Well, I had my first ultrasound yesterday and the baby is perfect... but when they dated it they changed my due date. Which means the day I thought I conceived changed as well.
The problem arises here... originally I thought the baby was my ex-boyfriend's, but after the ultrasound I am not sure if it is my ex's or the new guy's.
According to my due date I should have conceived around January 27th but I was with neither of them at the time. My ex and I broke up on the 17th (we hadn't done the deed since the beginning of the month) and the new guy and I didn't get together until the 5th of February.
I am so ashamed, these things aren't supposed to happen, pregnancy is supposed to be a happy time. And now I am embarrassed and feel so alone.
Does anyone have any advice?
I don't really have any advice I would just talk to your dr about when they think your conception date is, my baby is reading exactly to the day of ovulation so how far along did they dr say your baby was
Well if the date drs say you would have conceived on is when you weren't sexually involved with anyone, surely they're wrong?! Maybe the baby was measuring slightly off for your dates but will level out by 20 week scan?xx
Getting into the nitty gritty, sperm can't live past 5 days once ejaculated, and the doc's estimated date of conception is 10 days after you DTD with your ex. Rules him out. Their EDC also strikes *before* you DTD with Mr. New, so that rules him out too. I think you'll just have to wait until a later scan to see how far along you are and see if their estimations change according to how your LO is growing.
Best of luck with the wait - I know that's the most anxious part.
quite clearly the ultra sound date does not allow for either of the men in your life to be the father and one of them is, so all you can do is wait until your 20 week scan for a more accurate measurement.
Ignore the scan date, if your baby has grown right at the top of the range then a week's difference is nothing. They quote your date on the average, at 8 weeks (when I had my first scan) the average was +/- 4 days so by 12 weeks the margin of error must be at least a week!
If you didn't have sex with your ex for a month (roughly) before that then it's very unlikely to be his - the chance of being 4-5wks out on the scan is much more unlikely.
Nothing to be ashamed about love! To me, it sounds like the new guy is the father. The baby could be measuring big. Sperm only lives for at most 5-7 days (which is rare), so I really doubt your ex is the father unless baby is measuring a lot smaller. xx
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