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cheshire · Apr 8th, 2012, 06:46 AM

I'm not going to judge your feelings as I felt the same superstision with my first. Now I am stocking up on the odd bits and pieces that cannot survive one more child (bibs, vests etc) and the house is obviously full of baby stuff!! It doesn't bring bad luck but feelings are feelings and I know you cannot shake them just like that.

Personally though, I would apologise to him for asking him to do that. If you wanted them to go back to her house then it really should be you that takes them and explains why. As he is happy to have them in the house he's not going to be able to explain the problem in a way other than to possibly make you look like an hormonal crazo. I think storing them at your mums sounds like the best solution.

sharan · Apr 8th, 2012, 08:13 AM

I've not read all the other posts so apologies for repeating. However, of course you're not being unreasonable. At the end of the day everybody wants to pass the all crucial stage of 1st trimester before even considering purchasing anything for Moo Moo!

I waited until my 20 week scan before I bought anything. And even then only purchased muslin cloths cautiously.

sharan · Apr 8th, 2012, 08:15 AM

I must hasten to add in my case it wasn't superstition that preventing me from purchasing anything. But if heaven forbid anything was to go wrong then the last thing I wanted at home were 'reminders'.

Veronicaco · Apr 8th, 2012, 11:35 AM

That is exactly why we haven't toldy husbands mum, I have told my parents and explained that I will not buy or accept anything until August plus we are doing a lot of work to the house so will need to store any baby stuff elsewhere for ages. I will clearly explain this to my mil and after that any premature purchases will be binned. I would rather not tell her at all as she is an idiot and will just buy crap but that's a different issue all together ....

Lief · Apr 8th, 2012, 11:42 AM

I don't believe in superstitions like that but I don't think its wrong of people if they do believe in them. Everyone has their own opinions about things and so be it.

I had my pram delivered at about 20/22 weeks because the shop only held it for a certain amount of time. When my sisters seen it they kept saying Omg but it's bad luck to have a pram in the house. I had bought little bits and pieces and my OH bought the cot, changer and some other things from about 18 weeks.

I agree with the other girls about asking someone else to hold the stuff your OH's mother bought (especially if you think she'll take it the wrong way)

LittlePeople · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:46 PM

with havig had a miscarriage - no your not unreasonable, but I would have maybe put it away somewhere instead of sending back

bitethebullet · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Mindy_mini

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Originally Posted by pinkribbon

I think maybe you should explain to her you appreciate her thoughts but you feel it's too soon and could she hang onto it for you

WSS.

I don't beleive you can jinx a pregnancy. I personally beleive that miscarriages happen for a reason - I'd the baby doesn't develope properly and having a bib in the house isn't going to change that BUT I respect everyone has their own views and feelings.

Just say it's very kind but you'd rather she held on to it until later on.

I totally agree with this but understand that you probably would rather not have the things in the house yet. Maybe just thank her for the things and ask her to keep them for you until later on. My mother in law has been in vegas visiting my sister and law and apparently they haven't been able to resist baby shopping either

. Funny how I have though!!!

Sukiboo · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:57 PM

Each to their own

At the end of the day it's how you, as an individual and a mummy to be, feel

So to touch on a different subject girlies, when did you start telling people? I feel I might have to tell my work as I'm a baby swimming teacher and teach in very warm hydro pools!

But when did you start telling family, friends and did you wait until 12 weeks? x x x

pinkribbon · Apr 8th, 2012, 16:50 PM

Last time I told my parents/OH parents quite early, at about 5 weeks. This time I've told a couple of best friends and that's it. I just suck at bringing it up

Babee_Bugs · Apr 8th, 2012, 16:52 PM

At the end of the day shes bought a gift for her grandchild... she probs didnt really think, and if you havent told her not to buy i dare say she just couldnt resist and probs thought that she was doing something good rather than bad...

