Are you going with social norms when it comes to last names? - Page 2

Sproglet · Apr 5th, 2012, 02:01 AM

It's important to my OH to pass on his family name, as he is the only boy in this generation. I have three older brothers. Baby will have his name, and when we get married next year I will take his name too.

Mindy_mini · Apr 5th, 2012, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by gretavon

I cahnged my last name when i got married and all doodlebugs will have our last name.

Same here.

But one think I do know is if we hadnt been married or I hadn't taken his surname, any children would have had the same surname be it mine, oh or double barrelled. I think it would be a bit strange for the kids if they had different names.

charlie15 · Apr 5th, 2012, 03:57 AM

We aren't married but we both want our children to have our names, so they will probably have both, they work in an unusual way, he has a very Portuguese surname and i have a very English one!

GreyGirl · Apr 5th, 2012, 04:05 AM

When we married, I took his. The baby will have our last name.

Beankeeper · Apr 5th, 2012, 04:18 AM

I took my DH's name when I got married. Sometimes I miss my maiden name as its unusual, but people always got it wrong so it could be quite annoying. I considered hyphenation but the two names don't sound good together. My little bean will have our name too.

Adela Quested · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:12 AM

We live in the Netherlands and by law all children born to a couple have to have the same last name. Our son has my last name so this next bubs will have my last name as well.

(You have to choose one name or the other, you can't choose both and you can't make one up!)

Olivette · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Adela Quested

We live in the Netherlands and by law all children born to a couple have to have the same last name. Our son has my last name so this next bubs will have my last name as well.

(You have to choose one name or the other, you can't choose both and you can't make one up!)

That's interesting!

When I marry my OH (in 9 days, eek!) I will be taking his name. I did originally want to double barrel the names, but he wanted me to take his name and his alone, and when I realised how important it was to him, I was more than happy to agree

. All bubs will have our surname.

I think this is an interesting topic! My cousin turned her surname into the first name of her first born, which I thought was interesting.

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Lucasmum · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:18 AM

Me and OH are not married nor do we have any intentions of getting married, our son has his last name and so will this one, I do sometimes think about changing mine, as it it can cause a few issues at passport control, a friend changed hers for this very reason, but it costs about £40 and I keep thinking of all the other nice things I could spend £40 on

Adela Quested · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Olivette

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Originally Posted by Adela Quested

We live in the Netherlands and by law all children born to a couple have to have the same last name. Our son has my last name so this next bubs will have my last name as well.

(You have to choose one name or the other, you can't choose both and you can't make one up!)

That's interesting!

When I marry my OH (in 9 days, eek!) I will be taking his name. I did originally want to double barrel the names, but he wanted me to take his name and his alone, and when I realised how important it was to him, I was more than happy to agree

. All bubs will have our surname.

I think this is an interesting topic! My cousin turned her surname into the first name of her first born, which I thought was interesting.

X

Yeah it's funny how things are different in different countries. Here, you don't change your name when you get married/have a domestic partnership (we have that option too). You can assume your partner's name (ie choose to be called by that) but your legal name doesn't change. So if my partner's surname was Smith he could call himself Fred Quested-Smith (your birth name is usually second in the hyphenation) or I could call myself Adela Smith-Quested, but we would still have to choose one or the other name for the kids. Socially you would usually introduce yourself as "Adela Smith" but all official paperwork would have Smith-Quested on it.

Kind of rules out using your mother's maiden name as a secret question as it would be written on all her mail and probably on her front door

flamingpanda · Apr 5th, 2012, 05:40 AM

We're not married, although it is the plan that one day we will be. I will take his last name and our little one will have daddy's name too.

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Sproglet Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 3,089	It's important to my OH to pass on his family name, as he is the only boy in this generation. I have three older brothers. Baby will have his name, and when we get married next year I will take his name too.

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charlie15 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: London Posts: 1,538	We aren't married but we both want our children to have our names, so they will probably have both, they work in an unusual way, he has a very Portuguese surname and i have a very English one!

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GreyGirl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: England Posts: 2,160	When we married, I took his. The baby will have our last name.

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Beankeeper Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Fife, UK Posts: 1,454	I took my DH's name when I got married. Sometimes I miss my maiden name as its unusual, but people always got it wrong so it could be quite annoying. I considered hyphenation but the two names don't sound good together. My little bean will have our name too.

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Adela Quested Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Amsterdam, Netherlands Posts: 1,470	We live in the Netherlands and by law all children born to a couple have to have the same last name. Our son has my last name so this next bubs will have my last name as well. (You have to choose one name or the other, you can't choose both and you can't make one up!)

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Lucasmum Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Southend-On-Sea Posts: 672	Me and OH are not married nor do we have any intentions of getting married, our son has his last name and so will this one, I do sometimes think about changing mine, as it it can cause a few issues at passport control, a friend changed hers for this very reason, but it costs about £40 and I keep thinking of all the other nice things I could spend £40 on

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flamingpanda Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 939	We're not married, although it is the plan that one day we will be. I will take his last name and our little one will have daddy's name too.

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