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Old Apr 2nd, 2013, 13:43 PM   1
sparklela
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lesbian couples expecting in fall (Nov) 2013?


Hi everyone,

just wondering if there are any other lesbian couples expecting in the fall/winter of 2013?

I'm just beginning my 7th week, and it's the first for my partner and me! Due Nov 21-24, depending....

I'm American (from the east coast), my partner is German, and we presently live in Germany.

We'd love to find some other gay or gay-friendly moms going through pregnancy right now, too!



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Old Apr 2nd, 2013, 15:25 PM   2
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Hi!!!

I'm due Nov 5th. I'm Canadian, but living in Ireland with my Irish wife.

It's our first (probably only, really, since it cost us 3000 to conceive this one) too. So exciting!



 
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Old Apr 2nd, 2013, 15:31 PM   3
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Hello...Due date should be between Dec. 7-9th, 2013...I am American and my wife is Hispanic...she has children from a previous marriage and I love those kiddos to pieces I do...but this is our first time conceiving....and my first time ever carrying so I am super excited....I guess not so new to parenting but definitly new to pregnancy...



 
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Old Apr 2nd, 2013, 15:37 PM   4
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Oh, and here's our wee spud. We're not finding out the sex, because -- well, my wife is very much a tomboy and I identify as genderqueer -- honestly? I don't think it'd mean that much to us, and it would mean too much to everyone else.

But this was our first glimpse of our baby. We've been trying for 3 years -- first with a friend/donor and self-insem, and then we went the clinic route with a non-anonymous but frozen pop (kid can look him up when they turn 18) and we were really fortunate to get our BFP on the first cycle of IUI.

Seeing the heartbeat was really something.

I have my first GP visit tomorrow afternoon, and that's when I register with the public health service for my antenatal care.

It's all starting to seem so freaking real.



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Old Apr 2nd, 2013, 15:47 PM   5
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Wow JD that is such a pretty pic....i knwo that probably sounds weird...but it is...I can't wait to get to that point...hearing a heartbeat and all that...just can't wait its so exciting...my wife asked me yesterday if I wanted to know the sex asap or if I wanted to keep it a secret and while I will be thrilled with either sex I told her screw waiting I want to know now lol...but that's just me...I understand where you are coming from though...people shouldn't place such importance on the gender of the baby...it's a miracle regardless ...I'm just now trying to find an OB in my area to set an appointment up with...my general physician said to make the appointment so I'm going to....



 
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Old Apr 3rd, 2013, 01:58 AM   6
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Wow! Fantastic picture! I can imagine why it suddenly seems real.

Great to hear from both of you so quickly.

Our first official prenatal visit is on the 17th-- I was at the doctor's once to have the pregnancy confirmed last week, and he measured my uterus and could estimate the due date from that. But there wasn't anything visible yet other than a black dot!

The thing that's scariest at the moment is the high chance of mc... Although I've been having nausea lately and have heard that once that sets in, your likelihood goes way down. Lying in bed right now, trying not to lose my cookies...


We will find out the gender if it's visible, although I agree that it's not really important to us...And we are planning not to tell anybody else, even if we know-- to avoid being over pinked/blued.

Glad we have a group going! It's nice to know some other grrlz going thru this!



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Old Apr 3rd, 2013, 02:25 AM   7
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PS- 3 years, JD! Wow. Awesome that it eventually worked.

We had a friend as donor, but there was ways travel involved since he lives in Berlin, about 4-5 hours from us by train. We tried 2 times last spring, although it was tough to get the timing right, and I admittedly didn't know my cycles so well then. We started again in January, and this time it worked on the 2nd try!

Have either of you told people yet? (Mom2hope, do the kids know??)

We wanted to wait to tell most people, but it is so dang hard! Especially now that I'm exhausted and mildly sick... It's getting hard to delicately make excuses...



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Old Apr 3rd, 2013, 03:11 AM   8
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I had to tell my colleagues 4 weeks ago because of the nausea. We told close friends, family after our scan. Not going Facebook official for another while!



 
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Old Apr 3rd, 2013, 06:48 AM   9
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we told the donor...and we told 2 other people....aside from that we haven't told even the kids yet...we want to wait until that chance for mc goes down a lot more...I can't say that I have really had nausea yet...i have this nasty sick taste in my mouth but no nausea and no vomitting...round about when does that kick in???

I agree it is hard not telling people...I want to...so bad...but would rather keep it secret till that risky chance goes away....this period make me worry because I'm so afraid to do anything wrong...move the wrong way....or anything because what if I mess something up....i know it sounds irrational but really this early on there isn't anything the docs would be able to do so I am just worried a lot of the time...it kinda crashes that happy I have some times....



 
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Old Apr 3rd, 2013, 14:50 PM   10
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Hey All,

Really nice to read your experiences.. I have been trying using a known donor for 9 months and ended up going to gyn/ob for advice. She scanned my uterus and it turned out I had a dermoid cyst the size of a rugby ball. It has been removed along with my left ovary and tube. This was 8 weeks ago...

I don't know if this prevented me from conceiving, but I sure hope that is the case. I am now in my 2ww, using the same donor... inseminating at home from first pos OPK for 2 days, one day gap, then again. 3 times per cycle.

take care



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