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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 11:31 AM   5171
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Remember me? I'm back to work now after my maternity leave. I hate the US maternity leave I wish it were longer.

We have a nanny staying with Emi while I work. She has been doing well, sleep is pretty good. She will be 6 months old next month. She smiles and babbles away, is almost rolling over. She eats cereal and in a few weeks will start some regular foods too. I am so in love with her, I love watching her grown and learn.

I'm trying to catch up and read, hopefully with work I get more computer time and time to join in again.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 18:24 PM   5172
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Danser! Great to hear from you! So pleased Emi is doing well. Totally agree about sorry maternity leave - it is awful. So wish I had had more time at home too.



 
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Old Apr 19th, 2017, 23:27 PM   5173
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Thank you ladies for all the compliments on the picture of L! I definitely know how lucky we are to have a good sleeper, from what my dad tells me I was the same way (still am ha!) so I assume she got it from me. The 4 month sleep regression will be extra hard on me if it's worse than how she was as a newborn!
I did read back on everything I missed but only have a few mins so will reply to today's posts-I apologize ahead of time, for the short and crappy post!! I'm going to try to do better about coming on more often!

Slammer- very sweet of you to let dh take a nice long nap! Hopefully he felt nice and refreshed/renergized after!

Danser- of course we remember you! Our maternity is definitely crap, I'm sorry you're hating being back to work. Holy moly, I can't believe she is about to be 6 months. So glad you are both doing well, we would love to have you join in as regularly as you can!



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2017, 04:21 AM   5174
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apple- that is a funny story about your ds, thanks for sharing. We do tummy time maybe once a day.

slammer- Glad work was ok, its funny how you sent your dh to bed haha. You did a lot there with sorting dinner , taking dd to dance class etc. good work!



ali- isa is 4 months on sunday, we want to start introducing some solids soon, just a little bit

pomp- that does sound like a growth spurt! im so glad DD got into the school of your choice, you must be so proud

danser- SO nice to hear from you!! Glad Emi is doing so well.

afm- been doing a routine with Isa this week. His naps are still 30 mins but i have just accepted it haha. But he has a feed every 3 hours, and then some playtime before he gets tired. I put him in the crib for all naps. I am hopin the naps lengthen. We are going to get a mobile for his crib, maybe that will help him fall back to sleep.

going to visit a friend later with Isa, really looking forward to it as i have hardly been out the house and im getting cabin fever.



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2017, 07:05 AM   5175
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danser - welcome back! That's crazy Emi is almost 6 months old! So glad to hear she is thriving now. I'm just back to work after only 12 weeks off. The US sucks!

Vrogers - I was a terrible sleeper according to my parents, so I suppose it's karma for me to get bad sleepers in my children. Womp womp.

Ally - enjoy your visit with a friend! It's good to get out when you can.

AFM - DH and Jack had a good day yesterday. Drank his bottles easily and dropped off to sleep easily with a little bouncing. DD put up a fight about taking bottles for a couple months - she would take them, but not without some struggle, so it's nice to have Jack take them easier now that he's used to it. DH even took him out to Costco and bought groceries, so a successful day. And he was apparently not too bad in the car, so woop! God, I would be sooooo grateful and happy if he is finally getting used to the car!

DH is covering for someone tonight at work, but will have Sunday off in exchange. Maybe we can do something fun as a family on Sunday!



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2017, 13:37 PM   5176
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Ally - I won't be introducing solids until the recommended 6 months either. Like Pompey, I find solids a HUGE hassle. It's actually my least favourite part of the baby phase. But I hope introducing some solids goes well for you.

Ali - how are you doing? Are you still feeling pretty down?

Apple - Violet hardly gets any tummy time. I don't have much time for it anyway, but whenever I put her on her tummy, she just rolls onto her back..so there's really no way for me to 'force' her to have it anymore.

That's interesting Baby Led Weaning didn't go well for you. I ended up doing a combo with my dd1. I would feed her a bit of puree, and then let her play with/self feed some finger foods as well. It worked okay for me. I was stressing about her not getting ANYTHING at first, so the bit of purees for a bit set my mind at ease.


