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Old Jul 15th, 2017, 01:37 AM   1381
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I've just had my midwife appointment today and am going for a scan next week to determine why I'm measuring at 34 weeks. There is no way I'm that far along. My midwife is suspecting excessive fluid but I think he is just a big boy, especially based on my previous children. All of them were large for dates. If he is big, I can only hope that he comes a bit early. I'm really nervous though.



 
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Old Jul 15th, 2017, 05:44 AM   1382
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I do t know how to add photos on here, so have never posted any. Only on facebook



 
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Old Jul 15th, 2017, 22:35 PM   1383
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Lovely photos!

A few people have told me I've dropped this week. I don't really see it but that makes me worried. I hope not. Or if I have, I hope that doesn't necessarily mean anything?? I vaguely remember people telling me the same this early with my son and I still went to the end, so I'm hoping that's just how I carry? Again, I don't really see it but more than one person has mentioned it. Trying not to over analyze but it's so hard.



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Old Jul 16th, 2017, 11:55 AM   1384
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I bet it's just baby settling into position, which is great at this point. I wouldn't worry about early labor based on that.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 10:03 AM   1385
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So.. Callie is out. Wah waaaahh. Back to the drawing board!

We had our birthing class this weekend. I'm SUPER nervous for labor. I mean, I know it's going to be ok and it'll be a once in a lifetime experience that I'll carry with me always.. but it's also going to totally suck. haha (in a good way, of course)

All looks good on the baby front, though! Crazy to think I'm only going to have one more growth scan with her. I feel like we're really starting to get to the beginning of the end.

As for me - my hormones are out. of. control. I was a mad woman this weekend! So sensitive and emotional and easy to overwhelm.. I cried.. too many times. Doesn't help that Peanut has been an angry elf most of the weekend. I think it's part this tooth that is working it's way in and part that she can't crawl but desperately wants to. As my wife said "she's a growing baby.. you're growing a baby.. that's a lot to manage!" haha. She's been an unbelievable rock for me, though. I so appreciate it and couldn't imagine getting through this without her.

33 weeks! 7 to go!



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 12:24 PM   1386
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Oh no, what happened to Callie? Naming babies is so hard!

How old is Peanut? There's a reason we waited until Teddy was almost 2, I can't handle a baby while pregnant! I'll be so nice for Peanut and Not Callie to be close in age, though. I think sometimes the only thing that keeps me cheerful through all the third trimester discomfort is thinking about my nephew who was born at 28 weeks - he's almost 4 and doing great now, but seeing the alternative to all the third trimester woe puts it into perspective for me. But I have to admit it also helps that I'm not dealing with any truly awful symptoms.

We met our doula yesterday and really liked her! We went through a low cost organization so we didn't get to choose, so there's always a risk you won't really connect. I'm nervous about birth, but I'm trying to build up my confidence. I made it through 12 hours of active back labor before the epidural with Teddy, and I'm hopeful that since this one has a posterior placenta and I'm paying more attention to position it'll be normal labor this time, and faster because she's my second. So it has to be easier, right?? I hope so...



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 12:57 PM   1387
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What do you mean you're paying attention to position? I know there's head down vs. breech - but is there anything we can do to encourage them to be facing the right direction at this point? I assumed that was out of control.

lol to "Not Callie". Perhaps that's what we should call her? Peanut is 9 months in two days. We decided to start ttc again before we were placed with her - so while this was obviously a "planned" pregnancy (in that, we were working with an RE so it was an intentional try), we had unsuccessfully tried for several years AND have had three other placements that all ended in reunification so.. we certainly weren't expecting to both have the opportunity to adopt a child and become pregnant at close to the same time. Oh life and your tricky curve balls!

That said, I'm excited to have two kids be super close in age. I think the first year or so will be pretty tough, but it will be awesome to watch their relationship as they grow together.

We just found a conflict with Callie that was too much to overlook. Pretty bummed.. we both really liked the name.

So great that you like your doula! I can imagine there would be a lot of nerves going into that meeting, as this person is going to be with you during a fairly intimate experience. Are people inviting others into the delivery room? I was considering inviting my mom, but I think I'm going to stick with just my wife. Haven't completely decided yet, though.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 14:16 PM   1388
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Ideally baby will be facing your back at birth - Teddy was sunny side up (facing my front), which is more common with anterior placentas, and it's often a factor in back labor, which can be more painful and more likely to take longer and stall. It's more common for them to be facing backwards but small things like watching your posture, sleeping in certain positions, and so on can increase your chances - basically our modern lifestyles tend to put us in less natural positions as we go about our lives, which makes it harder for babies to settle into the pelvis in some cases. My doula said she'd send me some specifics on encouraging baby to get into position, but I do think she's mostly facing the right way even when she's still transverse.

It's amazing how life throws things at you all at once, isn't it? The first year will be hard but I'm sure it will pay off in the end. Hopefully all goes well with the adoption and they end up best friends. You'll be at an advantage since Peanut hasn't had years to get used to being your one and only, at least.

I'm having DH, the doula, and necessary medical staff. That's it. Even the doula we really weighed the pros and cons for both births. We're both introverts and I don't like to be vulnerable in front of people, but in the end it made sense to have that extra expert support if I want a med-free birth. My mom would be way more stress than I want so I'm grateful that she never pushed to be involved. She wants to be kept in the loop, which is fine with me, but I don't want a party in the delivery room. I figure it's easier to invite people during labor if I change my mind than to disinvite them. Having been through it before, my advice is to only invite people who you actively want there.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 15:47 PM   1389
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Yea - that's how I'm leaning as well. I'm close with my mom, but there's just this level of comfort that I have with my wife that can't be rivaled. I want to be able to feel free to go to my most vulnerable, if I need to, which is something I truly can only do with her.

I'd love to hear some of those suggested positioning, when you get them from your doula! For all the growth scans I've had I've never thought to ask if she's forward or rear facing.

And yes - it's nice that we don't have to worry about preparing Peanut for a new baby. She's actually at the age where she's super into other babies, so I think she'll end up loving having another baby around. ...I hope.



 
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Old Jul 17th, 2017, 16:05 PM   1390
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I'll let you know what I find out for sure. A lot of babies don't turn until labor, though, so I wouldn't stress too much about it. It only worries me so much because I've been through back labor and because I really want to go natural this time. I think you said you were more open to an epidural, right?

Comfort is so important. When I was really struggling with Teddy, there were a few times we asked everyone to leave for a bit, even the doula, so I could just process things and decide how to move forward with just DH. We made sure our doula this time knew it was a possibility that we'd ask her to go get herself a coffee or something if we needed some time.



 
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