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Old Mar 22nd, 2017, 07:13 AM   5021
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Quick check in, will read through properly later and reply to people,

KK nice to hear from you hope everyone else doing ok , I will catch up properly later today if I can..

Ollie doing ok, getting really good at settling himself now...might not stay asleep long but I'm not really bothered about that.. It's a start.. He is getting really chunky .. So cute smiling loads..
just been out for breakfast with ollie and oh to a pub, managed to stay within my diet to a point haha.. Ds at his new nursery this am. He went in all excited as he has some tadpoles to show his friends from our garden.. One of the grumpy nursery nurses said they can have a quick look then he can take them home. Wouldn't mind but it was the manager that told him to bring them in! This woman is such an ass.. Has real power trips.. Really annoyed me.. Sorry for little vent ! Lol.. Its just ds was so excited taking them in.. They have a little pond so was going to put them in. She said they would die ??.. If that's the case fair enough it was her attitude that pissed me off Arrr!!

Just wondering how many of the people in here were on the facebook group, is it a closed group ? Just seems to be the same few on here now and wondered if I was only one not on Facebook?

Weather here rubbish cold and rainy 😣 going to take ollie and ds to play area this afternoon to let ds burn off some of his energy as we can't go a walk x mummy will be sitting having a coffee x !



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2017, 10:57 AM   5022
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Literati- I hope you're feeling better! I'm glad you had a fun outing but I'm sorry about the fussy evening, poor V unable to breathe. At least it will pass, I hope she feels better soon and is able to sleep better (and you)!

Angel- good on you for taking care of yourself and getting back in the gym! It's not easy, the most I've been doing is going on occasional walks and only got back on the elliptical once. I'm glad the gym daycare took care of her and got you when they needed you!
And don't feel bad for talking about sleep, I feel like that's one of the main problems/concerns with a newborn because they are generally not good sleepers. I feel the exact same way on not feeling ready to put her in her room yet! We have her in the rock n play beside our bed (I know you're technically not supposed to, but with her reflux we got desperate and it's how everyone gets some sleep!) but dh wants to move her into her room in her crib because of how noisy she is. I'm willing to try when she's 4ish months and if we have a baby monitor! I hope you find something that works for you guys. Sleep is important and I think everyone would do just about everything to get it!
I've heard dr browns is great for gas! Thankfully we seem to be past the super gassy stage, but she was there for a couple weeks recently.

Pompey- you have a point there, the only way to get past it is to do it and I'm sure worrying about what could go wrong is worse than reality. I may start with dh and I taking her out this weekend, we've been cooped up since she was 2-3 weeks old and just slept all the time, and we did make a few outings then. Then I can try to attack going alone to target or even just get coffee.
I'm glad Jamie is doing well and growing! Anabella sounds like a good big sister, being sweet to him and wanting to be able to play with him.
The smiling and cooing is my favorite! It definitely helps me get through the sleep deprivation and fussiness.

Slammer- glad to hear good things about the comotomo bottles from someone who's used them, I can't wait to try.
Poor dd, sounds like she's having a rough time. I hope she feels better today and is able to get some better rest tonight. The raw spot sounds painful, I hope you can get seen quick and get it taken care of.

Ali- haha right? I feel the SAME way and I've only been a mom for a couple months, I can't imagine how you would feel! It is good to hear that it will get better when they're older, I'm trying not to wish away any stage but like I've said before I am not a fan of this one!
I'm glad you were able to get your hair cut! That always makes me feel somewhat like a new person.
The hair pulling is brutal! I'm always paranoid she'll get a piece of my hair wrapped around her finger because of it so I'm constantly checking. She pulls dh's chest hair and it makes me laugh although I know it's painful.
oh man, running out of wipes and then being late to work and then finding out dh had a rough day on top of it sounds chaotic. I feel the same about feeling responsible if someone else has a hard time, even though they are babies and their own people it still makes me feel horrible.
Yay for 7 hours! Hopefully it wasn't just a one time thing and it starts being a thing. Broken sleep is the worst, makes me feel like I didn't even sleep at all.

