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TNW · Apr 3rd, 2012, 20:52 PM

my drs never said anything. I am bigger and the nurse found it at 10 weeks

fertilesoul · Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:40 PM

What a jerk. He should not have said that.

Just FYI I am a petite lady and my doc refused to check for a heart beat with the doppler at 10+2 prenatal appointment stating that its too early to find it easily. I told her I needed reassurance so she busted out the bedside ultrasound. So although at 10 weeks it is too early for dopplers at a prenatal visit he should not have blamed it on your size.

pixeldust · Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:47 PM

I never got "dopplered" by my midwife until I was 16+ weeks.

TBH though, if he hadn't managed to find a heartbeat, it would have only panicked you, right?

tuckie27 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:03 PM

I have heard that it's true, if you're overweight, it is a lot harder to find the hb with doppler. He probably should have had better bedside manner or have not made you feel like he was just brushing you off though. I think the extra fat in your abdomen just puts more padding between the doppler and the hb and makes it harder to detect, but with a vaginal ultrasound, that shouldn't matter...maybe you can get that instead?

Marini_Mare · Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:11 PM

I would change doctors! my dr said they start using doppler to hear HB at 10? weeks... might have been 12.... I found HB with my home doppler at exactly 9 weeks... I'm not skinny but I'm not overweight though, so not sure if weight has anything to do with it

but that's a jerk thing to say!

beth30 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:29 PM

I think he should have said well, if you want to try, we can give it a go.... it isn't like he is paying you to be there, you are paying him for his time.... I think doctors forget that fact...and sometimes maybe we need to remind them.

Aelanu · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:38 AM

What the hell?! Why is no one outraged by how this doctor treated her?! I can NOT believe that!!

Especially since there's this- please forgive me I don't know the name- wand thingy that they stick in your lady bits (its uncomfortable- I'm warning you) that will let you see your baby. They had to do that with me on my first pregnancy (m/c'd at 10 weeks....found out at the ultrasound) because I have a tilted uterus so they couldn't see a thing.

I'm a little overweight, but if ANY doctor said that to me I'd be switching IMMEDIATELY and if he has a superior, I would definitely be filing a complaint. Whether you're a big girl or not, you could've seen your baby. He's just an asshole. F*CK that doctor!

I really feel some type of way about this- I'm completely outraged! How DARE him!!!

mrswichman · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:40 AM

thanks for your concern

i saw the baby at 6 weeks...but that was a month ago i want to see/hear it, to make sure everything is okay..considering i lost my first at 7 weeks...

pixxie1232001 · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:42 AM

I am in the overweight section and when I was pregnant with my second baby I was able to hear his heartbeat at 9 weeks!! The thing is the midwife was trying to tell me that I was too big and it was too early and she didnt think we would hear anything, but after pressuring her for about 5 minutes she finally agreed to try and sure enough I was right. Sounds like you need to switch doctors IMO.

bitethebullet · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:49 AM

Hey there. In the uk we don't get to hear the hb until about our 16 week app.

Apr 3rd, 2012, 20:52 PM	#11
TNW Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Somewhere you don't want to be:) Posts: 297	my drs never said anything. I am bigger and the nurse found it at 10 weeks

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:40 PM	#12
fertilesoul Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 391	What a jerk. He should not have said that. Just FYI I am a petite lady and my doc refused to check for a heart beat with the doppler at 10+2 prenatal appointment stating that its too early to find it easily. I told her I needed reassurance so she busted out the bedside ultrasound. So although at 10 weeks it is too early for dopplers at a prenatal visit he should not have blamed it on your size.

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 22:47 PM	#13
pixeldust Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 832	I never got "dopplered" by my midwife until I was 16+ weeks. TBH though, if he hadn't managed to find a heartbeat, it would have only panicked you, right?

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:03 PM	#14
tuckie27 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Northern California Posts: 960	I have heard that it's true, if you're overweight, it is a lot harder to find the hb with doppler. He probably should have had better bedside manner or have not made you feel like he was just brushing you off though. I think the extra fat in your abdomen just puts more padding between the doppler and the hb and makes it harder to detect, but with a vaginal ultrasound, that shouldn't matter...maybe you can get that instead?

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:11 PM	#15
Marini_Mare Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: livin' in South Texas & lovin it! but Boston - you're my home<3 Posts: 907	I would change doctors! my dr said they start using doppler to hear HB at 10? weeks... might have been 12.... I found HB with my home doppler at exactly 9 weeks... I'm not skinny but I'm not overweight though, so not sure if weight has anything to do with it but that's a jerk thing to say!

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 23:29 PM	#16
beth30 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: West Virginia, USA Posts: 2,658	I think he should have said well, if you want to try, we can give it a go.... it isn't like he is paying you to be there, you are paying him for his time.... I think doctors forget that fact...and sometimes maybe we need to remind them.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:38 AM	#17
Aelanu Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Richmond, VA Posts: 981	What the hell?! Why is no one outraged by how this doctor treated her?! I can NOT believe that!! Especially since there's this- please forgive me I don't know the name- wand thingy that they stick in your lady bits (its uncomfortable- I'm warning you) that will let you see your baby. They had to do that with me on my first pregnancy (m/c'd at 10 weeks....found out at the ultrasound) because I have a tilted uterus so they couldn't see a thing. I'm a little overweight, but if ANY doctor said that to me I'd be switching IMMEDIATELY and if he has a superior, I would definitely be filing a complaint. Whether you're a big girl or not, you could've seen your baby. He's just an asshole. F*CK that doctor! I really feel some type of way about this- I'm completely outraged! How DARE him!!!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:40 AM	#18
mrswichman Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Ohio Posts: 997	thanks for your concern i saw the baby at 6 weeks...but that was a month ago i want to see/hear it, to make sure everything is okay..considering i lost my first at 7 weeks...

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:42 AM	#19
pixxie1232001 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,492	I am in the overweight section and when I was pregnant with my second baby I was able to hear his heartbeat at 9 weeks!! The thing is the midwife was trying to tell me that I was too big and it was too early and she didnt think we would hear anything, but after pressuring her for about 5 minutes she finally agreed to try and sure enough I was right. Sounds like you need to switch doctors IMO.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:49 AM	#20
bitethebullet Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 2,336	Hey there. In the uk we don't get to hear the hb until about our 16 week app.

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