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Old Nov 23rd, 2012, 07:04 AM   71
MrS. MaBrEy
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i have the same issue all the time. People are all "praise jesus" about our baby because we tried for so long. i got several messages after i answered with "no, not praise jesus, praise for medical science" and i was honest with each and every one of them about our walk away from faith and our feelings on the subject of the continued to push it. we lost every single one as a friend. that is fine with me. it just shows the true character IMO. I can respect someone who believes without respecting their belief system. I'm sorry someone would put that on you..the first few weeks are so hard with all the worry (im just barely out of them myself and im still worrying every minute!)



 
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Old Dec 25th, 2012, 07:48 AM   72
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Happy birthday Issac Newton!



 
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Old Jan 1st, 2013, 14:35 PM   73
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Hi everyone, only just found this thread and seems like an appropriate place to sign up

I would say I am an agnostic humanist. DH is also not religious.

We seem to have a real mix of beliefs between our two families, ranging from none, to Wicca, Catholic, JW, and an Anglican priest. Luckily enough, we all seem to be tolerant of each other.


Looking forward to chatting with you all soon.



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2013, 06:50 AM   74
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Hi Miss Bellum,

Sorry I kinda flaked on responding here. I really would like to have this thread get busy again. I'm on the TTC version and we had hoped we'd get enough bfp to keep this going and have some new ladies join. So I think that could happen soon!

I don't know about you, I find it a bit awkward when people say they'll pray for me during my pregnancy... I thank them because what else can I do.

And I loathe the day when I have to confront my family and tell them we're not getting the baby baptized. I can't, in good conscience, allow my children to be raised with any ties to the Catholic church (what I was raised in). I don't agree with their stance on my reproductive choices, the fact that women can't become leaders in the church, that people aren't free to love and marry who they want to...and the whole crisis around the sexual abuse that is still not really being resolved.

Anyway, hope to see you, and others, around!



 
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Old Jan 12th, 2013, 06:51 AM   75
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Oh and a lovely smart lady in the TTC verson of this group made a ticker banner thingy for us!

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just remove the stars from the URL tag and plop it in your siggy!



 
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I received my first horrified, and horrifying, letter in the mail. I had my religion on my fb page listed as "pastafarian" because I assumed that no one I know would realize it meant Atheist and would just take it as a joke. I got a letter from my 74 year old estranged grandmother telling me that I was indoctrinated into a cult and that my baby was a demon and that my family (husband, baby, and I) were all going to burn in hell for believing in a spaghetti monster. As funny as it is I am furious that someone would call my unborn baby a demon and threaten it with hell. Second, she doesn't even own a computer...so I had to search through my friends list and find the filthy troll who is sharing my personal business with someone who shouldn't even be allowed in the same room with a piece of technology much less close enough to attempt to understand it! that makes 2 sets of grandparents who are cut out of my life...and leaves me with the burning question of how much more family we are going to lose when we tell them all that if they attempt to indoctrinate our child that they will never see it again. I have a feeling next X-mas is going to be hell on wheels.



 
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Old Jan 13th, 2013, 00:58 AM   77
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yikes wow. im sorry you are going through that... but may you and your child be touched by his noodley appendage =)



 
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Hi Miss Bellum,

Sorry I kinda flaked on responding here. I really would like to have this thread get busy again. I'm on the TTC version and we had hoped we'd get enough bfp to keep this going and have some new ladies join. So I think that could happen soon!

I don't know about you, I find it a bit awkward when people say they'll pray for me during my pregnancy... I thank them because what else can I do.

And I loathe the day when I have to confront my family and tell them we're not getting the baby baptized. I can't, in good conscience, allow my children to be raised with any ties to the Catholic church (what I was raised in). I don't agree with their stance on my reproductive choices, the fact that women can't become leaders in the church, that people aren't free to love and marry who they want to...and the whole crisis around the sexual abuse that is still not really being resolved.

Anyway, hope to see you, and others, around!
Hello there! Hopefully we can get a few more people posting on here and keep the thread going.

I would find it a bit strange if people offered to pray for me/bean. In the UK, it doesn't seem to happen as much though, as most people tend not to really discuss religion in public. I think all you can really do is thank them and move on.

I can understand why you would not want to bring up a child in the Catholic faith, I have a lot of the same problems with their attitudes. I also think it is not fair to baptize or christen children who are not old enough to make their own choices. I think no-one should be accepted into a faith until they are an adult and can choose to enter of their own free will.

Luckily for me, most of my friends/family understand my point of view, and a lot agree with it. I dont think it is likely to cause any problems.

We are considering having a humanist naming ceremony for our bean - It will still give us the chance to get the family together for a celebration, without the need for any religion. Is this something that might work for you?

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I received my first horrified, and horrifying, letter in the mail. I had my religion on my fb page listed as "pastafarian" because I assumed that no one I know would realize it meant Atheist and would just take it as a joke. I got a letter from my 74 year old estranged grandmother telling me that I was indoctrinated into a cult and that my baby was a demon and that my family (husband, baby, and I) were all going to burn in hell for believing in a spaghetti monster. As funny as it is I am furious that someone would call my unborn baby a demon and threaten it with hell. Second, she doesn't even own a computer...so I had to search through my friends list and find the filthy troll who is sharing my personal business with someone who shouldn't even be allowed in the same room with a piece of technology much less close enough to attempt to understand it! that makes 2 sets of grandparents who are cut out of my life...and leaves me with the burning question of how much more family we are going to lose when we tell them all that if they attempt to indoctrinate our child that they will never see it again. I have a feeling next X-mas is going to be hell on wheels.
I am finding it very hard to express how angry this sort of thing makes me. I am so sorry you have had to deal with this.

What sort of person could possibly call an unborn baby a demon? I have no time at all for people that threaten anyone with hell. I can understand why you would want to cut such people out of your life. I also dont understand why the troll felt it necessary to pass on information to your grandmother.

I hope that the rest of your family have a more reasonable attitude and can just enjoy spending time with your baby without bringing religion into it.

Sorry, dont really have much practical advise to offer, but I do sympahtise with your position.



 
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I ladies! Can' I join you all? I'm agnostic. DH isn't religious in any way. We haven't received any issues from family about baptising (mine would have been the problem)but so far so good. I have a lot of people who say they will pray for me and I say thanks but that's just because it's their beliefs and I'm not going to argue with them as I would expect them not to argue with me for mine.



 
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I ladies! Can' I join you all? I'm agnostic. DH isn't religious in any way. We haven't received any issues from family about baptising (mine would have been the problem)but so far so good. I have a lot of people who say they will pray for me and I say thanks but that's just because it's their beliefs and I'm not going to argue with them as I would expect them not to argue with me for mine.
Hello and welcome!

Sounds very similar to us, we haven''t had any issues with either set of families.



 
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