobs, we mostly stay at home and all that. Its just a lot to process. I feel like 9 months is not long enough to process it all. And I feel like a jerk of a mom since I'm not thrilled 24/7 like everyone else.

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