Slammer - It's definitely way harder the second time around, and there isn't the luxury of sitting around the entire day and lounging (which I did enjoy)!
That is good Jack will at least take the carrier (although I know it's not that comfortable to wear all the time). Violet loved my wrap at first, but now she will not stay asleep in it. I'll pace the house for what feels like an hour for her to finally nod off, and then if I break my constant march back and forth through the house, she instantly wakes up and is done for. So frustrating! So wearing her is now off the table for me. I am looking forward to when she is old enough for my Ergo. I have a feeling it will be a bit comfier for her to have her arms and legs free, and perhaps she'll tolerate it for longer periods then. I'm sorry your poor back and neck are so sore from the carrier. It is a shame you aren't able to treasure Jack's babyhood like you did with dd1. Perhaps you'll find that the older baby stage (6 mo+) is a lot more enjoyable and you'll be able to treasure it! Who knows.

That would be hard to hear everything going on while you're trying to work! I'm so glad your dh's day went well yesterday! Woohoo! That's awesome if Jack at least takes a bottle better than your dd ever did. There had to be SOMETHING about him that was easier than her. I hope you're able to do something fun as a family on Sunday.

I'm glad the adult conversation at work was nice. I definitely find that to be a perk of working (that, and finishing a cup of coffee while it's still hot)! I mostly prefer to be home, though.

Pompey - I also find introducing solids time consuming and messy. What a chore! I took ages to give my dd1 a full 3 meals because I just couldn't be bothered. After all, "food before 1 is just for fun"...or so they say...so I took advantage of that while I could.

Sorry Jamie was cranky the other day. I'm happy for you that Annabella got into the school you wanted! That is so crazy she will be in school soon. I often sit and feel a bit sad to think dd1 will be in school in a few years. They grow up way too quickly.

Danser - Of course we remember you! I'm so happy you were able to check in. That is absolutely tragic that your maternity leave is over and that you are feeling sad about being back at work. I can't even imagine going back so soon. I sure hope things turn around in the US soon and that you'll be able to get longer maternity leaves. I can't believe Emi is already close to 6 months! Wow, that went fast! Sounds like she's doing just great! That's nice you have a nanny! I hope she is working out well.

Vrogers - That definitely sounds like L got her love of sleep from you! The funny thing is, I don't know where my kids got to be such bad sleepers. I have always loved sleep. As a baby, I slept through the night at 3 weeks old! I have continued to love sleep my entire life, and have always needed more than average to feel well rested. Not sure why my babies are such sleep haters (well, to be fair, Violet does need a fair amount of sleep, but just has to be attached to me to be able to do it). DH wasn't a bad sleeper either, so it doesn't make much sense.
I think you mentioned you were in school right now. Have you still be doing courses and studying this whole time? Or did you take a break? I can't imagine doing schoolwork with a baby!

Ally - I'm glad you have a routine going for Isa. Those 30 minute naps sound rough. I do hope they lengthen for you eventually. Do you put him down once he is in deep sleep, or does he fall asleep in his crib? Just curious! Hopefully he will get so used to his crib that his naps will eventually length. I hope you enjoy your visit with your friend. I understand the cabin fever so much!

AFM - Things are going fairly well. On Monday night, Violet gave me a very unpleasant surprise by needing not one, but TWO diaper changes in the middle of the night (I believe the antibiotics bothered her tummy a little bit). The first one was at 2 am, and I ended up being awake for 5 HOURS STRAIGHT after that! Goodness, I hate that I am so prone to insomnia. Anyway, I finally fell back asleep after that, so when my alarm went off to get ready for my fitness class, I just kept pressing snooze until it was 5 minutes before I should have been leaving for the class. Needless to say, I skipped class that day. Felt like quite a failure because of it, and regretted it immediately because my dd1 woke up right after I cancelled. I probably should have just gotten ready really quickly and gone 20 minutes late.

DH and I took the girls for a nice walk to the park last night, and dd1 had a grand ole time running around there. Things seem to be going more smoothly these days, and I feel less stressed in general even though Violet is more and more dependent on me for sleep. I do find she is getting slightly more predictable with her naps. They are still all over the place, but she seems to be taking only 4 naps, and then stays awake a good 2 hours before bed, which is actually easier and more manageable for me.

This afternoon we are going to my friend's house and going to take the kids outside to play. We are hoping they will just run around and let us sit and relax!



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2017, 23:31 PM   5177
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Work was work. Tired and sore which is the normal. I think I hurt from more than just co sleeping. I think our bed is junk. Waiting to get a new one so we can get a really good one. Plus with my back and hips out of alignment I'm sure it doesn't help. Whine whine!