Apple- glad Ollie is doing well and happy! I love the smiles too. That woman sounds ridiculous, I would ignore her and listen to the manager instead. Seems like some people are rude just to be rude, I don't get it. She could have at least been nice about it, I mean she chose to do the job she does. How cute ds was excited, I hope he absolutely loves the new place and makes lots of friends! He sounds sweet.
I'm not in the Facebook group yet but someone said the other day it isn't super active. So you aren't the only one!

AFM- I feel crazy suggesting this but I swear it feels like Lillian is teething! The past week or so she just constantly has her little fist in her mouth, at first I thought it was because she was hungry but that's clearly not it. She rubs her face often and has been having off/on fussy periods (which I know isn't unusual by itself) and to top it off she gets fussy at the bottle. Seems like it happens as the day goes on, she usually takes her morning bottle just fine. When she had problems with reflux she did this as well, but then she would clutch at her chest and stomach, this is a bit different. It seems to have interrupted her sleep as well, she will sleep but seems pretty restless and sometimes does that few second high pitch cry. Lately I have to rock her and have her on me so she will nap longer than 5 mins.
I do notice little white spots on her gums but I'm also not entirely sure what I'm looking for and can't quite tell if her gums are swollen as I hadn't paid them much attention until lately.
Anyways, I could be totally off base but I guess I will just keep trying things until something works, seems like that's what I do most of the time with her



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2017, 11:28 AM   5023
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Ali - wow, that outing for hair cut with diaper blow-out sounds quite stressful! I am glad it didn't matter too much that you were late for work! It is hard having to change babies when out and about. I am not a fan.
That's too funny about you forgetting you were making lunch! I can see that happening to me too.

I hope T does a long stretch like that for you more regularly. I am with you on seeing how it would be hard to try the crib after that if it would mean giving up a longer stretch of sleep. I fear I have probably already created a monster with V as she just won't sleep in the bassinet at all, and I am so attached to the better sleep with her in the bed that I am not bothering trying very often. I fear I may end up with two kids in my bed until they're 8! Haha. I will have o wait much longer for a third child if I can't get at least one of them out of my bed.

It is hard doing anything for "you" once you're a mom. However, I feel it is important to give yourself a break and do things you enjoy sometimes. Maybe when T is a bit older you should get your DH to watch the kids for a few hours while you do something just for you! Also - have you considered joining a local moms' group to try to make a few friends? Even if they don't really get to be close friends, it might be nice to have a bit of a support system with not having any family nearby!

Apple - I am glad Ollie is self settling a bit. Hopefully he will start sleeping longer soon.

VRogers - if L is teething, that would make two very early teethers on this thread! Keep us posted on that. Either way, whatever is bothering her is likely to pass soon enough...until the next thing!
Thanks. V is still struggling with breathing but seems slightly better maybe? I hope she heals fully soon. I can feel myself getting sick now too...
Have you gone to Target? I really think you should give it a go!!

AFM - DH worked super lAte last night (I was already asleep when he got home, and I went to bed after 11), and I didn't want to be alone. Was feeling quite down! So I spontaneously asked my sister if I could go visit. I bought us all mcflurries and then watched a show with my sister. Dd1 and my niece chased each other around and giggled like crazy until my niece had to go to bed, and then dd1 mostly played with puzzles until it was time to leave. It made bedtime slightly more stressful because dd1 fell asleep in the vehicle and then woke up when we got home and took about 40 min to fall back asleep. However, it enabled V to nap on the way there and back which stopped her from getting overtired and screaming the house down...which was great! She is getting harder and harder to get to sleep. We may become those people who have to drive their kid around for every single nap. *rolls eyes*



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2017, 14:35 PM   5024
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AliJo - sorry the day was bad for DH. I hope it goes better today.

Sounds like a stressful outing to get your hair cut!

Literati - thank for the reassurance on the silver nitrate. The doctor didn't even mention it, but have read about it online, so I hope it's an option. Sorry you needed it last time and are likely going to need it again. But if it helps then that's all that matters!

Apple - love baby smiles! Jack is smiling at me more and more. Sorry about the mean lady at your toddler’s nursery!

