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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 21:04 PM   1
lindsinc
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Family doesn't like natural birth plan? :(


So I decided after finding out I was pregnant that I was as natural of a birth as I possible can. Meaning NO epidural. DH's family has asked about it and when I told them what I wanted they lost their minds, DH did also. It's really upseting me that they are all so disapproving my choice to not have an epidural and are now trying to force the point. Is it so wrong to want to feel when I give birth to my baby? I still have many weeks before any of this comes up but I needed somewhere to vent and this seemed like a good place. Hope everyones pregnancies are going well! (:



 
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Old Apr 4th, 2012, 21:08 PM   2
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It is ultimately your body and decision. There reaction is strange.
I say kudos to you for being so brave. In my case I haven't quite thought about it or gotten informed on the risks of epidurals but I may go for it.



 
Old Apr 4th, 2012, 21:10 PM   3
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Well for goodness sakes! Honey its your vagina and you just blow that thing out anyway you want! Joking, but it is your choice and you do whats right personally im all for epidurals but i wouldnt talk anyone into getting one if they didnt want one. I think you should go for and be proud of yourself as long as you dont refuse pain meds out of spite. Many women dont feel they need anything. And i think you will do fine without. GL dear.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 01:03 AM   4
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Definitely your choice! where I live we don't get epidurals or anything like that, we just go and give birth the old fashioned way and take the pain lol

it scares me a bit but I've known I wanted a natural birth even before I got pregnant.

Good for you and stand your ground!



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:13 AM   5
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I gave birth in a midwife led unit so it wasn't even a choice to have an epidural as there wasn't a doctor to give it! It is your decision and you shouldn't be pushed into something like that! I gave birth with just gas and air and I wouldn't change a thing it was magical! The other option is telling them your having a homebirth, and an epidural isn't available. Have you tried explaining the risks of an epidural maybe that could change their minds x



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:14 AM   6
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Why do they like epidurals so much? I had to have one with my first but it wasn't in my birth plan, sometimes things don't always go to plan and sometimes they do, but your plan is still 100% up to you!!

Epidurals are modern convinience and have saved lives but they are not necessary when everything goes well.

I had to have one and it saved both of our lives, but I did not have one again and would only do so in an emergency.

As a result of the epidural I couldn't push and my son's heartrate dropped (which is a really common problem with epidurals) my son had to be sucked out and looked like one of the cone heads for a couple of hours.

When the epidural wore off I had back ache for ages. I hated it. My natural births were far more enjoyable and my recovery time was much quicker. My daughter was born in a dimly lit room with music playing and I was high on gas and air She was much more alert from the beginning and had a far less stressfull birth. After my second son was born I was able to walk into the shower within 30 minutes. I had to rely on busy midwives and have a bed wash after my epidural.....felt so icky and useless!



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:14 AM   7
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What's it got to do with them?!
It's your body and doing it naturally is better for the baby. The birth is faster and there is less chance of intervention. I did it naturally first time round and yes, it hurt like hell but I'm convinced I had a smoother delivery because of it.
Its up to you and you alone. Not even your OH.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:23 AM   8
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So I decided after finding out I was pregnant that I was as natural of a birth as I possible can. Meaning NO epidural. DH's family has asked about it and when I told them what I wanted they lost their minds, DH did also. It's really upseting me that they are all so disapproving my choice to not have an epidural and are now trying to force the point. Is it so wrong to want to feel when I give birth to my baby? I still have many weeks before any of this comes up but I needed somewhere to vent and this seemed like a good place. Hope everyones pregnancies are going well! (:
i have inlaws that are like that try and tell me waht to do but i put my foot down with them all while i was pregnant as i new as soon as baby was born thy would also try and tell me how to bring up my baby thy do still try but i never listern think thy get the hint now . im sure your husband will come round to the idea .

all i can say is gdluck i went through 5 days of slow labour and 14 hours through the painful pushing stage and i tuk every drug availble but i do regret havin the epidural , lifetime of back ache goodluck xx



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:28 AM   9
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have to say that I get the feeling from atching all the baby programmes, that in USA the norm is to have an epidural, to lay on your back to labour and struggle to give birth like that. A couple of days ago I saw an episode where the woman refused an epidural and the doctor was astonished and somewhat put out using comments like "well you must be brave" and "you do realise it will hurt"
I think your relatives are really only looking at what they know and fear of the unknown rather than being open to "new approaches", Once they've seen you go through it, they may well become the biggest advocates of natural birthing!



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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 02:49 AM   10
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I say have that baby however you see fit! I don't understand why they are freaking out its not like they can feel it.



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