Went and looked at a daycare center today. It will be waaay too much. Basically if I used them to work full time.. I'd lose that money to daycare so instead I'm talking to a lady that is open every day of the week. Hoping she is a perfect fit for us. Will only cost a half of day's worth of work if we need her for 3 days. We should only need her for three days every other week at most. So, much more affordable! I did really like the director and everything at the center. O really liked it there. It's not worth the money, though. I need more money in my pockets (ha more like for bills!). Our debt is too high from both of us going to school and then we have a car payment, soon a house payment. DH's credit card isn't bad, but I want to get it down a little. Which won't take much.

The appraisal on the house will come through tomorrow. Bit nervous about that.

Appears that O's hands have cleared. Mine have not.

T is doing well. Had a massive blow out on the mamaroo. I JUST cleaned it. So glad it cleans really well! I was worried since it has a lot of white. The fabric must be pretty stain resistant because it all comes out.

Both boys are asleep so I'm going to try to reply and catch up best I can.

Lite - I'm feeling alright. Still not the best, but I'm trying to get a grip on it. Thanks for asking. Life just needs to chill out for awhile so I can recollect. At least it isn't from the boys but I feel it affects how I handle them. Definitely haven't felt like mother of the year. I'm too quick to snap again. I hate it.

I'm sorry about the insomnia. It always hits me when I have to work. I generally don't even get 5 hours of sleep before I have to work. Glad you got to get out and enjoy a walk. I really need to start taking the boys.

Slammer - Glad your DH had a decent day with Jack. I wish T would get better. My DH says he must sense when I get home because he stops crying every time I come home so I never see it.

Ally - T has a mobile in his crib. He likes it but hasn't helped him fall asleep yet. I try to run it while I'm putting him to sleep (the music or sounds) so that when he lays down it's still going and maybe he will transition easier. It does help get him ready for sleep, though.

I'm kind of excited to introduce solids. I don't know why. I guess I'm hoping it will make DH's days a little easier. I expect him to still take awhile to really take to food.

Danser - I think about you often! I know I haven't messaged you in awhile. I was thinking not too long ago about how you almost have a 6 month old! Emi sounds like she's doing so well! Definitely sounds like she's where she should be! I know premature babies can sometimes take awhile to catch up to their similar age group, but it sounds like she'll be pretty close and catch up sooner rather than later! So glad you posted!

Slammer - Ha! I do think everyone expects to hear the whole "Yes she/he's the perfect baby!" and just expect the usual exhaustion etc. I've had so many people ask if he sleeps through the night. I'm always baffled that they would even think it's a thing at this age. I don't even feel it's possible because I know I'd never get that lucky!

Those talking about school.. I totally forgot that O could start 3 year old preschool this year. Oh well.. I'm not even moved yet. I don't know. I guess I could look into it.

Pomp - It's always stressful out there! Oh well, it is what it is.

Sorry if I missed something big. I really need to get off and get to bed. Going to try to move T to his crib. He doesn't have long sleeves on so hoping he doesn't get too cold. If he does he'll definitely be in bed with me.



 
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Old Apr 21st, 2017, 00:23 AM   5178
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Ally- ugh I'm sorry about the 30 min naps! L has days where she won't nap longer than 30 min but she generally takes longer naps, seems like it depends on how early she woke up and how well she slept and whatnot.
Hopefully the mobile helps!
Also hope you have a fun time with your friend

Slammer- hopefully the sleeping gets better as they get a little older! teenage years I'm sure...seems so far off haha
Yay for having Sunday off, you guys should definitely do something fun!
Im glad to hear the car rides are getting better, maybe there's a light at the end of the tunnel for us...I've tried toys hanging on the seat where she can see, a mirror, all kinds of diff music, white noise, paci, nothing really helps.

Literati- it's weird how the sleep thing works! Seems like most babies take awhile to sleep through the night. I'm nervous if we have a second because L has been such a good sleeper that she's set a high standard ha!
I am still taking classes, I regret not taking this semester off but am definitely taking summer off when I normally take a class or two over summer. I end up just doing my classes on Sunday's since weeknights are so hectic.
I don't blame you for skipping the class. Sleep is important too!
So glad you are feeling more confident as everyone settles into a routine! Slowly getting "easier" here too. It really does take time to adjust to a new family member, they change everything and just flip things all around.