Vrogers - i remember when DD started doing the hand sucking all the time and I was like “I can't tell if this is a hunger cue anymore!”. Jack is sucking his hands and lot too. I think it at just normal development for this age.

Literati - I don't know if I'll ever get Jack sleeping on a separate surface either. The few times I've tried to put him down on the bed or in the rock n play he wakes instantly. I think he's very sensitive to the temperature difference when he feels the loss of body heat against him.

Sounds like going to see tour sis was a great idea! Wish I had someone to call for a spontaneous visit.

I don't even know how you'd do driving naps with DD1 around. I've had the same thought!

AFM - well my neck was so sore today after PT yesterday! Trying to do my stretches/exercises but in pain!

DH is working an extra night tonight so on my own. I hope DD isn't too sick/needy tonight.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 06:08 AM   5025
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kk- enjoy the road trip! good job on the walk, that is my aim today, to get out for one!!

vrogers- i never ended up doing the bedroom, but i managed to sort out clothes that don't fit isa anymore and put them away and sort his next size up ones. i also dont really like taking isa out in case he cries and fusses and i feel everyone will stare at me!

lit- hope yiu are feeling better soon, sorry about the headaches and nausea, sounds horrible. thats nice you went to see your sister and V got some sleep in. I hope things get easier for you with the sleep.

ange;- so jealous you got to the gym, i really wanna get more active. Good work! i went on the scales last week and it seems i have lost about 9 pounds, without even realising it . i stepped on it about 10 x as i didn't believe it. so i am only a few pounds off pre pregnancy weight, but my body shape definitely feels different so i feel like i have a new body. Reallly want to get back into my running etc.
sorry m has been so fussy. Honestly, baby sleep is complex. Once you think things are going well, it all changes and you need to start over. I hope you manage to get M down for naps in the crib. things will get easier, and hope dh will feel more confident in managing M. HUGS.

pomp- so happy Jamie is doing well, he sounds like a little chunk.

slammer- glad pt went well and sorry dd had a fussy niight. Spot sounds ouch, seeing obgyn sounds like a good plan.

ali- i think that is one of the cons of BF'ing- babies want mum and thats it, and they want the comfort. Nothing dad can do will compare. oh Ali, that blow out sounds horrible, you poor thing.

apple- thats amazing he can self settle, i would love isa to do that lol. im not on fb, so no ide about group. but almost wish i had fb so i can see more updates and pics from you guys and put faces to the names

afm- my little lump i had is gone and boob feels almost back to normal now. PHEW. I want to wean isa v slowly, as too fast and i will probably get another bout of mastitis knowing my luck. I have a formula, giving him a small amount everyday. Just to get him used to it. im in no major rush to stop bf'ing completely yet.
SIL is coming to visit today with her daughter, staying for 2 nights, going to be busy!
isa doing good, but last couple of nights been really fussy in the evenings, from 8-11ish and not sleeping. driving me mad. but then hes fine at night with just a couple of quick awakenings. i think he gets over tired so need to try and prevent that from happening tonight.
last night he fell asleep at 9, dh and i were like yes! we can chill out together now, but then he woke an didn't sleep till 11.30. Baby sleep- oh its so confusing and complex.
isa is drooling a lot and eating his hand, dh think he might be teething.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 08:14 AM   5026
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Literati - also meant to say I'm there with you on fretting about dealing with crap sleep for a year. I was just thinking to myself the other day..."almost two months down...10ish to go before it might get better"

Ally - glad your breast is feeling better! Hope you enjoy your SIL's visit and that Isa settles down in the evenings.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2017, 12:40 PM   5027
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Yesterday went much better for DH. He was able to get T to take a 3 hour nap and O took a 2 hour one during that time so he was able to relax a bit. He said he was stuck in the same position the whole time, but he was still grateful. T ate a lot better than the first day as well so I'm happy for that. Hoping that it's a good sign. He still had rough moments, but I really don't want this to continue too long. Next week I have two full days back to back and I'm nervous that they'll be bad.

