Hi guys, I am 19 and getting pregnant was a BIG shock to me (not planned)! I have been with my partner for 2 years and where I decided I wanted to keep this baby, he didn't. He has now come round to the idea (sort of), however, now I am having doubts.

We don't have a place of our own to live yet - still living with parents, and I feel like i'm going to miss out on so much, like holidays and going out with friends. I'm so emotional and I can't stop crying! OH is getting fed up with me and keeps telling me it's my own fault we are in this position and I feel like if i'm not careful I will be a single mommy soon

Sorry for going on I just don't know who to talk to!

it is a really difficult time, I am happily married and it was pretty much planned and I am still struggling with the massiveness of it all, feeling my whole life will change dramatically etc so you're not alone. the morning sickness is also not helping!!
BUT I think you should go with your instinct that you want your baby. I have friends who got pregnant as young as you still living at home who have had great lives, put themselves through university and are now getting married years later. it doesnt mean the end of your life, just doing life with a little baby. they love their children more than anything and have never regretted the crazy timing. your OH will love his baby when he meets it too im sure.
my mother also got pregnant relatively young and maintains that we are the most precious thing in her life.
hope that helps xxx

My baby wasn't planned either. But the moment I knew a little life was growing in me I knew I had a responsibility to be the best mother I can be.

There are ways and means to support a child, family, friends etc will more than likely try and help towards costs etc.

Any man that loves you wouldnt behave/speak to you like that, yes it's a shock for him, but this is your decision. Even if you end a single mommy, isn't that better than being with someone whose treating you like this.

I believe in you, you can do anything you want too.

I'm 22 and me and my partner haven't been together long, I'd just got a new job and we'd just got a place together. But there was never any doubt in my mind that this baby was meant to be part of my life.

Hi! I was 19 when i first fell pregnant. It wasnt completly planned, we knew we would have a family together one day but not so soon, but still we knew we were in a solid relationship with our own place so once the shock settled we were delighted and have to say i dont regret a thing. We are expecting #2 now and love family life.
I cant really comment as i have never been someone who likes lots of nights out etc i prefer the quiet life (which is what you lead when you have children!)
I hope you can both make the right descision. Just remember, it takes two to tango so dont let you BF give you a hard time!
Trust your instinct xx

How far along are you? I know the hormones in the first few weeks made me had all kinds of fears and doubts and our baby is planned! i hope you can both talk through this and decide what you both really want. And remember that you do have choices.

Hey, I'm 20 and have a boyfriend of two years, and this baby wasn't planned! I'm 12+5 weeks and I couldn't be happier! I'm at university (2nd year) and there is going to be so much I will miss out on, trips, going out etc. But to me, it doesn't matter!

How far gone are you? I've always wanted children, and I still panicked when I found out. Mainly because I was scared of what people would think of me, and how little faith they would have. All the things I'd miss out on didn't even cross my mind. It will take some time to sink in, but you'll come round to the idea. Thankfully, I'd grew out of going out, I only drank a little and on occasion etc. I don't believe that there is anything worth doing that you're not able to do with your child. I'd trade a night out with my friends to spend some time with my niece and nephew and just to see the excitement on their faces when I play with them is just the best. Imagine how strong that will be when it's your own.

Basically, it may not seem like it now, but when you see the baby at the scans, when you hold them for the first time, when they smile at you... I can promise that none of anything else will matter. So don't worry about that. And regarding your boyfriend, if he doesn't want to be involved then so be it, you are more than capable of raising a child up by yourself you just have to get your priorities in order and everything will be fine!

I should also add, we live separately with our own parents, he is also at uni, neither of us have jobs at the minute, we aren't married and I don't doubt for one moment that we won't be great parents. Like someone else said, there's always a way!

I dont know how he thinks pointing fingers is going to help anything. Your both here now no sense dwelling on whose at fault. Although i do believe it was HIS sperm that impregnated you. But thats neither here nor there. Now what to do what to do *taps fingers on table* well, you could gift your child though adoption ( i say that instead of give up ive seen people go through it and its not like your throwing your hands up as if to say "not it.") There is nothing wrong with this option at all. If not for the maturity and strenght of a lot of women there would be alot incomplete families. Or of course you could keep the baby which im sure youve realized is a very big thing and sacrifices must be made. If you think he might leave you now when the ball is just getting rollin' its unlikely he will stick it through when the diapers hit the fan so to speak. So my darling it boils down to what you think and feel is the best for you and your baby. Both will be major decisions and both life altering. We are here for you if you need to talk or just vent.

Your boyfriends attitude isn't very helpful in the situation! How're you meant to be able to start feeling excited with him threatening to leave you?! I think you need to think this all through - make lists if you need to, but seriously, for everything you think you're missing out on in your life, a baby gives back ten-fold.

My now almost 4 year old daughter was a surprise baby, my boyfriend and I had only been together about 8 months I think it was.. We both lived with our parents and had to find a place to rent, etc etc - and it was hard work but we got there.. It's now nearly 5 years on and we're married and expecting a very much planned baby #2.. I know it doesn't always work out but we're living proof it can!

Above all don't make any rash decisions you'll later come to regret xx

My OH says things like that. We're like 4ish weeks away from her birth and he still isn't that connected with what's happening. Claiming it was my choice.. it my fault, etc etc.
I am sorry you go through this and think you should both speak to each other about this, seriously.

In early pregnancy, hormones are all over..

Having my son was the START of my life. Parties and going out are fun but nothing in the world compares to what I get out of being his mum.

The baby stage races by anyway, soon you have a toddler who loves to hang with their grandparents and you can easily go out and have fun.

It is true your life will never be the same again, but in a wonderful amazing way. What you miss out on is returned to you tenfold with the rewards your baby brings.