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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 10:56 AM   #31
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Well done you, that's crazy quick! I see people as well that have been trying for years and my heart goes out to them, I don't think I'd be that strong. I got my implant out in October and we decided we weren't going to actively try, but if it happened, it happened. My periods were all over the shop for ages, so I feel lucky as well that it only really took about 5 months. I was high as a kite the day I got my positive and then the next day, I was terrified lol. Think it just took some time to sink in. I walk about with a permanent smile on my face these days

Excellent, glad you got it booked. And, that's not long to wait. So exciting!!

I'm really not bothered. My OH really wants a girl, just because his family are all boys and nobody has had a girl yet. I have always kinda wanted a wee boy, but I guess a girl would be lovely for his family. I think we might find out though, just so we can be organised. We need to move house before baby is born so going to have lots to do and would help us money-wise.

What about you, any preferences? Is your OH over the moon? xx


 
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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 11:10 AM   #32
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Hi Sparrow , I had my implant out in Feb so when you take that into account it's been really quick!

As for the other half, I've not yet told him. We both live with our parents even though we are both 28. It is going to cause alot of change and upheaval but this is what I want more than anythin and I know he will too as long as he knows that things will work out with a house and stuff. I guess you can call stupid and say it's a selfish move but I think it will be the making of us.

I don't know how to tell him, I dont really want to tell anyone as silly as it sounds cause I don't want to jinx it. And besides I have no idea how to break the news to him!!

My preference is a little boy, same as my OH. We have spoke about names before but I think it may suprise him how soon it's happened!!


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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 11:23 AM   #33
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Jeez, I think we're twins!

We both still live with our parents as well. I'm 27, ,my OH is 25. We did live together, however he lost his job last year and it was just too much pressure, so we moved back in with our parents.

So, we also have to find a house (or most likely, a flat to rent) and prepare for a baby as well. When I told my OH he was totally happy, but he did go a bit funny for a couple of days, because he was worried about money. We've sat down and talked about everything and we're going to be just fine. You'll always manage, no matter what. I'm really luck as well, in that my mum and dad are amazing and are going to help us out. My mum was the first person I told, even before my OH lol. I definitely don't think you're selfish or stupid, it's what we both wanted as well, but life's tough sometimes and things aren't always perfect.

How spooky. Don't worry about a thing and I would tell your OH as soon as you can, it'll be a weight off your mind and you need the support. I just blurted it out cos I didn't know what else to say lol. Even if he is a bit funny for a couple of days, don't worry. I think it takes men longer to come round to these things.

Best of luck xxx

Thing is, there's never a perfect time to have a baby. There will always be something and I'm not going to lie; I reckon we're going to struggle a bit with money when I go on maternity leave and we're living on one wage, but I know we'll be fine as long as we've got each other.


 
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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 11:35 AM   #34
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Wow, we have a lot in common! It's going to be a job and a half for us both then isn't it, but like you say it will all work out, may have to struggle at first but things will always turn out for the best. And you're right there is never a perfect time to have a baby, you can always have more money or a better job or more stable lifestyle so you just have to go with what you have got and as long as our babies are happy, healthy and have a Mummy and a Daddy then it sounds perfect already

I think I will tell my Mum first, I am going to put the Clearblue digi in her hands and tell her to close her eyes then open them!!

Suprise!!! She will be well happy!

I've already been on EBay looking at baby clothes, the biggest struggle is going to be giving up energy drinks. I am addicted to them I have about 4 a day :/

I am gonna look after this little snowflake though and no more red bull for me!

Are you taking folic acid ? I started taking it and some mother to be vitamin a month back x


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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 12:29 PM   #35
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We sure do, it's nice to know I'm not alone in our situation. I get days where I think we're doing too much in such a short space of time and then I think, stuff it. We'll be fine and as you say, as long as baby has Mummy and Daddy, everything will be great.

Aww, yeah go tell your mum, especially if you know she will be happy for you. My mum was ecstatic and has been such a great help to me. In a way, it's great still living at home just now because she's looking after me and her and my dad both want me to stay here as long as possible before baby to make sure we've got enough money saved.

Oh, I know how hard it is giving up the things you love. I smoked 20 a day and cut down the first week and I gave up completely last weekend. Funnily enough I don't miss it, but I found it even harder giving up coffee. I drank like 7-8 a day and tried decaf but it wasn't the same. Because I've been sick a lot this week though, I've went off it a bit. Just going to be sensible and treat myself to a wee Starbucks every now and then! It's actually crazy the amount of things you shouldn't eat/drink but luckily, I don't' like most of the 'forbidden' foods, except for hot dogs.I'll miss those!

I started taking Pregnacare when I found out. That has all the vitamins you need and I hope it's making a difference. If you've been taking it for a while, that's even better.

I've also been looking at loads of stuff. Can't wait to start buying. I work for John Lewis, so I get quite a good discount, which will help.

When do you think you'll tell your OH? Are you seeing him soon? xxx


 
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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 13:01 PM   #36
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Errrrr what?! We can't have hot dogs?! Why not?!

Not seeing the other half until tomorrow now, he's out with his mates tonight but the last week we have had an argument and things have been a bit tense so I don't know how this is going to go down. Part of me doesn't want to tell him until I am over 12 weeks and in a more safer zone but I just don't know. I don't really know what to do? If I tell him now and anything bad happens he will make sure that I don't end up getting pregnant again. Or I could be wrong and it could be the best decision to just tell him now but then would he want to tell his friends and parents when I don't want to?!

This is starting to become quite tricky!!! Any ideas? X


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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 13:21 PM   #37
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Yeah, it's something to do with the bacteria that Hot Dogs contain.. gutted lol.

Aww, it definitely sounds tricky. Although, I will say this, even though we had decided to just let nature take its course, my OH did get shock and whilst he was happy, like I said before, he went really funny and quiet for a couple of days afterwards. I got a bit down about it but it wasn't that he didn't want the baby, he was just scared of things changing and us struggling. We're both quiet selfish people who spend a lot of money on ourselves and he was just getting his head around that.

In my opinion, I think you'll worry about it if you don't tell him? I was crapping myself telling him, but I know I would just have worried about it and you're pregnant, you have a right to be excited about this! I think it would be a huge weight off your mind if you just get it out there. If he doesn't take it the way you want him to, give him a couple of days to come round. That's what I done.

Why don't you have a chat with your mum and see what she says? It really helps to have someone to talk to.

If he loves you, I promise everything will be ok xxx


 
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Old Apr 14th, 2012, 13:24 PM   #38
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Oh, and you have to explain to him that you don't tell people until you're ready. My OH has told his best friend and I'm happy with that because I've told mine and he needs someone to talk to as well. We've also told both sets of parents, but that's pretty much it just now.


 
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