Today isn't a nice day out. It's not very warm and cloudy with a pretty high chance of rain. So, definitely no walk today! Hoping to go look at a couple of houses. I'm actually excited about one. It's a single story with a full basement on a .27 acre lot. A corner lot so a lot is on the edges but still has a lot of yard I can fence for the boys. Then it has an open layout which makes me super excited! Plus there is a little bonus room that has a door out to the back that would be perfect for a play room and is right off the living room! The kitchen would need updated at some point, but I'm okay with that! It's in good condition, just an older style. Can you tell I'm excited about it? I just hope it works out! Really hoping to view today as well so if we like it we can hopefully place an offer today. I keep checking my phone and email hoping she has a showing set up. I'm so afraid it will slip from us otherwise.

Also, my weight is still dropping steadily so I'm excited about that! Even though I ate like complete crap the last two days. When I work it's hard to eat well. Then we get bribery food from the different Hospice centers we work with. So I had probably 4 too many cookies yesterday.. which is all I had (like 4 isn't a lot!) I haven't ate the best today, but I think I want to try some chicken taco meat tonight and have a taco salad. Never actually had a chicken taco.

Ally - I'm glad your breast is better! It does sound like the start of teething. I know O drooled for awhile before finally getting a tooth, but it was probably slowly pushing up. I'm hoping I have a couple more months before they start to show!

Slammer - It was stressful! Glad it's done, though! I'm home today and it's all in the past. DH really likes my hair so I keep getting compliments from him, it's nice haha

Lite - Definitely didn't get another long stretch last night. I still felt like I slept okay, though. Probably because I got more than just 5 hours of sleep total which seems to be all I get before work.

I honestly don't know any mom groups around here. I looked around online, but this isn't a big area so nothing popped up.

Glad you spent some time with your sister! I use to love when O took a nap in the car, but yeah.. now it's just trouble!

Vrogers - Usually the first teeth to come in are the front bottom teeth. So pay the most attention there. Try giving her a cool wash cloth to chew on or maybe even a little Tylenol to see if that calms her. If it does it's a good chance she's teething.

Apple - That lady sounds annoying. Why can't they all be wonderful? There always seems to be that one person that throws EVERYONE off. Just like at work. Most of my fellow employees are great then there are just a couple that I think we could really do without. They ruin the whole flow of everything. Glad Ollie is doing so well! I love baby smiles!



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2017, 09:54 AM   5028
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It's been quiet! What plans do people have going for the weekend? Nothing here as per the norm.

So.. we almost missed out on our chance for that house I liked. We were able to place an offer, though! We find out today. There are several offers, but we're in the running since we made a very clean offer. I'm super anxious! The day is dragging out. I've come to terms with it if we don't get it, but I keep acting like we will. I guess there is nothing wrong with being optimistic as long as I am aware it isn't guaranteed.

I'm going to exercise today for at least a half hour total. It may have to be split up depending on the boys, but I will get it done! First I need to do some hip stretches to try and make them feel better. Definitely hurting today. I also feel like I have been stranded in the desert. Nothing I drink refreshes me and my mouth is always dry. I blame the boob gobbler!



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2017, 11:37 AM   5029
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Slammer - Yep, the first year of crappy sleep sure sucks. At least we can commiserate.
I hope the extra night without your DH went ok!
I think that Violet is the same with being really sensitive to the temperature change of being put down. Ohhhh well!

Do you have another appointment booked with your doctor yet?

Ally - the fussy and late evenings sound exactly like what we are going through. And we have had the same thing happen, thinking V has fallen asleep at a decent hour only to have her wake right up and stay up partying for 2 more hours! Oh well. Maybe we will have evenings again eventually...
Glad your lump is okay! I hope you can successfully very gradually wean to formula so you never have to go through this again! You've really gone through a lot! However, it's awesome Isa has been BFed as long as he has! I hope the visit with your SIL goes well and isn't too busy and exhausting.

Ali -
That's great things went better for your DH and he got the kids both to sleep well! Woohoo! I know how it is to be pinned in one position and unable to move for a few hours just to keep a baby to sleep!

