Sorry it's A little long
OH's dad fell ill late last night, so obviously we flew from London back to Ireland as soon as we could. And all my OH's siblings are all staying at his Mum & Dads house. And tonight, we were all in the sitting room just staring at each other. And someone said that 'at least the kids are having fun, they haven't all been together in a while'. And then people started talking and all eyes turned on us, asking us when we were going to have kids (My husband is the eldest, and most of his siblings have kids now). Only this weekend I found out I was pregnant, but i'm in the very early stages. OH just really wants to tell everyone, but I don't want him to, so he just told his sister Ali. Then Ali was sat there with a smirk on her face, so my husbands brother noticed and said 'Ali, lets go get more wine from the kitchen, we need it'. So Ali's probably after telling him too, and he'll probably tell his partner and the chain goes on! I don't want anyone to know yet. I had a misscarriage before (Nobody know's about the misscarriage either), last time I didn't know I was pregnant so I was still taking the pill which caused me to lose the baby, but I just feel like I could have another misscarriage!
Would you be annoyed if your husband did that to you? I told him not to tell anyone! But he did, knowing damn well his family couldn't keep a secret if their lives depended on it!
EDIT - I seriously just want to smack him in the face. Because at least 2 other people know now! I know he's excited and all, but he just doesn't listen.
And sorry you guys, you're going to have to put up with me and my rants for the next 9 months....and my childs first 18 years of life. So I'm really sorry for my moody & bitchiness.. I can't help it
Considering you've gone through a miscarriage before I understand why you'd want to wait on sharing the news. He is probably just so excited and wants to scream it to the world. However, I'd be annoyed too if my OH insisted on sharing the news before I felt ready. Hope he is a little more understanding of your emotions soon.
I am completely with you. I told my OH that he could tell his family as they are in another country and that is it. He is not to breath another word to anyone until I am more relaxed To be honest I did not want even his family to know as his one sister can not hold her tongue but I couldn't make him tell the rest and not her....could I??? lol
If we had agreed that noone were to be told then I would not be happy...however I dont think its fair for you to tell him he isnt telling anyone. Should be a joint decision thats discussed rather than dictated. x
You know its funny- I wanted to tell everyone and OH wanted to wait. Guess what? I told EVERYONE.....on my side. I didn't say a peep to OH's family- thats his job. I don't care if they know or not- they don't like me because I'm white, anyways (seriously- no joke)...so I really don't associate with any of them. The only one in his family I told was his cousin who is also a manager at my work...she's going to be the Godmother. If I miscarry, I feel like Baby was at least celebrated...and I will have a huge support system. OH wasn't too happy, but once I explained that...he seemed to accept it.
He still isn't telling anyone in his family until 12 weeks. His other cousin found out so he admitted it to him, but other than that....denial, denial, denial.
It kind of hurts, really....I know he's just waiting until its safe and thats good logic...but my pregnancy brain says, "HE'S DENYING BABY EXISTS!!! PUNCH HIM IN HIS FACE!!!"
Congrats on your pregnancy
I'm sure he didn't mean to go against you or your wishes,and it's soo annoying when they do that, but you might be better just letting him tell the rest of them now to stop the gossips. If things don't go right, although it'll be devastating, it wouldn't be your fault and they might be more understanding than you think they'll be and put less pressure on you next time round.
Hope that wasn't too harsh, and hoping that you have a VERY healthy and happy 9mths.
That's a tough one I can see why you're so mad, because it's more about him respecting your feelings and keeping is quiet. And it's not like you're asking him never to tell them, just wait a few weeks!
My DH is dying to tell everyone, but I really want to wait. I know my family would prefer to know when things were a bit further along (weird I know) but I know DHs family would like to know straight away! I think my family would be a little offended if DHs family knew first and like B4baby says you can't really cherry pick who you tell without risking arguments.
I made a deal with DH, if he can keep it a secret for just a few more weeks he can tell BOTH families and all our friends!
I'd sit DH down and tell him how hurt you feel, but what's done is done so I'd try not to dwell on it too much, you don't want your memory of this happy time to be tainted with bad feelings.
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