I certainly dont think this is something for you and your partner to fall out over on... Id just take the bits to your mums and store them safely away.. (although i think you'll miss out on staring at these bits and just grabbing them to cuddle into and get the eeeeekkkkk baby will be here soon Moments)

Just wait till shes giving "Telling" you how to burp your baby, change it e.t.c... thats when the fun really starts lol

Apr 8th, 2012, 06:46 AM	#11
cheshire Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: London, UK Posts: 1,288	I'm not going to judge your feelings as I felt the same superstision with my first. Now I am stocking up on the odd bits and pieces that cannot survive one more child (bibs, vests etc) and the house is obviously full of baby stuff!! It doesn't bring bad luck but feelings are feelings and I know you cannot shake them just like that. Personally though, I would apologise to him for asking him to do that. If you wanted them to go back to her house then it really should be you that takes them and explains why. As he is happy to have them in the house he's not going to be able to explain the problem in a way other than to possibly make you look like an hormonal crazo. I think storing them at your mums sounds like the best solution.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 08:13 AM	#12
sharan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Walsall, UK Posts: 1,503	I've not read all the other posts so apologies for repeating. However, of course you're not being unreasonable. At the end of the day everybody wants to pass the all crucial stage of 1st trimester before even considering purchasing anything for Moo Moo! I waited until my 20 week scan before I bought anything. And even then only purchased muslin cloths cautiously.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 08:15 AM	#13
sharan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Walsall, UK Posts: 1,503	I must hasten to add in my case it wasn't superstition that preventing me from purchasing anything. But if heaven forbid anything was to go wrong then the last thing I wanted at home were 'reminders'.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 11:35 AM	#14
Veronicaco Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: UK - South west Posts: 860	That is exactly why we haven't toldy husbands mum, I have told my parents and explained that I will not buy or accept anything until August plus we are doing a lot of work to the house so will need to store any baby stuff elsewhere for ages. I will clearly explain this to my mil and after that any premature purchases will be binned. I would rather not tell her at all as she is an idiot and will just buy crap but that's a different issue all together ....

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Apr 8th, 2012, 11:42 AM	#15
Lief Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Posts: 521	I don't believe in superstitions like that but I don't think its wrong of people if they do believe in them. Everyone has their own opinions about things and so be it. I had my pram delivered at about 20/22 weeks because the shop only held it for a certain amount of time. When my sisters seen it they kept saying Omg but it's bad luck to have a pram in the house. I had bought little bits and pieces and my OH bought the cot, changer and some other things from about 18 weeks. I agree with the other girls about asking someone else to hold the stuff your OH's mother bought (especially if you think she'll take it the wrong way)

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Apr 8th, 2012, 14:46 PM	#16
LittlePeople Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Milton Keynes Posts: 1,988	with havig had a miscarriage - no your not unreasonable, but I would have maybe put it away somewhere instead of sending back

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:57 PM	#18
Sukiboo Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: South West, England Posts: 144	Each to their own At the end of the day it's how you, as an individual and a mummy to be, feel So to touch on a different subject girlies, when did you start telling people? I feel I might have to tell my work as I'm a baby swimming teacher and teach in very warm hydro pools! But when did you start telling family, friends and did you wait until 12 weeks? x x x

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Apr 8th, 2012, 16:50 PM	#19
pinkribbon Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK. Posts: 4,274	Last time I told my parents/OH parents quite early, at about 5 weeks. This time I've told a couple of best friends and that's it. I just suck at bringing it up

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Apr 8th, 2012, 16:52 PM	#20
Babee_Bugs Mum (Mom) Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Hartlepool, United Kingdom Posts: 8,103	At the end of the day shes bought a gift for her grandchild... she probs didnt really think, and if you havent told her not to buy i dare say she just couldnt resist and probs thought that she was doing something good rather than bad... I certainly dont think this is something for you and your partner to fall out over on... Id just take the bits to your mums and store them safely away.. (although i think you'll miss out on staring at these bits and just grabbing them to cuddle into and get the eeeeekkkkk baby will be here soon Moments) Just wait till shes giving "Telling" you how to burp your baby, change it e.t.c... thats when the fun really starts lol

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