Sounds like a great house! It would be so hard getting your hopes up and then waiting to find out. This house hunting business sounds really stressful. I hope you get it. Good luck with getting your exercise in today! It has been a lot nicer out the last couple days so I think today I might attempt a walk with the girls! Still too cold for V to be in the wrap, but I will try V in the stroller and dd1 holding my hand. Even if it's a very short walk, it will at least get us out of the house and in some fresh air.

AFM - I have been feeling so, so worn out!!! Like, incredibly weary like I have never felt before (mentally, physically and emotionally). This having 2 kids business is so hard!
However, dd1 has been better behaved all week, and I've been doing my best at getting us out for short activities to keep us all sane. Yesterday I took dd1 to a different mall's play place which I actually liked better because there were surrounding tables you could eat at/drink coffee at while watching the kids play whereas the other mall's area had no food or drink allowed. Dd1 had so much fun, but unfortunately then she pooped and I had to change her in the most cramped public bathroom ever with everyone watching, and I wanted to scream! I got home and was so exhausted. Dd1 needed a nap, thankfully, so after 3 attempts, I finally got both girls sleeping at the same time and then I fell asleep for a good 2 hours! Dd1 slept for almost 3! She was so tired. Anyway, I felt way better after that.

This weekend is so busy that I am basically dreading it. Tonight DH works really late again so I am getting together with a friend and ordering pizza so we can at least keep each other company (her husband works late too). Hopefully the kids will play well and leave us alone haha. Then Saturday evening we are going to my sister's for supper. Sunday will be the busiest and the one I am most dreading because we are celebrating DH's parents' 40th wedding anniversary. My SIL organized a whole big thing so now I just have to go along with it. We have to prepare multiple dishes (although they gave us the easy ones at least), and pay for flowers and blah blah blah. Not only that, but DH has other plans in the afternoon that make the schedule too tight to get there in time since they live out of town, so he is dropping me off at their house first thing in the afternoon with the girls, and I will be stuck there for the ENTIRE day with the girls and no help. It's going to be so stressful. My SILs are going to be decorating and whatnot, so I will probably feel guilted into helping, but I have to just sit and hold V while she naps so I won't be able to...I am just so stressed about it! We won't get to leave until 8 pm and then it will be time to start the week again after no relaxing at all. Blah.



 
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Old Mar 24th, 2017, 15:05 PM   5030
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Lite - Hopefully DD1 keeps up the good behavior for you! Two children is hard, but I'm finding it gets easier. It's hard when O wants something, but I'm too busy with T. It's not bad for him to learn to wait, though. It's just frustrating when he gets so incredibly upset over it.

I'd be mortified to change my child in a busy public restroom! I know O would NEVER behave through something like that. Thankfully O hardly EVER poops when he's out of his comfort areas.

That nap sounds amazing! I could try to take one right now, but I won't. I haven't taken a nap in a long time. I find that if I do I have more issues sleeping at night.

Hopefully your weekend goes smoothly and it isn't too exhausting. I wouldn't be looking forward to it either. I hate when I'm super busy kids or not.

I hope a short walk goes well for you! I don't know how long O would listen if I made him hold my hand. He listens really well for walking out to the car and what not, but I don't think a longer period would last very long.


Sooo.. our offer got accepted!! I'm so excited and nervous at the same time! I can't believe we actually got it! DH doesn't know yet since I told him I wouldn't wake him up early knowing he wouldn't be able to go back to sleep. Closing date was set on May 5th and I honestly want to start packing now. I'm kind of hoping we can get away with only paying half a month of rent. Going to get a hold of the owner sometime soon and talk to him and see if we'll be getting our deposit back. Or if we can just use our deposit (if he is giving it back) to pay the final month. We SHOULD get it back and I'm sure knowing him he'll let us have it. He's such a super nice guy! He has two boys as well and they're both similar age to our sons. They'd be going to school together if we stayed here. I am kind of sad that we'll be moving away from this town, but I have so many more job options now. I'm actually looking to apply somewhere else soon, but need to get some things situated first. This next month is probably going to seem slow.



 
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