Ladies that were in the Over 30's Assisted Conception Club for Baby Numero 1 thread

I've had a tough few weeks, my father died from cancer on 2nd Jan he had been having chemo for the last 6mths and we thought that he was making good progress but unfortunately he took a turn for the worse the week before xmas and on xmas eve we were given the awful news that the cancer had spread and he just deteriorated after that. My mother is also in the process of being diagnosed with dementia, as my father was her primary carer we're now in the process of trying to find care options to look after her, its been very stressful.

His funeral is on thurs and its snowing... i really hope it stops soon otherwise it could be a nightmare or really pretty i suppose depending on how you look at it?

as for me and the babies, i'm doing fine (i think) got a scan and consultant apt on tues which i can't wait for to make sure everything is okay. but with everything thats been going on i haven't been able to focus on the babies or get excited about them coming which is making me sad aswell. i have managed to get some bits and pieces together but its not the way i imagined these few months before they are born to happen.

how are you babydrms? when are you due?

Hi Pink holidays can be awful when you have such hard things going on. I agree, it will be beautiful for your father. I know another bnb gal who was pregnant when she lost her mom, as well as my bff did too, it is a tough time to lose a parent.

Things are good, I'm due 3/31 - but since I'm a singleton I will probably go after you lately we have been focusing a crazy amount of energy working on our home. I guess I'm nesting

yeah I probably will

hoping the scan & apt tomorrow will give me a better idea of when.

glad things are well, I'm looking forward to the nesting as my house could do with an intensive clean!!

pink - im still a slug and getting worse. thank goodness my folks are cleaning. it is awesome. i was too overwhelmed. but they pile stuff up and i just have to go through it. im so sorry about your father and mother, that is just so hard. i dont think ill ever be old enough to not need them

Drsquid - couldn't agree more, we always need our parents! So glad yours have arrived to help you!

Pink - I wish I could say we are cleaning, but it has been more like painting and reorganizing. We had to take apart our guest room to make it a nursery and we are trying to figure out how to make everything fit in the rest of the house/garage. Then, we will do the same in to our den and make it a playroom. However, the house still needs a deep clean! Drsquid has given me an idea, maybe I can ask the Grammies to give us a hand with that.

as crazy as it is to me (cause i hate cleaning) my folks are really getting into it. i have to suck up how uncomfortable it makes me feel that my dad is going through my personal papers etc but.. i appreciate their help so... it seems to make them feel really involved and excited... and what grannies dont like cleaning =) main important thing.. just get out of the way. they are ok with me lying/sitting down and sorting through piles. ive thrown out/donated tons of stuff. i feel better with a clean house (though it looks like a tornado went through cause everything is pulled out etc). cleaners come today and will actually do the floors etc

Hi Everyone,
Pink I'm so sorry to hear about your father and your mother. I agree that we always need our parents. I'm on the other side of the world from my mom and it is hard, but at least with skype etc we can make it work. I hope things get better for you and you can focus your energy more on yourself and the babies.
We've been struggling as my FIL had another mini-stroke a couple of weeks ago and we're also worried my MIL is starting with a bit of memory loss. It's tough to try to help them when they are far away.
As for nesting and cleaning- we're trying to get some work done. I broke down and adjusted our budget so we could have a cleaner come once a week (I'd love to have the grannies come over but it's a 20 hour flight). That little bit of extra help has made a world of difference. Instead of spending our spare time vacuuming and tidying, we can try to figure out what's going on with the baby room, or just enjoy relaxing on the sofa (my new favorite place!!).
My boobs have increased to epic proportions at this point. I think I'll fall forward when my milk comes in.
So nice to hear how things are going with all of you.

cleaners are worth EVERY penny. especially cause it gets me to straighten up before them come etc. otherwise i lose total control and then i get overwhelmed etc

Oh I used to love to have the house cleaned professionally, haven't in a while but perhaps as a push gift, lol!

Smurf, I thought the in-laws were coming by you for a few months. Sorry about their decreasing health, my parents are also agony too quickly and have several concerns. Not an easy thing to deal with.

Hey Everyone- how are you all going?
I hit the 31 week mark tomorrow and I'm mostly feeling good. Are you all in prenatal classes? How are they going? We're trying hypnobirth and have done 2 classes so far. I'm not 100% convinced that I'll cruise through birth zenned out but I like some of the philosophy behind it so I'll try.
My in laws are STILL here (arrived Dec 6, staying until March 20). As expected, there have been some family dramas during that time. Luckily they are away traveling for a couple of weeks. I feel terrible but I can't wait for them to leave. :-/
Hope everyone is doing well!