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Old Aug 11th, 2012, 07:45 AM   61
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I was a little annoyed at my mil last night. DH told her I was feeling baby quite a bit and she says that it's not possible. Yes, I'm a little hormonal, but I blew up at him saying that she's not the baby's mother and *I* am and only *I* can tell if I am or am not feeling MY baby! haha With that, and she told him that she was planning on staying with us for a couple of weeks after the baby is born!! (DH will be back to work by that time, so it'd just be me and baby and mil! ) No offense to her, because I like her. . .but if I need any help, MY mom and sisters would be the first ones I ask! So with that and raging hormones, I marched promptly off to bed!
Oh Sierra, why do people plan thing without being asked? Maybe she thought she was offering to help...
When we had our first my inlaws came out after the birth, as did my parents. DH and I agreed no more than 5 nights. I think the inlaws then went and booked for 10 days.grrrrr I was mad! But I tried to hide it as I love my boys knowing their grandparents, I love having family. But still...

I know this is an exciting time for grandparents too but it is so hard in that first month, and I was so not wanting to share baby too much. I waned to hold him all I wanted. And stay in my pjs. And breast feed or pump willynilly.

With my second baby we got the inlaws here for when I was In hospital (scheduled c sec) to help dh with my first son. They spent the entire time decorating. I phoned DH one day from the hospital to see when he was coming in to visit me and he couldn't visit yet as he was at the DIY shop since his dad wanted something...so the inlaws were, despite trying to be helpful, creating us more work and not minding my first son, my husband did that. AND (while I am on a roll!) on the day baby was born we asked the inlaws to wait outside for a few minutes while we introduced our first son to the baby and we wanted family quiet time. Well, it didn't happen, the in laws came right n in with them. It upset me quite a lot!

Really, it is such a hard time with family..we need to be really specific if there is something we want, but to try and do it tactfully if someone is likely to be upset ( my MIL is so sensitive it's silly, even DH steps around her on egg shells). Luckily. Have a relationship with my folks where I just say how it is and they are fine with it.

But families..wow, sure are tricky when it comes to babies and birth!

I want even mention what my fil said when I brought baby home..ok I will. He thought he was joking and being funny when he looked at me as I got out of the car and exclaimed " did they leave one in there?!". .......he must be unaware of hormones post birth.....I sobbed on the phone to my mum. Hysterically. Think she wanted to wallop him! (and she isn't a fighty type...more a knitting kind of grandma).


Ooh....inlaws!....
So Sierra, be firm! Xx



 
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Old Aug 11th, 2012, 10:09 AM   62
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I'm stuck between the 13th and the 14th! 10 week dating scan said the 14th and 12 weeks scan said the 13th lol.



 
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Old Aug 11th, 2012, 14:54 PM   63
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Oh god god, those first few days are hard enough let alone with unwanted visitors. I think its difficult for grandparents to understand but you need those first few days just to bond and recover (and let the hormones settle) plus babies always sleep when you have visitors but will wake when they leave and you never end up getting a rest!

Seriously ladies, its well worth having a chat with your dh's about whos allowed in and we had a bit of a secret code for when id had enough and he would make excuses for people to leave.

I waited a week before inviting people in...apart from family and im SO glad i did, you dont get those precious moments back.



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 03:41 AM   64
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I finally got up the nerve to take/post a bump pick this morning, and my DH saw me loading it onto the computer. He said, "are you posting that? You look like you're sticking your stomach out, and your thighs aren't really that big in real life are they? Want me to take a pic?"

I burst into tears, ran upstairs to change clothes, and angrily did a workout video in the other room. I'm not sure if he meant to be helpful? This is the first he's taking ANY notice of my bump, so how would he know how it looks??? Maybe I should paint my bump like a cell phone so that he'll actually pay attention to what's going on in there. Ugh
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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 09:59 AM   65
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Thanks so much for everyone's input on the grandparents thing---it's sooo hard! I'm glad I'm not alone in my thoughts. And I'm also glad helena brought up that at first you dont' want to share baby much. That's exactly how I'm feeling right now! It's like I want baby all to myself for a bit before it gets whisked away by grandparents. I do realize I will need help, but *I* want to be the one to ask for help---when I'm ready. And I want to be able to have all the alone time I want with our first child. And good-gracious---exactly the truth on breastfeeding---I don't want to have to worry about "covering up" the whole time in my own home for the first couple of weeks! Let me get used to breastfeeding in the first place, then I will worry about covering up!

sleeping-bubs, your scan pic is sooooo cute! I can't believe our baby's look like that right now! SO BIG!!! Ahhh I just want to cuddle it right now!!!

(haha---I can definitely tell I'm starting to be a "mommy" already! I'm having all these mommy-like thoughts and protectiveness over my baby) Soooo fun! I can't wait to be a mum!

Anyone getting headaches a lot? I've had a headache on and off for about 4 days! I can't get it to go away! It's only on the left side of my head, too, which I find weird.

I've also been having trouble brushing my teeth! Whenever I brush my teeth, I either gag or sometimes I actually vomit! What's up with that?!?



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 10:02 AM   66
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wamommy---I'm so sorry! I want to see your bump picture! It's amazing the things that come out of DH's mouth sometimes---for the first months, he kept telling me "wow, that thing looks huge!" and things like that.. .(not meaning to be rude, but still. . a little un-tactful!) Just recently he's been starting to say that my bump is "sexy" and he likes it and stuff like that. I think it took a while for DH's brain to compute what he was seeing!



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 10:08 AM   67
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Haha I know, the things men say! The other day, DH told me that as the weeks go by, I look more and more like the Venus of Willendorf

Just for reference, here's what the V of W looks like:



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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 10:21 AM   68
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I've been finding the same thing, with the headaches. All that seems to help is some rest and tylenol here and there.

I have noticed the same thing with the toothbrush, like my gag reflex is way further up than it used to be.

I've been having quite a bit of round ligament pain too, odd, painful stretching feeling...and seems like the backaches have started too.

All that aside, I have truly never felt happier and more at peace with myself than I do right now. This is such a blessing!



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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 11:08 AM   69
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I've been getting a lot of pains in the lower stomach area. Usually when I stand up from sitting or sneeze or cough. Luckily I was ready this morning that it is completely normal and that resting in the best thing to do as our bodies are working really hard to make room for baby to grow.

I can't wait to feel baby move, I'm sure I felt it once but not since. It will just be nice when we have that built in reminder that they are ok and still moving etc.

I've been getting headaches too, not really bad ones, just mildish achey feelings and very tired eyes.

Still not complaining though! This is the best thing ever being pregnant!!!!



 
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Old Aug 13th, 2012, 13:43 PM   70
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I am with you on the headaches too. I find sleep to be the only thing that helps.
I had the tooth brushing thing the other week - made me vomit. Now it just seems my teeth are really sensitive!

The round ligament pains are here too when I get up. but the doc gave me some magnesium supplements which I think is meant to help with the stretching. At least the pains aren't as bad as in my first two pregnancies. But yes, an unexpected sneeze can be painful!....still, least we aren't at the stage where an unexpected sneeze leads to wet undies! (and yes, that's true and yet to come!lol).

Today I had my first wobble about getting fat. Not like me to whine to dh that I worry I am getting fat...must be our hormones making us sensitive! Desperately need to go buy maternity clothes, so many of mine just don't fit now!



 
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