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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 11:26 AM   81
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Helena, you are right! Men should overestimate their arrival time and get brownie points for being early. Oddly enough my DH's favorite song is "Waiting on a Woman" by Brad Paisley. I tease him that he is obviously the woman in our marriage because I am forever waiting on him. For crying out loud he takes more time on his hair than I do!



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 11:48 AM   82
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Bit of a Rant here....

Kellen, good for you to be over it already. I would still be ticked off.
Maybe I just assume that pregnant means that I should be getting my way and when he doesn't comply I am extra grumpy.

We have been out a few times socially and when I want to go I want to go. DH never seems to be on the same timetable, especially since he has realized that he has a built in Designated Driver and can drink all he likes.

It has resulted in a few fights, I just feel like I am the only one that has to make any changes to my life for this baby.....my friends that are already moms tell me to get used to it, but I guess I had dreams of an equality....

wow, feels good to get that out, I go around being bitter inside cause it seems crazy I mean after all, I really wanted this. We had to do fertility treatments to get preganat and I do realize how amazingly blessed we are, but a girl feels what she feels right?

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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 12:03 PM   83
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Whatoexpect,

That was no where near as flaming as my rant. I totally understand and sympathize with you about being forced into a DD position. I would be angry too if my DH wasn't willing to at least change a few things in order to compromise.



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 13:47 PM   84
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Hopefully the changes will come with time. My DH admitted the other day how "immature" and "stupid" some of his friends are (I've been trying to tell him this for YEARS!) I'm not just talking about "boys being boys"---but these were the friends he grew up with---they drink beyond comprehension, bash women, trash talk, don't have jobs, smoke way too much, think that going out to the bar is the only "cool" thing to do, etc. And of course my DH is not like that (how he turned out so well, I don't know), and he only hangs out with them like twice a year (they live 3 hours a way---but one happens to be his older brother, so that's difficult at times). However, the other day, for the FIRST time, DH told me how ridiculous they act and it's stupid to hang out with them (yay! Maybe a victory!?) We'll see what he does come hunting season (they all go hunting together the first week of November). I don't want to take friends from him, but I think he would be a lot better off if he would hang out with his good friends instead of them. So....I'm hoping he "wises up" and decides since he is going to be a father soon that he shouldn't be hanging out with such bad influences (he has strong will power, but they peer pressure him A LOT).

Haha---I'm not really sure where all of that came from. .. but I guess what I'm saying is that hopefully your DH will be able to step-up to the plate and make some changes along with you, whattoexpect. Maybe it just takes time? And you are definitely not alone. ..I think all women make more changes than men for a baby. . .but he should at least be making some.



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 17:06 PM   85
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GUESS WHAT?!?! I'm so excited! Work said they would let me work from home for 6 months after baby is born as a "trial-basis"!!! They said if it works, they'll keep me on for good, and they'll use me as a model for other people to start working from home!!!! This is the best news ever! I get to stay home with my baby and still be able to provide the finances we need!!!!!!



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 17:09 PM   86
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Hello ladies I sure missed a lot! I went to my Mom's house on the beach for a few days to "relax." I ended up being the family nanny as all of the other adults relaxed and I watched all of the kids, but oh well! It was still nice to get away. I also finally told my Mom about the baby, and she seemed genuinely excited. Phew! No more hiding for me!

Kellen and whattoexpect, I totally understand being upset with your DH's actions, and being pregnant certainly compounds it. Luckily my DH doesn't drink, but he's still the king of being late and not contributing around the house... sigh... I'm sorry it's been rough on you guys. It will get better, at least that's what I keep telling myself!

As far as weight gain, I've gained 2 pounds so far... but I started out this pregnancy 10 pounds above my "norm." I feel gigantic, and am very self-conscious about my weight, even though I haven't gained a lot and I'm rather tall to begin with. I'm SUPER excited to get a big enough bump where it's the center of attention, and people don't even notice my other wobbly bits!

I hope everyone is doing better today, and I'm happy to be back!



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 17:09 PM   87
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GUESS WHAT?!?! I'm so excited! Work said they would let me work from home for 6 months after baby is born as a "trial-basis"!!! They said if it works, they'll keep me on for good, and they'll use me as a model for other people to start working from home!!!! This is the best news ever! I get to stay home with my baby and still be able to provide the finances we need!!!!!!
Eeekk!!!! SO awesome, Sierra, congrats!!



 
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Old Aug 14th, 2012, 18:14 PM   88
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That's great news, Sierra!



 
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Old Aug 15th, 2012, 02:36 AM   89
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Wow sierra that's great news! What job do you do?

I work from home but I wouldn't be allowed to care for baby the whole time. I will obviously have longer to spend with them and take them to nursery and pick them up etc. but being able to look after baby whilst working from home would be awesome!! Go you!!



 
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Old Aug 15th, 2012, 03:52 AM   90
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Haha I know, the things men say! The other day, DH told me that as the weeks go by, I look more and more like the Venus of Willendorf

Just for reference, here's what the V of W looks like:
That is actually me right now

I've been so tired in work this week (which makes me fed up anyway)...is it too early to count down until I leave???

Sorry the nausea is still with some of you - hopefully it will be gone soon, FX!

I find that however lovely DH's can be, they really don't get pregnancy sometimes! Altho last night, mine came in from work and actually kissed my bump as well as me for the first time!

Saw my consultant this week (am high risk because I get gestational blood pressure problems) and have a rough plan for my pregnancy. I'm terrified of another prolonged labour (36 hours with DD and ended up as forceps - she was back2back from 38 weeks so I failed to progress for ages) and had laser therapy on my perineum after because it broke down but she told me there was no reason it would happen again and why I shouldn't have an easier birth. I'll hold her to that come Feb!!



 
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