There's a woman at work who has taken to calling me 'fatty'. I barely know her and it does annoy me. Everyone else is horrified when they hear her say it but she thinks she's hilarious. I think she is just an idiot, but she is also someone I barely know and I know she doesn't mean it meanly, so I just think it's not worth stressing about.
I truly think that people are trying to be funny. They figure that it won't be defensive because we have a reason to gain weight! You would never hear any of them make fun of a women's weight when she is not pregnant!!!
I have a lady at work that always call me Portabelly. She thinks its hilarious. Personally I just don't get it . I don't think it's clever or funny but she seems to like saying it! Whatever!
When the comments get too much, I usually say: hey, in 10 weeks I will be loosing 12lbs in 1 day! How about you ?
That usually puts things back into perspective for the person saying it! Guess they don't like to be called fat, so why would we ??
Thanks ladies, OMG the same lady proceeded to tell everyone she is 12 weeks pregnant and how she hopes she doesnt get as MASSIVE as me!!!! She then said this was because i look like a weeble
MummyPony thanks hun i feel for your wife as i have also had this comment a lot i dont understand why people keep doing it ...its like the more i let them know it upsets me the more they do it such odd behaviour
Oh Plastik you are so good being proud, i feel like that enjoying the pregnancy and enjoying my belly growing is being taken away from me by these comments and i find myself wishing the weeks away rather than enjoying this special time
Thanks Cherry, i know, they dont seem to think there is anything wrong with it i just dont get it
Snoopee thats outrageous! Sounds like he just wanted to upset you for some reason i agree some people really are dickheads and deserve a kick in the balls / vajayjay for being so mean to prego women
Oh wow Mrs Bump how rude is that woman at work i dont know the lady at my work very well either and to me it just makes it all the more upsetting
Steph, i know what you mean, its like some kind of red rag to anyone who has ever wanted to comment on someones weight but held it in,...as if we wouldnt mind!! unfortunately the lady that comments the most is super skinny so i cant get my own back
Omg smanderson what a bitch that lady is!!! I was gettong fed up with the .. wow youre huge... comments and... are you sure there is only one in there?... my brother calls me fatty.. hes a cheeky git! You know what this means now though dont you hun? PAYBACK!!! When she is moaning about beng pregnant call her a wimp or something and make fun of how big her bump is. That might teach her to be such an insensitive cow xxxx
People do just see it as a get of jail free card, like all of a sudden they can say fat jokes because technically your not fat - they just don't see that they are still hurtful! I have one friend who says it at work but I let him off and besides I can make remarks that he is getting old or bald or something as I know it winds him up. Other people who have nothing to do with you or barely a relationship, it's uncalled for. Especially when she is saying she doesn't want to get so big - what do people think happens in pregnancy?! Just remind her of that if she says anything again - like 'jokingly' your turn next!
I think it happens to everyone who's pregnant, I've been told by so many people how big I am etc, and most of the time I know they are well meaning and don't think of it as offensive (usually its along the lines of "I feel sorry for you coz you are big enough already!!"). I also have one person who calls me a fat cow and a far bitch when I'm eating what I want to eat (cakes etc) and she's munching a salad. And I've realised it's all jealousy. People like that are jealous of what we have, whether that be a baby or simply just a reason not to be on a diet like they are!! I have since found out that this person actually weighs more than I currently do (and I was a size 14 before I got pregnant so I'm not a skinny minny) so for all the "fat cow" comments it's really coz she hates the fact that I weigh less than her despite being 7 months pregnant!!
I agree with the reply Steph gave and I have used it myself "it's all fine coz in April I will be losing almost a stone in one day" lol, should see people's faces when you say that one to them! Don't let them get to you ladies, they're all just jealous or just plain stupid lol!!
Smanderson that is so awful my mum keeps implying (not outright saying...just little things here and there) that I am massive then when I challenge her about it she says "I never said you were huge!" Which is technically true, but I am smart enough to get the little bits like "oh this baby is going to be a big one!" she has me absolutely paranoid.
I know exactly what you guys mean. As happy and proud as I am to have a beautiful big belly, I really am worried about my weight gain. I had a normal BMI before I got pg, but was about 4kg heavier than I like to be. Needless to say any idea of dieting to lose the weight went out the window when I got my !!
I've still got 9 weeks to go and I've already put on a lot of weight. As much as I was hoping to put on for the whole pregnancy My DH is a bit obsessed with his weight at the moment and weighs himself morning and night, and always tells me how he's losing. He doesn't need to lose at all, his body is gorgeous, but he's doing it because he's really getting into mountain biking and if he's lighter its easier to cycle over longer distances. I know he isn't doing it on purpose to get at me, but I am starting to get a it panicky. I fell like he's doing so well and I've already failed because I'm over my target weight already with weeks still to go.
Think he'll be ok if I tell him I'm starting to get paranoid about it and I don't want to hear anything about weight? Thing is he's so proud of himself (and I am of him too) that I don't want him to feel bad for looking after himself of wanting to tell me about how he's doing. *sigh* Really want to just enjoy this last stretch of pregnancy without worrying about how much bloody weight I've gained.
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