RANT! 12 weeks and still no scan - Plus, useless midwife!
I found that I was pregnant when I was 4 weeks, I couldn't get a appt. to see my doctor til I was 7 weeks which is when I informed her. She then didn't get me a midwife appt. til 11 weeks which was my first one. All the midwife done was take my BP and BMI and threw loads of booklets at me - no trying to hear the heart beat or anything, and I'm petrified that something is wrong as my sister had a miscarriage at 8 weeks but didn't know til her 12 week scan. I also asked about help with morning sickness as I'm incredibly ill, sometimes not even keeping liquids down for the entire day. I went about a week not eating and living off water that was constantly coming back up, all she had to say was ride it out. And she was really rushing me, when she'd ask me a question and I was trying to explain to her a situation such as a medical problem, she would say 'Just a simple yes or no, otherwise we are going to be here forever'. - What if I wasn't sure of a question? I've also looked over my notes and see that from her rushing me certain things had been missed out i.e. that a lot of my family have had cancer, including my auntie. And when my partner wanted to know things she was really short with him i.e. when he was asking if she needed to know about certain medical things about him, she would just say 'No.'.
Today I am 12 weeks pregnant from LMP, and I am yet to receive my scan date. The midwife said she was taking the form up that evening and that I would here from them soon via post. I know it has only been 8 days since my appt. but I've heard that it can take up to two weeks for the date to come through, and then you still have to wait for the appointment for however long! I have opted to have the combined test for Downs and I'm a little worried that I won't get my appt. in the time frame! I tried to contact the ultrasound ward but to no avail. I also text my midwife asking when I should roughly expect it and all she had to say was 'Be patient.'
And another thing, when the midwife made my appointment for 16 weeks with her, I had only 9am ish on either the Monday or Wednesday to chose from. And I said do you have anything in the afternoon and she was just 'No! I don't work afternoons!'. I seen her screen also and she had no appts. on the Tuesday and there was only one more appt. on the Monday, after the slot I could have. I'm sure she is purely trying to give out time slots for her benefit so she doesn't have to wait around. It's not on! I'm really angry with the service being given! I'm currently at uni and have to watch that I don't have an exam on the same day. But it seems that if I can't do her times then I can't been seen, end of. She clearly doesn't seem to care that her patients may have other things going on in their lives!
That doesn't sound good hun. I think I'd be looking at switching midwives tbh especially if she isn't giving you time to ask the questions you want to.
With regards your scan, try not to worry. I was getting concerned as I hadn't had my letter by 10 days after my appointment but I got my letter on Friday and my scan yesterday so it was a very short wait in the end.
Perhaps speak to your practice manager about seeing a different midwife?
Thank you for your reply At the end she did ask if I had any questions, but after being so rushed I was overwhelmed with the amount of information and forgot half of the things she had said! I think I will look into changing midwives! Thanks again xoxoxo
I would be really annoyed with being treated like that too. We were lucky to have a really nice midwife who has been great with me but unfortunately my surgery and doctor was useless.
He never had the time to listen and after sometimes waiting around 3 hours in open surgery to see him and then only getting 2 mins of his time and having a perscription thrown at me I moved doctors! When I really needed reassurance his only answer was your only early we will just have to wait and see what happens!
Moving was the best thing I did! I was desperate to get hold of my midwife yesterday morning or antenatal clinic but apparently it was too early. I phoned my surgery explained the problem and they had me in with the nurse within the hour!
Definately change it will be well worth it. My sister had a bad experience with a midwife so she complained about her after that she was really looked after!
You need someone who you feel you can talk to about anything.
As for the morning sickness if its really bad make an appointment at the gp and they may give you anti sickness tablets. I also reccomend ginger (tea, biscuits crystalised) and eating little and often.
Good luck and try not to stress!
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