I'm crying everyday and sometimes getting hysterical. My Mam has suffered from severe anxiety since last September and has made numerous suicide attempts, I feel so helpless. I haven't announced my pregnancy yet so the only person I can talk to is my husband and my best friend. I'm so worried I'm going to lose my Mam and not coping well at all. I'm lying awake nearly all night which is doing no favours for my morning sickness and although I feel hungry, I have no appetite at all. When I eat I feel guilty because my Mam has dropped to 6 stone because she "can't" eat. I'm sitting in tears writing this. I hope baby won't be affected by this, I'm just feeling so low atm and had to talk to someone about how I'm feeling.

I was under great stress during my 3rd pregnancy and mentioned to my doctor, they said it doesnt affect your chances of misscarriage.

So sorry hope things get better for you! As far as i know stress cant cause miscarriage

I'm sos orry your mum is so poorly - have you told her you are pregnant? Maybe she would like to hear that?

And NO stress won't make your miscarry

I remember reading somewhere that stress isnt proven to be linked with mc.
Something like 20 odd women where pregnant when they lost husbands, partners, close family members during the twin tower attacks and every one of them was born fine and its hard to imagine a more stressfull time for those women then during all that.

I am sorry you are going through this. I am sorry your mom is having a hard time also. I also have suffered from severe anxiety in the past and had a very bad break down when someone very close to me was dying. It is very hard and it is a terrible feeling. I hope your mom can work through this. Has she tried to going to therapy? I spoke with a therapist and they changed some of my medications. That really really helped. I am off all meds now as I was able to come to terms with loss. Sometimes you just need help getting over a hump.

I know it can feel like the person is being really selfish also, but their thought process is disoriented. And I am sure she doesn't mean to hurt anyone she cares about. I hope I am not overstepping by saying these things. But I have been through something similar with my family and it does get better.

Take care of yourself.

Maybe knowing you are pregnant would give her something good to look forward to and make her want to look after you? I know that when I feel like I have a purpose I feel good about myself.

I was going to suggest telling your Mum but then I know she wouldn't tell you anything making you stress even more.

Although I am 100000% sure that your Mum wouldn't want you to feel guilty about eating. Even though she doesn't know about Bump White, she will want you to stay strong for your three gorgeous little boys, which means eating.

I really hope your Mum gets better really soon then you can share you brilliant news with her

I was so sorry to read your post I can't imagine how hard this must be. I, too, have read in a number of places that stress doesn't cause miscarriage.

That said, regardless of being pregnant or not, you need to look after you as well. Can you talk to your GP or a professional and get a referral for some counselling? Trying to carry the stress of someone who you love so much is so hard and you need support too

xx

I would like to tell my Mam my news but I'd rather wait until after my scan so I know baby is healthy. My sister had two miscarriages quite recently and both times she lost a lot of blood and needed to have a blood transfusion. It was after my sisters first miscarriage that the anxiety started. She feels like her throat is closing up and when she tries to eat she has panic attacks because she feels like she's choking. She's living on bits of blended food and even that is a struggle. She is also suffering from severe acid reflux which isn't helping at all, her throat is sore and inflamed. She doesn't see any way out of this and is crying all day everyday. She was having counselling about twice a week but the man who was going to her house to talk to her has left so they are waiting for someone else. My stepdad has caught her cutting her arms with knives and when my sister went to see her the other day she told me my Mam has also cut all of her stomach. She doesn't want to die, she is just terrified and this is a massive cry for help. No one knows what to do anymore. She is taking citalopram (sp?) but so far they are not helping even though they have increased her dose. She's also on diazepam which have no effect either. She is back to see the psychiatrist in June which I think is shocking and should be more often as she has been self harming.