So, I've been trying to keep my pregnancy under wraps until I'm out of the first trimester, but the stress of telling my family is on my last nerve. My mom and siblings, except the youngest, all know. But my dad has no idea. I had a miscarriage back in December, and told him only after it happened. He was rude, insulted me, and has since called me terrible names and told me he has never been so disappointed in anyone in his entire life- I'm 20 (21 this Thursday) and unmarried. He and my mother got pregnant with me when she was 19 & he was 27 and they were unmarried, and his parents were pregnant before they got married. So, he's really just being hypocritical. I'm done with school and looking for jobs, so it's not like I'm planning on being a college drop out. I'm not as concerned about telling him than I am about telling his family. I've cut him out of my life for the most part for many reasons, but I haven't done so with his family since none of them have done anything wrong. But, I know my grandmother will be just as unsupportive as my father, and she is going to have to know eventually. My aunts and uncles will be more accepting, but they still won't be thrilled to say the least. Has anyone else had to deal with this? Because I'm not sure when or how to tell them. Part of me wants to wait until I'm done with the first trimester and have no choice but to tell them, and the other part of me just wants to get it over with and not have to think about it anymore. I've lost a lot of weight within the past year, and with them being all about self image, they will surely notice that I've started to gain a little weight back, most noticeably around the middle where I'm super bloated. So by the time I'm 13 weeks, I have a feeling it will be impossible to hide it from them.

OMG How rude of your Father!!!...

To be quite honest i cant understand why your stressing yourself like about him and his family...

I wouldnt tell him!!!, if there see you and guess, just go Oh yes were thrilled were Pregnant and just leave it at that... if there have anything negitive to say... id just say, if you havent got anything nice to say, then please dont say it... I really wouldnt allow them to stress you out x

i had the same with my family and my 1st pregnancy, all doom and gloom! So with next pregnancy, i thought about what they would say and prepared answers, i faked the biggest smile i could, i walked into a room full of family and bounced about happy as i could telling them all i was pregnant, ofc i was with a new partner than my sons father, and i was asked was i just going to have babies with everyone, ( id been with my new partner 2 years! ) and all the other bollocks little of it happy, so I smiled, took a breath, and told them all to be happy for me or stop talking ! shocked them, made me giggle and there was no more negitive talk ( infront of me at least )

they can like it or lump it, either way they have to get used to it, and as soon as they meet baby they will be happy

Focus on yourself, your OH and your bean put your little family in a bubble and dont let anyone pop it