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nikileigh · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:03 AM

So my partners mum has been away for a week on holiday. We told her I was pregnant before she went. Anyway she come back this morning and has bought us some baby things it's only a bib and a baby grow. It's really upset me iv made OH take it back round to her house i dont want it in our house I no I sound ungrateful but I'm only 7 week n iv had miscarriages in the past so I don't want to jinxs anything. Am I been unreasonable me n OH are not speaking now

scottishchick2 · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:16 AM

Not at all, as long as you explain to his mum that you love the items she bought but are superstitious about having them in your home just now but you'd like them back in a few weeks time. She's had children herself so will surely understand.

pinkribbon · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:17 AM

I think maybe you should explain to her you appreciate her thoughts but you feel it's too soon and could she hang onto it for you

Mindy_mini · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkribbon

I think maybe you should explain to her you appreciate her thoughts but you feel it's too soon and could she hang onto it for you

WSS.

I don't beleive you can jinx a pregnancy. I personally beleive that miscarriages happen for a reason - I'd the baby doesn't develope properly and having a bib in the house isn't going to change that BUT I respect everyone has their own views and feelings.

Just say it's very kind but you'd rather she held on to it until later on.

nikileigh · Apr 8th, 2012, 04:21 AM

That's what I'm trying to explain to my OH he don't get it men lol! They are so cute I do love them but just don't want them in my house yet. She can be really funny at times so I might just send them to my mums instead. OH didn't listen to me when I old him to Take them bk to his mums lol. X

Inoue · Apr 8th, 2012, 05:21 AM

Hum.... I agree with Mindy_mini, everyone thinks different but i think taking it back to your OH mum is abit ungrateful when she's spent time and money bringing you the item. If you are superstitious (sp?) then i think you should take it to your mums to look after untill the time its needed, then your not hurting your OH mums feelings as she wouldnt know any different. My loft is FULL of baby stuff my siblings have passed down to me, doesnt bother me one bit and i never thought my m/c were due to what i had in my house. There's no reason to not speak to you OH either ~ maybe see it from his POV

All the best with the pregnancy hun

ClaudiasMummy · Apr 8th, 2012, 05:33 AM

Tell her you are grateful but explain why you don't want it in your place right now.

Unexpected212 · Apr 8th, 2012, 06:32 AM

Someone bought us baby grows when I was like 10 weeks. Was so nervous about having them in the house but just put them in the spare room where I don't go much.

Just ring her/see her and explain it's a lovely/generous thought but your just worried.

Im sure OH will come round.

3rdtimearound · Apr 8th, 2012, 06:40 AM

Please don't ruin this pregnancy for yourself with worries and superstitions! There's no way having a bib in the house will make you lose a baby

Put them in a draw and open it every now and then - give them and squeeze and look forward to the blessing you'll receive in 7-8 months time

2016 · Apr 8th, 2012, 06:42 AM

My house is FULL of baby stuff for every age as I saved it from my son. Does that mean I am jinxed? I don't personally believe in jinx but I do understand how people buying baby gifts too soon could feel like added pressure on you that's not needed right now.

If I were you I'd take it and just hide it in the loft or something. Or ask a friend to keep it for you.

Apr 8th, 2012, 04:03 AM	#1
nikileigh Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: south yorkshire Posts: 247	OH mum! So my partners mum has been away for a week on holiday. We told her I was pregnant before she went. Anyway she come back this morning and has bought us some baby things it's only a bib and a baby grow. It's really upset me iv made OH take it back round to her house i dont want it in our house I no I sound ungrateful but I'm only 7 week n iv had miscarriages in the past so I don't want to jinxs anything. Am I been unreasonable me n OH are not speaking now

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scottishchick2 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 218	Not at all, as long as you explain to his mum that you love the items she bought but are superstitious about having them in your home just now but you'd like them back in a few weeks time. She's had children herself so will surely understand.

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pinkribbon Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK. Posts: 4,274	I think maybe you should explain to her you appreciate her thoughts but you feel it's too soon and could she hang onto it for you

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nikileigh Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: south yorkshire Posts: 247	That's what I'm trying to explain to my OH he don't get it men lol! They are so cute I do love them but just don't want them in my house yet. She can be really funny at times so I might just send them to my mums instead. OH didn't listen to me when I old him to Take them bk to his mums lol. X

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Inoue Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Lincolnshire, UK Posts: 1,955	Hum.... I agree with Mindy_mini, everyone thinks different but i think taking it back to your OH mum is abit ungrateful when she's spent time and money bringing you the item. If you are superstitious (sp?) then i think you should take it to your mums to look after untill the time its needed, then your not hurting your OH mums feelings as she wouldnt know any different. My loft is FULL of baby stuff my siblings have passed down to me, doesnt bother me one bit and i never thought my m/c were due to what i had in my house. There's no reason to not speak to you OH either ~ maybe see it from his POV All the best with the pregnancy hun

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ClaudiasMummy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 1,067	Tell her you are grateful but explain why you don't want it in your place right now.

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Unexpected212 Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 1,894	Someone bought us baby grows when I was like 10 weeks. Was so nervous about having them in the house but just put them in the spare room where I don't go much. Just ring her/see her and explain it's a lovely/generous thought but your just worried. Im sure OH will come round.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 06:40 AM	#9
3rdtimearound Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 1,145	Please don't ruin this pregnancy for yourself with worries and superstitions! There's no way having a bib in the house will make you lose a baby Put them in a draw and open it every now and then - give them and squeeze and look forward to the blessing you'll receive in 7-8 months time

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Apr 8th, 2012, 06:42 AM	#10
2016 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: UK Posts: 9,469	My house is FULL of baby stuff for every age as I saved it from my son. Does that mean I am jinxed? I don't personally believe in jinx but I do understand how people buying baby gifts too soon could feel like added pressure on you that's not needed right now. If I were you I'd take it and just hide it in the loft or something. Or ask a friend to keep it for you.

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