Ali- I'm sorry you're so sore, that makes everything all the more difficult! I don't blame you for not going with the more expensive daycare-it's hard when you want the best possible care for your babies but then that means even more money. I hope you find the perfect affordable fit!
Good luck on appraisal, let us know how it goes!
Gotta love blowouts. We don't have any extra fabric on our mamaroo so seems like it'd be a pain to clean.

Since we've mentioned solids, and I know I'll talk to her ped about this when it comes up, but dumb question...when you introduce solids do you do less formula/breastmilk, and how would you know how much less? I was wondering that recently!



 
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Old Apr 21st, 2017, 08:59 AM   5179
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Literati - omg that sucks about V and the wrap. Jack does that sometimes too - I dare to stop for a minute to try to eat or drink something and he starts fussing again! I have an Ergo too that I'm waiting for Jack to grow a bit more to fit into. He fits well in my Beco though. A Mei Tai is highly adjustable and cheaper if you want to try something that would let her arms and legs be out. I just pulled mine out for the first time in a while last night and was surprised how comfy it was for a change from the Beco.

I know, right? Jack HAS to be easier in some tiny respect! Come on baby, show me what you can do! lol

I definitely would rather have an extended maternity leave if I could!

Oh, that is rough that you were up so longer after changing V in the night! I would have totally skipped the exercise class too!

Glad things are getting a bit smoother and V is becoming more predictable!

AliJo - I bet the combo of work, co-sleeping, and a bad mattress has you very sore! I hope you get a good mattress soon. I don't even know what kind of mattress I need. I'm always uncomfortable no matter what kind it is. We have soft memory foam. DH would prefer a firm mattress but I ache soooo bad if I sleep on a hard bed.

Daycare centers are expensive for sure. I'm glad you have another option that will work instead.

I know, it's lame how people always ask about sleep. Though really, what else is there to ask about a baby? All they really do is eat and sleep and fuss, so....yeah. lol. But yeah I feel bad that I'm not just gushing about how wonderful he is and how much I love him. I'm too honest I guess!

Vrogers - ugh, that sucks you've tried so many things for L in the car with no success. Honestly I haven't tried much, lol. He doesn't take a paci all that well, definitely not well enough to keep it in his mouth for any length of time on his own.

No, you don't reduce breastmilk or formula when you start solids. Solids should supplement, not replace their milk. Always offer milk/formula first until 1 year old.

AFM - DH's day was harder yesterday. I guess that's how it is, no two days will be alike. I'm "working from home" today. I got up later and have handled Jack for a couple hours while DH rested on the couch and half took care of DD. Honestly I don't have enough work to do, so I can get away with messing around for a while.It's hard to make myself do work when I'm at home, lol. Now I have Jack strapped to me sleeping while I type this and DH is taking DD to daycare.

Oh, forgot to mention Jack has been in size 3 diapers for a couple weeks now! Such a big boy.

We slept in the bed for the first time in a few nights last night. It was nice. I think my milk supply is finally settling down a bit. It was often too much for him to be able to nurse laying down because he'd be drowning. Last night I was able to nurse him each time he woke while laying down without him choking or spitting up. That makes a big improvment to my nights!



 
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Old Apr 21st, 2017, 13:12 PM   5180
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Slammer - T has gone through a whole box of 3s already and is on his second. He loads them fairly quickly but they still fit well so he's not quite ready for 4s but I think next box will be 4s.

Glad you're able to nurse laying down! Seriously is one of the best ways to nurse in my opinion. Don't have to hold them and can relax a bit.

Yeah I guess there isn't much to ask. But they always ask if he's sleeping through the night. I just stare at them a minute and say "I wish" ha. The lady at work who has a baby a couple days younger than T sleeps most of the night. She's not as alert as T, though.

Full time at the daycare center would have been 345 dollars. If DH steps up once more it would be fine. Still expensive bit we could justify it to an extent. But I'll only be paying 60 - 120 a week with this lady.

Vrogers - What slammer said is right. Although, once O hit 6 months he was being fed solids before breastfeeding or bottle. He never refused the milk or ate less when I did that. Doesn't mean T will be the same. O had a good routine at that time.

No news on the house yet.

T took a 1.5 hour nap in the pack n play. That was a first. I think it helped that O and I played in his room.

T also rolled back to belly today! He also hasn't been wanting to roll belly to back so I tried tummy time and he flipped over instantly so I guess he's just bring lazy when he won't do it and just screams.



 
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