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Old Jun 11th, 2018, 12:17 PM   1471
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Nita, my mother is just the same! She gets upset when I don't take her advice and says I should believe her, she raised three children after all She will also keep suggesting whatever I reject on a daily basis.

The last two days I did every second feed without the shields, today I tried the whole day without it (still use them at night though, just too tired to try forever to latch her at 4 am!). It seemed to be going okay but now she has been crying for an hour straight *sigh* It's the worst when nothing calms her and then I'm tempted to just continually feed her so she's quiet, but if I do, she seems to get tummy aches after and it's worse.



 
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Old Jun 11th, 2018, 13:08 PM   1472
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Fluffy, to be honest with you something just doesnt seem right, and I am by no means an expert, but by this time you shouldnt have to use nipple shields and be in so much pain. Have you considered pumping and bottle feeding your breast milk?? Sorry, wish I had other advice, based on my experience and what I have heard, something doesnt sound right. I honestly think you shoukd have gotten more support after she was born.

How is the CS wound recovering?



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 01:23 AM   1473
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Since the crappy midwife didn't help me at first, my nipples got *really* bad in the first week of feeding and I had to use the shields for them to heal after. That took three weeks, that's how bad they were. Combined with her weight gain issues and supplementing with formula, I've only now been able to try feeding without shields again, so I'm basically starting from zero. I've had a lactation consultant come in and I hope with her help, I will get away from the nipple shields! She said I could feed with them for months though if I needed to, so trying not to worry about it too much. I considered pumping (and was doing that for a while in the beginning when she was too weak to drink properly), but it's a lot more hassle than just feeding with nipple shields which has been going fairly well now I think. They are a bit of a hassle themselves with sterilising and you haveto take them everywhere, but less.

The wound has healed fairly well I'd say, just the scar now and obviously lack of core muscle to watch out for.



 
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Old Jun 12th, 2018, 01:37 AM   1474
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I fed with nipple shields as well, especially in those first 2-3 weeks when my nipples were bleeding and so sore. And I get what you say, they are a hassle, and honestly I didnt always sterilize them... maybe after 2 or 3 feeds, I soon gave up on those and luckily after that I could feed without them. I really hope you get the support you need now from the lactation consultant. Hopefully if her latch is correct you wont hurt anymore.


Glad the wound is healing well, I am almost 8 months PP and my scar still itches some times and I still get pins and needles sometimes, but the scar is almost gone now


Post some pictures of your little one, if you can.



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2018, 03:57 AM   1475
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Breastfeeding still isn't working well (cracked and sore nipples again now without the shields, even though the LC said she's latching right..) Hoping it will still get better as I've only been off the shields for 5 days now.

Can you ladies recap your feeding journeys for me? I'm looking for some honest stories rather than the "breastfeeding is so beautiful and easy" ones I keep reading online *sigh* Also, when did you all start solids? Here, most people say at 6+ months and then only a little, not fully until they are 12 months old. That seems like a terribly long time to me right now, I've barely made it to 7 weeks Am planning to bring it up at my next pediatrician appointment, she'll be 14 weeks old by then and I'm kinda hoping they'll say I can start when she is 4-5 months old X)



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2018, 06:17 AM   1476
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Fluffy, I jist want to say, if BFing isnt working, dont feel obligated to continue, there are alternatives!

We started solids at 3.5 months, the pead confirmed then that she is ready! But to be completely honest, you make her milk/feedings less until after 6 months. Liezl still got all her milk, and had some cereal in the morning and a few spoons of veggies. Only after 6 months we incresed her meals to 3 times a day and making her bottles less to 4 bottles a day, as they recomended.



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2018, 07:08 AM   1477
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I remember reading (it's all a bit foggy now ^^") you breastfed initially and then bottle fed - can you tell me a bit about that, too? If you don't mind me asking, why did you start giving Liezl solids if she still needs the full amount of milk until 6 months anyway? I thought solids replace some of the milk, little by little?



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2018, 09:09 AM   1478
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I breastfed and then a few weeks before she started school i gave some formule, the idea was to breastfed at night and formule during the day but after a few days she refused the breast, wanting the bottle only, about 2 or 3 days later my breastmilk dissapeared.

In the beginning you give very little bits of food, they play with it and spit it out, its not enough to replace any milk, its mostly to get them used to different tastes.



 
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Old Jun 19th, 2018, 19:46 PM   1479
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Fluffy, omg I can't believe what you and your little one have been through!!! So glad you are both ok!

As far as bf'ing, personally I don't know anyone who can say it was easy. I couldn't get my girl to latch without a nipple shield either at first. And then when I did it was so painful I had to go back to it occasionally just to get through. I don't use a nipple shield anymore, but I have been battling a new problem now for far too long; THRUSH. It makes bf'ing a totally new kind of painful. Totally feels like my little one has teeth already! While it doesn't even begin to compare to what you went through, you are right that those "beautiful" breastfeeding stories and not as common as we might think. I had some serious bleeding 1-2 weeks after Sofia was born. Like instantaneous pad soak and running down both legs. Doc couldn't find anything wrong, but did say my bloodwork showed signs of infection, and put me on an antibiotic to be safe. My suspicion is that the antibiotic made me more susceptible to the thrush. I have been on two rounds of a pill to try to kick it, have been using nystatin cream, and both little one and I have had a round each of nystatin oral solution. Still haven't kicked it. Going back to her pediatrician tomorrow, but not sure what it would take at this point.

Hope everyone else is doing well! Hang in there Fluffy! Missed you, glad to have you back!



 
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Old Jun 20th, 2018, 03:01 AM   1480
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@Nita
Thank you for sharing your bf story and that makes sense, I kinda just assumed they would eat the bits you give them straight away without needing to get used to it, haha

@Lucy
and thanks to you too! Right? Why do we always hear that it's so easy and natural, and then when you ask actual people, few had it "just happen"? (medical background) Yes antibiotics make you more susceptible to thrush - poor you! A different medication might well do the tritck, but you should also consider treating hubby too because it can be passed through all three of you if you're unlucky. Also check in with your gynecologist, they are often better at treating thrush than pediatricians. I've heard it's really painful, I hope you kick it soon!
awww, thank you, I've missed being here too!

I've started seeing a counsellor yesterday and the first session was pretty good I think - cried loads. My lactation consultant is coming again on Friday to check that the latch is better (and hopefully actually good now, pleasepleaseplease), the nipples have not been getting worse, possibly actually better now. Definitely bleeding less.

...and then my in-laws are coming from the UK this weekend. AHHHHHHHHHH X)



 
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