I've been SO frustrated lately... for almost the last two weeks, EVERYTHING with my OH and I has been a fight.. like literally from the smallest thing to the biggest thing in the world. Not only am I hormonal and irritable and easily upset-able but he's been SO different than he was before we found out... he gets upset and extremely annoyed so quickly and is EXTREMELY reactive to the smallest thing. Its driving me absolutely crazy. Maybe I'm unrealistic but I keep trying to tell him that I want for the next 7 months I want to be surrounded by love and support and ZERO negativity.. and no matter how much we talk about whats going wrong with us we just keep fighting. I'm so sick of it I just want to get along.. we've never fought like this before (we barely even used to fight!)
The latest and greatest annoyance is that he just texted me (he's on his way home from work and I just got home) to let me know that he posted on facebook that we were having a baby. WTF He never even discussed this with me... and I've been very set in not making a public announcement until my U/S and making sure everything is okay. When I pleaded with him to take it down and explained my reasoning (which included that I haven't told my aunt yet and she's always on my facebook) he got an attitude and, even though he did it, was a brat about it.
grrrr I just want this to all END. sorry for writing a novel haha
Sorry to hear you are having a rough time of it with your OH! He is probably very anxious about having a child and this is how he is expressing it. Maybe talk to him about his fears/anxieties? He is probably scared to death to be a Dad. Maybe that will help. I hope things get better for you both!
i understand what you mean about wanting love and positive feelings around you. it's difficult to be pregnant and feel stressed because of someone else's actions. my dh can be a real grump sometimes and it really gets on my nerves. then when i get annoyed he asks, "why are you acting like this?" which makes me want to grab him by the hair and scream in his face, "because i'm freakin hormonal and you're acting like a tool!!!!"
wen i was pregnant with my son my OH and i broke up and when my son was 2months old we got back together and he told me the reason he was acting the way he was acting was because he was scared and wasnt sure what to do now that he had a child on the way.
i would take the other girls advice and talk to him about his fears and anxieties
Sorry to hear your not having the best support. My OH still doesn't really know what to do with himself that we're PG..we're having a little happy accident. He says that he won't be completely settled and feel like its real until we tell his parents. You need to find out what's bugging him and help him out with that. If its money worries,make a list of things you need to buy and how much you could buy them for if you got them on sale etc, if he's worried about things changing in your relationship,reassure him that some things will change but there's lots of ways of getting around obstacles if you work together xxx
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